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Losing anonymity on MN - has it happened to you?

200 replies

mummylonglegs · 13/08/2005 15:57

HI, some people may have read my earlier thread about this which is now deleted as are all my earlier posts and comments on other threads. The reason for this is that a friend of my boss at work told her my MN name (she worked it out, I don't know the friend but she's a regular poster on here, a lot of you will know who she is but I'm still not sure about divulging her name) and then sent her an email link to some of my most embarrassing threads. I found out about it on Friday and have been stewing over what to do. I decided to get my posts etc. deleted and maybe take a new name or maybe keep a different name for more sensitive stuff. I'm pretty fed up about it as some of the threads like my quitting smoking chats have been a saviour to me and I now feel I can't post on them as freely as before. But still.

Anyway, wanted to let you know that's why my name comes up as 'message deleted' all over the place. I'm not banned.

Yet!

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bran · 13/08/2005 16:13

I don't think you should change your name MLL. The embarassing threads are gone now and from what you said about your boss (on the now deleted thread) she won't be looking at your future threads. I would just CAT the other MNetter and ask her to mind her own business in future, especially since your boss isn't even interested and probably thinks much less of this person now.

I find that I distance myself from people who tell personal details about others (without a very good reason for doing so) as they generally can't be trusted not to do the same about me. I suspect that your boss will feel the same way about her friend - something for the unknown MNetter to think about (I can almost guarantee that she's reading this thread).

snafu · 13/08/2005 16:13

Was she trying to get you into trouble with your boss or was it just a case of 'Ha ha look what mll has been posting'?

Silly mare, whatever the reason.

flashingnose · 13/08/2005 16:13

at this. Agree with WWW, it should be your boss's friend who is forced to change her name, not you. What on earth did your boss say?

dropinthe · 13/08/2005 16:13

Did you lnow her as a mnetter before this?

Aimsmum · 13/08/2005 16:13

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puff · 13/08/2005 16:14

What did your boss say about what her friend had done? I'd look very differently on someone who stooped to this sort of distasteful behaviour - she'd be an ex-friend pretty fast.

FairyMum · 13/08/2005 16:15

I haven't lost my anonymity myself, but I do work with a Mumsnetter's DH. He told me about MN and the name his wife used and she is a regular poster. He doesn't know I am MN though.

hercules · 13/08/2005 16:15

go on.

Aimsmum · 13/08/2005 16:16

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dropinthe · 13/08/2005 16:16

As you said Mll-you were/are good friends with your boss-she will see this as what it is-very childish!

dropinthe · 13/08/2005 16:16

As you said Mll-you were/are good friends with your boss-she will see this as what it is-very childish!

dropinthe · 13/08/2005 16:16

woops!

dropinthe · 13/08/2005 16:17

Reaaly snidey thing to do-very low!

wassy · 13/08/2005 16:17

totally agree with www.
It is for this very reason I find I cannot keep the same name just in case, as I have found MN to be the only place I can turn for honest opinions and a place to really tell it how it is without having to safe face.
Sorry such a horrible person treated you in this way MLL. Like all the others say give us her name, teach her a lesson!

dropinthe · 13/08/2005 16:20

I don't think Mll should stoop so low-remember she has a job to protect-we may LOVE to know who this bitch is but its not for Mll to divulge for fear of it turning against her.

puff · 13/08/2005 16:20

Just realised you've probably explained all this on a now deleted thread, so you probably won't want to go through it again.

Anyway, don't change your name - it's a great name! Might be sensible though to have an alternative one for sensitive things, especially when your confidentiality has been compromised like this.

flashingnose · 13/08/2005 16:21

fairymum!

dropinthe · 13/08/2005 16:22

Thats a good idea,Puff-you could keep mll for fag free(your fave thread of course!) and have a different one for all else-mind you thats too much hassle isn't it-God,don't you dare change your name because of this!

Aimsmum · 13/08/2005 16:24

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WideWebWitch · 13/08/2005 16:26

Oh thanks aimsmum, how nice for this woman that she gets to keep HER anonymity when she didn't care about someone else's.

MarsLady · 13/08/2005 16:27

let's just hope that as she reads these posts she's filled with shame, though clearly she has none.

what goes around, comes around!

flashingnose · 13/08/2005 16:28

That's priceless. Have changed my mind, she deserves to be outed .

Aimsmum · 13/08/2005 16:28

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puff · 13/08/2005 16:29

I have in mind an odious character from a Dicken's novel........

hercules · 13/08/2005 16:30

I think it's discriminatory that those who were around for the earlier outing know and the rest of us dont