what age do you take away dc's comfort object?

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or do you leave them to it till they give it up on their own?

why would you take it away?

DS still has his at nearly 4, but he isn't allowed to take it out of his bedroom (in case it gets lost/dirty/torn etc, but really to try and wean him off it)

I wouldn't. What for? Presumably they won't be walking around with their blanky/teddy at 10?

I never took any of mines away, and their need for it has just lessened. My DS1's was a Ty cheetah (which we had three of at one point) and it still lives in/around his bed and he's nearly 9.
DD, 3, has never had a particular favourite, but switches between four or five different "cuddlies"
DS2 is only 2 and very much attached to his "Big Ahhh" at the hip.

I'd leave them to it. I sucked my finger until I fell pregnant at the grand old age of 32, I'm afraid. Maybe in front of peers they might feel the need to have it less on display, but imho if it gives them comfort, and they're not ashamed of it, where's the harm?

Take away? Why? I don't let mine take their favourite bear/lions out to the supermarket; they stay at home in their rooms. But what's the harm in them having a comfort toy? I kept my teddies well into my teens!

Why do you need to? DS2 has the imaginatively named 'Bear Bear' who he still sleeps with/wants when he's ill. He's 7 and a half.

My ds1 is 5. He still sucks a muslin at night. I don't think I'll take it away till he goes away with friends/ sleepover. (I wouldn't want him to get mercilessly teased). And they will probably stay up till a ridiculous time messing around and he won't miss it.

But my twins are 2.3 and dh is on the case to take their thumbs away . I'm not really on their case, but he says it is ruining their teeth. So the poor little things have that nail bite stuff all over their thumbs. I class that as taking away a comfort object .

Never but it stays in the bedroom or in the house depending on what it is - teddy in the house, but if it was a dummy/blankie etc in the bedroom for bedtime.

I took my elephant to university. I gave him up when I found my DH.

Favorite teddies, lovies etc I just left with them until they decided they did not want them anymore - or just started ignoring them.

DS1 however was informed that the dummy fairy would leave him a present in return for his dummy at the age of 4. Years.

Dummies would be gone at a few months so not an issue - but if it was, ASAP to the Dummy Fairy.

actually I lie! I still have my elephant and get very twitchy if my DC want to play with him. He is still very special to me.

BUT I don't sleep with him anymore.

My DD has never had a specific toy/object at home but got very attached to one specific toy at nursery. I mentioned this to the staff as I was slightly concerned about this, and they were very relaxed about it, their attitude was 'if it comforts the child, then that's a good thing' - I hadn't thought about it like that before.

We are trying to have the dummy battle at the minute, leaving it for bedtime/sleep only. DS2 isn't playing ball though

I wouldn't worry about sleepovers either tbh, my eldest DD is 13 and some of her friends still bring cuddlies when they come to sleep over. And when they go on primary school residentials they are told to bring a teddy with them.
BTW my mum took my cuddly away when I was four. I still throw it up at her on occasion. And I am now, er, 46.

MaeMobley - my DP (forty something) still has 'puppy' which our DD loves, its in her room now, but DP gets very protective if he gets slightly manhandled! Puppy is a little fragile.

DS1 was told his dummies had worn out and we didn't have any money left to buy new ones when he was two. (It worked but if it hadn't we would have given them back until he was ready to stop)

DD1 sucked her thumb until secondary school and then stopped. She was ready.

DS2 had a muslin that he sucked until he was 8. We went camping with friends with older boys and he never touched his muslins again. He was ready

Oh good. Glad ds1 isn't the only muslin sucker. I think it will be something like that which stops it, going to camp.

lol I did think you lot would say that! my ds is still a bubba at the ripe old age of 16m!!

BUT he has had this manky blanket stuck to him since he was about 5months and its vile!! It looks gross and no amount of washing will fix it, I've tried buying the EXACT same blanket but he wont have any of it and will throw a wobbly if his manky one is more than arms reach away. I drop him off at nursery and cringe having to hand him over with this gross mass stuck to him!!!

Am i being harsh? :(

DS1 had a sleepover for his last birthday (10th). Before his pals arrived, I gently said that maybe he shouldn't wear his favourite jammies (fleece and covered in teddy bears ). His friends (three of them) all bought various comfort objects, including Mr. Monkey, Blankety Blanket and a decidedly phallic looking worm I was quite pleased to be proved wrong, tbh :)

Yes
He doesn't see manky.
The nursery won't mind.

Aw, leave him to his manky blanket

merry - what does your dentist say? There are different schools of thought about thumb sucking and whether it does in fact have any effect on teeth. If you aren't happy trying to stop your dds sucking their thumbs, but dh is making a fuss about it, then I'd go and ask your dentist and see what he or she advises.

I haven't. DS is 10. He takes it to sleepovers too.

DD has never had one.

DNephew took his with him to university.