Amazingly tactless things complete strangers say...

[HollyBollyBooBoo]

Whilst pregnant

New potential supplier in meeting at work infront of 5 of my team: '...have you put on much weight? You look asthough you have or were you always that big?'
I'm a size 14 and put on 10lbs during entire pregnancy, needless to say the b!tch didn't get the contract.

With new baby (for info DD has a small birthmark on her right hand)

Old man in supermarket: '...what's that on her hand? Did she burn herself on the stove?'
Me: 'Yes I always let my 8 week old play on the hot stove, gotta start 'em young'

Woman doing a food demo in a up-market foodie place: 'Ah lovely baby. Is she hungry?
Me: No, no she's just had 10oz for her lunch!'
Woman: 'Look she's so hungry she's sucked her hand red raw!'
Me: 'No it's a birthmark' (turn on heel and walk off in disgust)

Feeding 5 week old DD a bottle of formula in TK Maxx to prevent her crying her eyes out.
Old man approaches; 'Is that breast milk?'
Me: 'No, formula'
Old man: 'My wife had 5 children and breastfed each one of them for the first year of their lives, so much better for them and cheaper than that stuff'
Me: Cry my eyes out for failing to suceed at breastfeeding despite trying and having counselling.

DD had crying fit for no apparent reason and had eventually calmed down but was bright red and always goes blotchy.
Random old woman in supermarket: 'Is she sunburnt? You really must cover them up at this age for goodness sake.'
Me: Too dumbfounded to even speak to made goldfish impressions with my mouth for a minute until DH came back with the ketchup.

Do I attract the nutjobs out there or what?! Had no idea my DD would be such public property!

Have just found this thread and thought I'd add mine....
In a GP's waiting room, with screaming feverish twin babies who both needed to be held. Woman opposite me, with one quiet baby on her knee. Looks at me and says "oh, thank God I'm not you".
Wish I'd said "so am I" right back!

Having a very small child who never wanted to eat, threw up all the time and so was underweight. A well meaning relative saying "well why don't you just give child some cut up pieces of salad"

a. salad is not going to fatten child up

b. CHILD WON'T EAT ANYTHING! Why would salad be any different?

c. like i've never given child salad before.

"What is it?" I had from one old dear in a coffee shop, as she peered in the pram.
Granted dd was not an attractive baby but still.....I told her it was an android from the planet Zog.
It shut her up.

Oh and it wasn't a question asking boy or girl- it was with a look of horror on her face!!!

Reading this thread makes me . I'm glad I grew up with a bunch of baby crazed mums, sisters and aunties who greet every human being under the age of 5 and every human being who is pregnant as if they are the second coming of the Lord and are totally blind to any flaws or faults.

I can't really think of any nasty comments from strangers apart from the odd old lady mentioning the socks or the 'looking hungry'. Oh and of course it is law if you are female, middle aged and speak a Latin language that all babies must be extremely cold and on the verge of hypothermia even when it is 40 degress outside.

I was cycling while six months pregnant and an annoyed motorist shouted out "enjoy the menopause". Bizarre.

I never had any hurtful or weird comments while pregnant or about DS. Must have been lucky. Nobody attempted to touch my bump, even though I would have been quite happy for them to do it (now that my massive belly is just fat, i would bat them away ).

oh lord yes, the number of old biddies who have told me that ds doesn't "deserve" his blond curls/big blue eyes/lovely long dark eyelashes because he's a boy!!! sigh!!!

i just smile and say "yes we'll have trouble with him when he's older ha ha" and they nod and smile and move on, happy to have been platituted right back, while i am thinking "silly old trouts!"

whoever said Madagascar penguins smile and wave smile and wave is bang on the money!!

Just read this thread, It wasn't really offensive but I was in maternity unit holding my 2 day old baby one of the cleaners recognised me and asked" Is this your baby?" I sat thinking for a while No I just like to sit in maternity wards in my dressing gown holding random babies!
Another time I was in McDonalds with ds (I have hearing difficulties caused by menieres disease) an elderly woman was trying to make conversation I kept having to ask her to repeat what she'd said she then asked me" YOU KNOW IN A MORNING DO YOU WASH BEHIND YOUR EARS..." needless to say I showed her my 2 hearing aids & explained I was deaf! I was really because people see a young person and just think your being rude without even considering the alternative! anyway the woman couldn't apologise enough I think she felt really.
That's just reminded me of another time a few yrs ago I went xmas shopping I bought some pyjamas when I got to the counter the wrong size matching bottoms had been put with the top so assistant told me to exchange them & come straight to the front of the queue(having already stood in it once!) I said excuse me on heading back to the front of the queue & this woman turned in her loudest voice & said "what a cheek pushing in!" I explained what had happened & the assistant backed me up the woman said "it's ok!" I replied "I know it is!"
Here's another 2 old woman at a bus stop stopped dead in front of me just missed dropping their bags on my feet(it was a really cold, rainy night) I stepped out of the shelter because I thought my bus was coming but it wasn't stepped back into the shelter & when the bus eventually did come I stepped foward to get on the bus first the same 2 old woman pulling at my coat saying "Isn't it disgusting when we've been here longer!" I thought what am I invisible?!
So if you meet all the nutjobs HollyBollyBooBoo so must I!!!!!!!!

We found out at our 20 week scan that our baby has talipes in its left foot (clubfoot) as did my DH in both feet when he was born. My mum and aunt were having lunch with a friend when my aunt said as an aside "Of course, the baby's got clubfoot, gets it from its father" suggesting that my baby is not going to be perfect my mum nearly choked on her lunch and barely managed to resist punching her sister!! Am now 39+5 and can't wait to meet my perfect bundle. Although am getting rather impatient!

Ooh love this I got a great one just today

in a busy shop was looking at clothes on one side of the sale rack but it was too narrow to get the buggy down so i left it on the other side of the rack could see over the top as ds and dd were in it

as i walked back round to the buggy three women walked down the side the buggy was on in front of me cue lots of "someones left a baby here" "a baby?" "oh my god some idiot's left their baby" then they see ds "and a toddler!" "where's mummy i can't believe she's left you" etc etc I must admit i let them go for a while before sweetly saying "excuse me can i get to my buggy" tee hee

my favourite ever was in the supermarket when dd was 6 weeks old had bought some crap magazines to read whilst endlessley breastfeeding as the sales assistant put them through she said "haven't you got enough you should be doing without reading trashy magazines!" charming nosey old cow.

My cousin just met her new HV (male not sure if that is relevant). Her DD was small at birth and has remained small, not enough to cause any concern but cousin regularly takes her DD to HV clinic for weigh in so it can be monitored. New HV was talking to cousin about the weight issue and I can't quote it verbatum (as cousin could barely get out the story through the tears) but it was something along the lines of...

HV 'of course there is one other thing it could be' (with ref to why baby is so small).

Cue cousin getting all excited that he holds the miracle remedy

HV 'baby doesn't feel loved and welcome in this World'

Cousins jaw dropped (v. long awaited baby), eyes well with tears

HV 'it's not often we take babies away from their parents for being so small..'

Cousin bursts into hysterical tears, her DH hears and asks HV to leave (he didn't argue with the 6'5 rugby player).

OMG!

At an outpatients appointment at the hospital I mentioned to the receptionist that my children were half Iranian. She replied "Oh, so that's where they get their good looks from!" I replied "Thanks!" in a sarcastic tone and watched her squirm....

7 or 8 months pregnant " when's THAT coming out then?"

when kids were 4 months and 19 months old in stroller "are you taking your grand children out?"

I WAS STILL IN MY 30's !?!?!?

I know this is an old thread but I had to add.. me on holiday with my five sons, random woman in swimming pool with her son and daughter "are you going to try again for a girl?" Perhaps I should have replied "ooh we did get jiggy in the sack last night so give me your number and I'll ring you in a couple of weeks and let you know"

While talking about that rush of love you get when you first see your baby that i didn't get "well it must be harder to bond when it ws an accident" eh no i had a tramatic birth i was so out of it i didn't get it til hours later when i felt better, he wasn't an accident we didn't think we could have kids he was a surprise but a wanted one oh and your a cow.

same woman "do you ever resent having a baby so young" i'm 25 young but not exactly not lived young.

and my favourite from this bitch woman "is the dad still around" yea why would you assume he's not "lots of young girls r single mums" WTF

I've had so many ridiculous comments. I have twin girls and complete strangers will ask if they are ivf babies, how personal! Even worse people will say "oh my god twins, I can't imagine anything worse!" How rude...

Some people just feel the need to bitch and be horrid to other people. Imo it's because they lack confidence and have issues in their own lives.

That said does stop me seething when some random woman (and it is always the same fucking one) snips at me about my life and how easy it is. Tbh she has no idea. I wouldn't mind but I have no idea who the fuck she is and why the fuck the only things she feels the need to say is so nasty. It has got to the point where I can no longer keep smiling and ignore. She will be asked who she is, she will be asked if she lives my life and then she will be told to mind her own business as she knows nothing. If I remember i will start with the did you mean to be so rude. Hopefully I will remain calm and able to speak in a normal voice. In reality she will probably told to mind her own fucking business and live her own life and to stay the fuck out of mine. Same message so many different ways of saying it.

Re socks: the only comment I will make is along the lines of the dc liking to feel the air between their toes.

I took my DD shopping when she was about 8 weeks old and a lady helped me to put the carseat onto the shopping trolly. I thanked her and she replied with 'well, it must be difficult to cope having one of those at your age'. I was a bit puzzled and so asked how old she thought I was and she replied 'well I would guess about 17 or 18?'. I am 29. I probably should be flattered, but her patronising tone made me want to slap her.

I have been by the things people feel they can say when you're pregnant.

I've been small my whole life (a size 6) and also only 5'2 so it's obv been surprising to some friends that I look pregnant but still what did they expect fgs?!

At 3 months preg: 'wow QoS, I never thought you would look so fat!' 'I really can't believe it!' 'is your tummy baby or podge?'. Thanks

at 4 months preg, totally unprompted: 'oh well, maybe you won't get much bigger'. Err, think I probably will!

Last week, 5 months preg & on the same day:
'well of course you're much bigger than most people at your stage aren't you?'
Followed by a few hours later from someone i'd never met...'are you really pregnant? Someone told me earlier but I didn't believe them because you don't look it.'

Yesterday: 'hi bump! & QoS behind it!'
Ha ha ha.

I am sick to death of people commenting on my size!

Oh, and when I was struggling with a colicky baby I used to go to the health clinic every week. Firstly to get her weighed and checked over because I was terrified that there was something wrong with her because she screamed all day, but also because I was desperate for some support and adult interaction. On my 4th or 5th visit, yet again with me breaking down in tears because I couldnt soothe my baby, the HV held my hand and said "Colicky babies cry. Her weight is fine so dont come back for four weeks you are getting her weighed too often.' With that, she patted my hand and sent me on my way. Lovely!

another lovely HV one "because he's a big baby you need to make sure he doesn't get over weight now he's on solids" right ok so how much should be be getting "just whatever he wants he'll tell you when he's had enough" um ok confused now

I kept getting variants of 'ooh, lovely baby. He looks like my mum's/friend's /someone's baby. Who fell off the bed and died.' Just what I wanted to hear, thanks.

By the time ds was a couple months I'd mastered telling interfering buddies that he wasn't cold and was just fine, thanks. Was arguing with an annoying one at a bus stop when the mum next to me said "That's why I wear this", pointing at face veil. Stops people telling you how to parent, apparently. Though on the minus side the same people tend to tut about you existing, but at least its easier to ignore when they aren't talking to you!

When walking into my booking in appointment with the MW when I was pregnant with ds2

MW: Different fathers I assume?
Me: Erm no, why would you assume that?
MW: Oh well, you know, women your age..... (I was 24)
Me: Shall I walk out, come back and we can start this conversation again?

In a doctors surgery with 3 week old ds2 in a stretch wrap, perfectly comfortable and fast asleep, some lady shouts across the room

"How irresponsible, do you know how dangerous that is? He could fall out"

So I politely informed her that I am not an idiot, he was perfectly safe in the wrap, and if he was to fall out then at least I was in the right place eh?.