Is it ok for DH to take a bath with DD age 3?

[whatdoesntkillu]

Just got into a discussion with some parents at DDs preschool about bath time. They think dads shouldn't bath daughters. In our family, not only does DH bath DD but will also take her in the shower with him.

Up to now I've never had a problem with this. What does anyone out there think? BTW I didn't mention the bathing together thing to other parents.

Why on earth would it not be OK? My dd and ds both bathed with dh until there wasn't any room for them. Not with me though, as I think that baths are a solitary pleasure . We both showered with them when we had a double sized shower,

Why on earth not?

DH does bath time regularly

This is where the paranoia about paedophilia leads - loving, sensible and completely properly involved dads being accused by virtue of their gender of actions of which they would never have dreamed. No one would think twice about a mother bathing with her son. For goodness sake, someone has to bathe them at an early age!!

OP do not, I pray tell your DH of this conversation. He does not need to be privy of the prejudices of other, incredibly silly people.

Only possible answer -FFS at those stupid people. He's her father. I can't stand this ridiculous paedophile paranoia either. Can I just say how much envy I have that you have a partner who will do bath time btw.
My dp has health issues and cone evening ds is all mine - he's only given him a bath about twice ever - ds is 3.10. I now have new dd four weeks old and know I'll be doing both of them until they are able to do themselves in distant years to come!

DH has a bath with DD, and with DS. I don't see it being a problem at all. Just like it isn't a problem if they have a bath with me.

I agree with the above - I can't see why there's so much paranoia.

agree with everyone else
Until the child decides they don't want to, IMO it is appropriate to have a bath with parents, grandparents, and other children of around their age.

although that'd have to be a huge bath :o

Yes.

The other parents are being daft.

yes1

Yes of course

Perfectly normal, the only reason my DH and DD don't bathe together is that DD wouldn't fit in the bath with him [hsmile]

TBH i think you will struggle to find anyone here who will say it isn't OK. What a ridiculous and very sad thing for your friends to say.

ridiculous - do they think they married paedophiles? or that if a father was a paedophile he couldn't find another opportunity than bath time? idiots.

my son is 3y8m and insists on climbing in the bath with me still (i get a bath to myself about twice a week). is this wrong?

the time for dad's to not see their dd's naked is when the dd becomes shy and shows shyness about it. she'll let him know when it's time. as i presume my ds will.

Your friends are being stupid.

DH and I both bathe with our DS and DD - We are their parents not paedophiles!!

By the time they are too old for us to do this, they'll be too big for us all to fit anyway.

How ridiculous of them - of course it is ok

Ridiculous.

Of course it is OK! DS bathes with DH and I regularly and if our next DC is a girl then I would imagine she will too!

I have vivid childhood memories of running round naked at home at much older than 3yrs with both mum and dad and I am certain there was never anything inappropriate! I also remember the time I started locking the door when having a bath, as WallowsInFlies says, your DD will decide when she wants the privacy.

FFS anyone who thought this wasn't ok would get short shrift from me.

How sad that the other parents at pre-school don't trust their partners. Of course it's ok. Most Dads are just big kids anyway so probably enjoy splashing about as much as their DCs :o

of course it is ok.
WHY would you be married/have children with someone who you didn't trust to bath them???

Nothing wrong with it at all - as long as DH doesn't mind the luke warm toddler friendly water - couldn't stick it myself.

How ridiculous...

Agree with the other MNer your friends sound like a bunch of loons, my DH baths all our DC's EVERY night! tis his quality time with them. DD1 is 8!!!! btw!

Ridiculous but sad at the same time. I would never say it to someone's face, but I wonder if some of the parents horrified at a child bathing with its father were victims of abuse themselves?

I think they're more likely to be Daily Mail reading hysterics though, tbh.

A friend of ours won't let her DH bath their daughter, aged 2. I think it's sad. She didn't understand why I asked who would bath the new baby if it was a boy...