Bloody hell Burcharest - you don't pull your punches. You are right. Mil is the enabler and is doing it more as I've noticed that dh is also becoming increasingly nasty to other people too (he feels he's justified as she says so). She does this to show dh support.
Some of it is cultural though - our backgrounds and upbringings are different. I am from multiethnic and multi faith family so for me it's easy to blend in and get on with it. DH seems increasinly uncomfortable with people outside his community.
DH's family find me and my lot too 'other',
, don't understand my food choices and cannot understand why I didn't have ds baptised at birth (the only thing between us that I had a firm opinion on and something that dh initially agreed with long before we had ds).
DH is depressed. He's unhappy here and feels trapped but has less back home. Doesn't excuse his behaviour but that's what it's about.
The language business. Top tip - many thanks porca as I'm going to order it tonight. If the stuff about speaking bad English will produce bad English then poor kid has had it! My dfather is the only other person in ds's life that has English as a first language. DS is influenced,naturally,and it's funny. I'm cool with it as I was brought up this way. Once school kicks in I'm sure he will start sifting out the incorrect words and grammar etc. At home you speak homespeak and outside you make the effort to be correct.
Such a damned waste. Italian school is for those kids with some Italian and not rank beginners. Agh. Will tackle dh again as he's not doing ds any favours here.
Loving today - blue skies, warm and no noise from the flight paths. DS having ball so all good stuff.
Hoping that your families get to where they should be if travelling.
Also wishing a good week for all.