Oh god, will A&E report us to social services?? Seriously panicking!

[InjuredBaby]

This afternoon DS (12 weeks) was sat in his bouncer happily gurgling at me on the sofa. Idiot DH decides that this is the time to reposition the coffee table, so instead of going around or asking us to move, he decides to lift it with everything still on it over the top of the baby.

He then yells "look out" as a tealight holder, with a spinning top, comes crashing down on DS's head. DS obviously burst into tears and I tried to take all the bits off of him, until I got to the bit which holds the spinning top, which had landed point down and was stuck in his head.

God I'm shaking typing this, I feel so sick at the thought of it.

I started to panic and pulled the bit out, and his head bled for a couple of minutes while we grabbed everything to take him to hospital.

By the time we got to A&E (where they were brilliant) there was no bleeding and he was giggling and smiling at us all like normal. The dr had a look at the wound and said it wasn't very deep and was over a bony bit (thank God); and then checked him all over and said he was fine and a happy little chap and told us to take him home. Obviously we have to keep an eye on him, but they said he looked absolutely fine, barring the little cut.

Anyway, I was just about calming down when my parents called to ask why we hadn't come by, so I explained what had happened and my mum started yelling all kinds of things along the lines of "how the f did you let that happen?", "what the f were you two playing at?" etc. Now I get that she was worried about the baby, but it wasn't very helpful.

Then she started saying that they would report us to social services, and that we'll be in loads of trouble, and that we'll be investigated etc etc.

I've pretty much been crying ever since, and I've never felt to sick and worried in my life.

Will they investigate us? What on earth do we do? I'm furious with DH, it could have been so much worse, but it was an accident, and he was crying having to explain it to the doctor.

Sorry this is so long, I'm so upset by the whole thing, I don't really know what to do.

I had to take ds2 to hospital a few years ago. We were on holiday at the time and my partner (but not ds2s dad) was with us. He was playing around giving the boys piggy backs etc and ds2 fell awkwardly. We ended up having to call an ambulance as we were in the middle of nowhere in a caravan. Ds2 had some sort of fracture of his arm/wrist and I was expecting social services to investigate (injured by mums boyfriend etc) but we just had a phone call from the health visitor a few weeks later checking that all was well.

I think your mum is quite toxic, is she usually so bratty when she doesn't get her own way?

I very much doubt that a&e will report 1 isolated accident to social services. We usually end up in minor injuries on a monthly basis with dd2 and head injuries a couple requiring stitches (hyper mobility and zero fear don't mix too well) we've not heard from social services yet or the hv.
And once DH dropped the jug of hot gravy over dd1, cue a a&e trip, also no visit or phone call.

I've worked in A&E, don't worry of course they won't report you! The injury was consistent with the story and you presented immediately and both you and baby were behaving normally for circumstances. Dozens and dozens of injuries in children come to every A&E dept every evening - if every one without risk factors were referred to SS they would be saturated within a couple of days. HV may contact you but probably only to give you advice on avoiding injuries in the home. Tell your mum she's being crazy and unhelpful and STFU!!!

Zombie thread

I know this is a zombie thread but, as someone who has been referred to Social Services for injuries to a child by the hospital... You know about it. They tell you they are making the referral, fill in forms with you etc. etc. and the nurses and doctors will probably make it pretty bloody clear they think you are the scum of the earth .

However, it's still important that they refer if they have concerns, to make sure the real abusers don't slip through the net.

OP

Everyone else has been reassuring so I won't repeat that BUT if ds ever has anything stuck in him that is not obviousy just the skin then LEAVE IT THERE.

I know everyone's reaction is to 'put things right' but sometimes you make things worse.