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Do you think motherhood replaces the part of us that used to be wild and fun?

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fairyfly · 30/06/2005 09:38

because i don't, but i really feel in society it is suppossed to. From the moment we concieve we are taught it is the be all and end all. So many peoples opinions effect us, we are not supposed to yearn for freedom. I once told someone i was bored to be answered with a shocked face and a comment of how that can't be possible with children in the house. It also is very apparent from day one that men are allowed to feel this, i was greeted with comments like " let him out, he deserves it". Is mottherhood a new word for Martyrdom.
I am constantly suprised at the school gates by women who have not been out for years. I think as much as they don't realise they are downtrodden and lost. I understand a fair few women are so in love with their children they never want to leave them. There purpose is to make me feel guilty i think, don't trust them either. I think with every single labour you should push out a babysitter at the same time.

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expatinscotland · 30/06/2005 11:45

, Pagan!

Yikes, I'm only 34 and sometimes feel like my ass is dragging by Wednesday.

Pagan · 30/06/2005 11:50

Our keck Scottish weather doesn't help does it? [smile}

expatinscotland · 30/06/2005 11:52

Quite right, Pagan. It's muggy and close here today. Wish it would just pour rain to clear it out. And the nights are already drawing in.

Pagan · 30/06/2005 11:56

Whereabout are you Expat?

expatinscotland · 30/06/2005 11:57

Edinburgh, Pagan. Not a breeze on the horizon. Just dull, damp and fetid.

sallystrawberry · 30/06/2005 11:58

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ThisIsMe · 30/06/2005 11:59

Sallystrawberry - I too married young at 20 and had my first at 21 and conformed to the idea of responsible SAHM, not going out, having fun etc. I'm now 35 and for the first time am feeling that life will pass me by way too quickly if I don't stand up and do those things I want such as a weekend away by myself. I don't want to look back at my life in 30 years time and say, "I wish I'd done so and so when I was younger."

Pruni · 30/06/2005 12:00

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fairyfly · 30/06/2005 15:32

Why is it on mumsnet you make a simple observation and then people try and rip it to pieces, turn it around and make out you are slagging off people in need. It happens all the time. Your sentences are manipulkated and twisted and people just read the complete obvious. I should have just wrote " women in abusive relationships should get a grip and stop feeling sorry for themselves" as some have you have come to that decision its what i mean anyhow.
Thanks for everyone who understood what i was getting at.

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fairyfly · 30/06/2005 15:33

opposite, not obvious, duh

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serah · 01/07/2005 00:04

Look at it as an exercise in discovering who is of a similar mind fairyfly. This is a cross section of society and as such, you will get that in all posts on a thread.

I hate leaving my boy... doesn't mean I think about him all the time I am away.... very little if I am away to my mates house up the road with a load of other mothers and a load of wine....

I found I have gained freedom in my devotion to my boy... I have gained freedom from my previous need to work all the hours gods send to make as much money as possible to just making enough money to be and do. Its just me and my experience.

I WILL snowboard, but probably not till my boy is eating food by himself. Where that comes from was the harsh and eventual realisation that men, well, mine, can't look after babies. Not for more than an hour or two anyway, if that.

So what. Its not martyrrdom for me. I'll save it all up and do it later. F*ck it. Good on yer ff btw for whatever polishes your boots and inspired this thread....

An epiphany... its like the old tampax advert - I wish I felt like rollerskating in white hotpants during my periods, but somehow, in my reality, I never did. Bugger. But never mind, I'll be there next week!

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