what age do you take away dc's comfort object?

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or do you leave them to it till they give it up on their own?

MankyBlanky wouldn't be allowed out of the bedroom.

I have a friend in her late 30's who has never spent a night without her mankyblanky ever ... you'd never know, she seems perfectly normal otherwise

Let him have his blanket, you would be mean not to. Nursery don't (or at least shouldn't) care.

In answer to the original question..NEVER. Unless it is a dummy (which we all live to regret in the end). Your child will learn to be independent of its comforter. the best thing I would reccomend is to encourage lesser use, leva it on the bed, for sleep/sad times etc. Why take it away? why even think about it? PLease dont succombe to pressure. xx

My DS is only 15 months but I intend to let him keep his comforter cuddly forever if he likes! We've got 6 the same, as they get manky very quickly, and he doesn't seem to mind which one he has. Sometimes we'll put a few infront of him (they're all the same) and he'll try and pick them all up and stuff them in his mouth, awwwwww.
But, somehow nursery have managed to get him to nap without it. I have no idea how they do it and have no intention of trying that at home. Last night he started screaming about an hour after he'd gone to bed and it was all because his comforter had dropped out of his cot.

If he still needs it at 30, then so be it!

I still have all of mine, and sleep with teddies.
I;m perfectly normal and grown up (and single ) in every other way, but I like my cuddlies, and I have a ribbon I twiddle round my fingers constantly.

I don't sleep with teddies when entertaining though

Nursery seem alright about it..its me!!

It wouldnt be so bad if it was only a nap/bed time thing(only I would see it) but it has to be next to him 24/7

I had a feeling every one would say leave him to it, a girl can hope eh!!

Thank you tho, this is my 1st ever post to get 2 pages wooo!!!

when ds was 3 i was advised by speech therepist to take away dummy,it was hard for about a week but we suceeded.he also has a skanky blanket which is actually a juniour quilt and is huge,hes 5 now and gradually using it less and less,god send when he ill,tired or upset so ill never take it away.so heartbreakin taking the dummy away

when ds was 3 i was advised by speech therepist to take away dummy,it was hard for about a week but we suceeded.he also has a skanky blanket which is actually a juniour quilt and is huge,hes 5 now and gradually using it less and less,god send when he ill,tired or upset so ill never take it away.so heartbreakin taking the dummy away

My 9 yo DC still sleeps wih his bear and there is little sign of the bear being made redundant. 2 out of 4 boys on a sleepover party also brought worn, manky stuffed toys to sleep with.

A manky (but clean) blanket for an under 2 yo is fine, you meany!

I'd let him have his mankyblanky at that age. Maybe as he gets a bit older you can try and get him down to sleep times/when he's upset (that's where we're at with DS now - he's 21 months).

I had a mankyblanky until I was about 11 (but only in my bed at night by that point) - this made me realise when DS started using muslins as comfort blankets that we should make them interchangeable to avoid the mankiness so he has a freshly washed one every couple of days rather than being attached to one specific one. Bit late for that now with your DS though [unhelpful emoticon]

I still sleep with Pooh Bear (which GPs bought for me before I was born) in my bed at age 32

Ds (4) has a manky rabbit full of holes and covered in stains. He used to have 2 the same but at some point decided only one was the "right" one. He sucks his thumb and has to have the rabbit in his hand too with a particular bit sticking up and ticking his nose. He says it isn't fluffy without him :). I try to get him to keep it in his room otherwise he spends all day with his thumb stuck in his mouth but he was allowed back downstairs again when ds had chicken pox and we seem to have regressed! Generally though the rabbit stays in bed and he can go snuggle him when he needs to.

Dd (2) has a lion. She has 2 lions which are both accepted but instead of this being wonderful as we can have a spare she insists on having both of them . Aslo sucks thumb and has to have the tail in the hand and ticking her nose. She loves her lions, takes them everywhere, cuddles them, trails them around, feeds them. She is too little I think to be told to keep them in her room.

Miss Piggy went to university with me.
Dizzy the bear went to university with Dbro1
Boopy the bear was hidden after 'booping' too much, but returned later to look after Dbro2.

I still have my comfort blanket and my favourite cuddly toy. The blanket lives in a drawer at my parents' house, I keep it more for sentimentality reasons, but the cuddly cat is made use of every time I'm upset and DH is unavailable.

Oh - and I'm 27...

DH is 48 and still goes to sleep with a hanky on his ear. So what!!!!

ds1 is 9 and still has his special blanket on his bed, though stopped taking it everywhere with him when he was about 4.

ds2 never been interested in having any sort of comforter.

dd is only 1 but has a variety of snuggly things which she is very attached to.

can't see any reason to try to separate them.

Funny this. The thread about the 7yo and the bottle has turned a bit nasty. A lot of double standards about comfort items. I have a 3yo whose comfort item is a bottle and I'm a terrible mother, yet someone who was lucky enough for their child to have a manky blanket is cruel for taking it away.

MakeMe why don't you just gradually get him to leave it in his bed, so he isn't trailing it around all day.

I did this with my DD, I just said "Wouldn't it be awful if we lost it, I think we should keep it in your bed"[bad mother I know]

My DD is now 17 and still has it in her bed! I actually think it's a bit weird, because I never had anything like that, but she would be devastated if she lost it.

Another vote for not bothering. I slept with a cuddly until I was 33, when DD stole it

Gwendoline aren't bottles bad for DCs teeth or something?

lol some of these are really funny!!

I never had a comfort object when i was a wee one so i'm obviously underestimating the power of them!......I WANT ONE TOO!!

And for the record it is manky blanket but it is also clean..I have to wait for dirt bag to go to sleep then steal it off him and wash it, then pray it dries before he wakes up!!

my son has a winnie poo comforter well hes got ten all the same he alaways has one for bed ,takes one to school ,but it gets put in his bag till he gets home we call them mr suckey !!

I'm nearly 45 and still have mine (cuddly dog). Admittedly, I no longer cuddle him and he just lives on a shelf but I won't part with him.

With my DSs, I gradually weaned them off taking theirs out of the house so they were able to start school without them but they still have them at home and I have no intention of ever removing them. They both have teddies so they can assume the status of 'mascots' if they ever start to be embarrassed about having comforters.

Depends what's in the bottles I guess. But it's just that everyone on here agrees that taking a comfort object away would be cruel. On the bottle thread people are using phrases such as 'be a parent, not your child's friend' and the child may be distraught but they'll get over it in a week or so and that the child has the bottle because you allow them to. No one says that about a blanket. Poor little mites.

i really think the teeth/bottles thing is a bit of a red herring - i honestly believe you are either lucky with teeth or unlucky. i am 38, have only 1 filling despite indulging a very sweet tooth. my 40 yr old brother has no fillings. ds1 had a bottle of millk at night til he was 6, and he's got fantastic teeth which he has only lost 4 of at nearly 10. my family clearly has good teeth genes. (i suppose i might worry about the bottles more if i had a child with unusual dental problems)

lol I kn ew we would all be saying NOOO leave him alone

I wouldn't take comfort things form my kids either

dd1 still has 'cushy'....a cushion that her grandma patchworked when she was 1

dd2... thumb

gecko...erm nothing particular but has lots of dogs and bears that she adores and sleeps with at least some of them every night

I think the teeth thing is genetic BUT if someone has bad teeth from sucking a bottle or thimb then they do and woknt want it

the thing is you wont know who will be affected and who noit

and this is from me who sucked her thumb well into teenage years and have no sticking out teeth

and my dd2 is 6 in april and has sucked her thumb from 5 months and she will need braces but they will only do it once she has definitely stopped sucking