What do you think about "not doing anything" when children are at school/nursery?

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My daughter's peers are starting nurseries ... and I'm finding myself really SHOCKED at the fact that my mummy-friends aren't doing anything with their time while their children are out of the home. I asked a friend last week what she did and she said "Oh I just get home, tidy up a bit, have a coffee - and then I have to pick him up again!"

As I work from home there is ALWAYS some work I can do. I also do voluntary work and could always do with more time to get stuff done.

I also don't understand why their partners are happy with them just taking 'mornings off' to themselves - aren't they a bit miffed?

I'm probably just jealous but I can't help but think that they are just plain lazy! What do other people feel about this?!

Hi Jak, havin a 'maaad' week, but just had to put my two penneth on this one!

Don't drag me into this FM!! I am very sensitive about being an American anyway and the last person I want to sound like is Dr. Phil. Mornhing Paper has never even come back. My post was genuine and not judgemental or slinging anything at anyone I hope. Are you sure you are not Dadslib?

don't trolls come from Sweden - or somewhere scandinavian anyway?

Really? Why are you sensitive about being an American?

Ha ha! I knew it! Can I refer you happy ladies to the "SAHM's - what do you do when the monotomy gets too much?-thread"? Someone needs cheering up!

Do you really have to make such supercillious, patronising and nasty posts, Fairymum? We don't all have to agree with you, and we don't all have to feel the same way as you do.

fm They do say that people who put others down and find faults in others lives are taking the focus off themselves as they feel insecure and unworthy. I would personally advise you to take a deep look at yourself and work out why you would find it appropraite to judge others as if you yourself are the perfect role model for life. Obviously you have deep levels of insecurity and place these issues on the shoulders of others. I find you incredibly tiresome and rude.

My own mother? good grief no she worked far more hours outside the home than me. She still works full time- and then pops in after work every evening to help me out. She must know how exhausting it is for me watching Fern and Phil. Actually I tried to watch Fern and Phil yesterday as my cousin was on it but missed her because I didn't know what time it was on.

But then I have far more education than my mother so lucky I'm busy wasting it as otherwise I may be too far up my own backside to talk to her.

Honestly FM you have spouted offensive rubbish. Everyone's situation is so different- and frankly who cares whether people work or not- I don't!

Because being an American generally puts me into a "category" that I don't feel that I fit into. I detest George Bush for one and our politics are appauling. I also don't believe I am loud, crass, spoiled and self-centered as seems to be the "generalized" way that SOME Europeans believe that Americans are (horrible generalization I know, but being honest here). I am well-traveled and am married to a Brit so I am exposed to different views on this. I could go on for hoursit is not easy being an American when they are so disliked around the worldthat's all. When I am on Mumsnet I usually don't feel "AMERICAN" and really just want to be a mum with the rest of you, nothing to do with nationality or religion if you know what I mean.

Catterick, I can assure I am actually a very happy person. I am the perfect role model for life and I think everyone should be exactly like me. Anyway, I can't stay as I have bedtime stories to read and a DH to shag

What exactly is wrong with being like your mother?! I'm quite happy to be like my mother - she's amazing and not in the least bit dull.

Sunchowder, I am sure you despise me like everyone else on here now but for what it's worth - I think there are lots of really smart Americans and I certainly didn't mean to be nasty in my post to you. It really was tongue in cheek and a bit of fun. In fact, give me and Ameerican any day over those Middle England-types in this country!!

FFS - Why do we bother then? Hope I didn't offend anyone, again shouldn't have even replied.

Suncowder, I don't think you have offended anyone.

suncHowder

Thank you Soupy--you know how sensitive I can be

"I think there are lots of really smart Americans", thats big of you, do you often do this, it is appalling. I really don't understand why you posted your going to shag your husband either, unless its up your arse so you can stop talking for a bit.

PMSL, Catterick!

ROFL

Sunchower - no you haven't offended anyone- your post was very moving.

PMSL Catterick

It really was good Cat, but it was so MEAN too! Imagining the talking out of her ass thing...

I think FairyMum has told us all we need to know -she is the perfect role model for life and everyone should be exactly like her.

Have you left the room yet FM, or are you experiencing difficulty because your head won't fit through the door?

ps - enjoy your shag.

FM, I started the "monotonous" thread you refer to earlier. But your comments don't mean much to me. You don't sound like a working or non working mum, you're probably a 16 year old boy who has nothing else to do with his time, or an under the thumb dad!

Which one are you then?

A world filled with FairyMum clones........

What drives me nuts about threads like these are assumptions such as the following:
"part of the reason I work is I want my kids to see this and my daughter to know there is more in life than doing the laundry." - Hercules
Erm... being a SAHM is not just about doing laundry - arrgghhh..........
"For me being a SAHM is unfulfilling because it's based around housework and lack of adult company" - MorningPaper
and it doesn't mean you don't have any adult company. Being at work for me often meant clockwatching and a 5 day week of monotony too.