Why did no-one tell me that DS is being a git?

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DS has been getting worse at home with his behaviour (he's always been a handful, but it has spiralled).

I thought it was just at home in the same way that DD1 only plays up at home, but I thought I would ask nursery and preschool just in case.

No. It turns out he has been being a little git there too.

Why did neither of them tell me? How the hell am I meant to know there is a problem and try to help fix it if they don't mention it???

Obv one off naughtiness I wouldn't desperately need to know, but this is ongoing playing up it seems

And in the meantime - I still can't seem to fix him

Can I aks how old he is and in what way he is naughty?

He's 3 1/2, not desperately evil just your basic answering back, refusing to do what he's told, snatching... From what I can tell before he was always full of energy, but good natured with it, but now he just seems so rargh all the time. (because "rargh" is clearly a well known behaviour )

My 3.1 year old is about to start nursery but I'm really scared he will be the naughtiest there. Seems to have an abundance of testosterone at the moment similar - snatching pushing his little sister bashing and throwing stuff. They may not have mentioned it because they are so used to seeing it .