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Help - dd1 just caught us having sex!

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bonym · 15/05/2005 08:14

She is 7 - we were in the middle of the "deed" when I looked up and saw her standing in the doorway. We didn't have any covers over us plus I had been wearing "bedroom"shoes . We obviously stopped straight away and I told her to come in to bed for a cuddle as she didn't look very happy. She is now downstairs with dh getting breakfast. Do we say anything to her by way of explanation or just ignore it. Help please!!

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Twiglett · 15/05/2005 08:16

dunno

sorry

how helpful am I?

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bonym · 15/05/2005 08:18

Thanks Twiglett - ha ha! Oh god, someone else must have been in this situation!

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peckarollover · 15/05/2005 08:19

Oh god, my worst nightmare

What are bedroom shoes?

anchovies · 15/05/2005 08:21

To be honest I think you will have to talk about it. Perhaps don't go into detail but I remember seeing my mum and dad when I was too young to understand and thinking it was something violent. Maybe just explain it along the lines as something loving that grown-ups do?

What a traumatic start to your day (when it could have been such a nice start to the day )!!

anchovies · 15/05/2005 08:21

Glad you asked that peckarollover!!

Mud · 15/05/2005 08:21

what are bedroom shoes ?

almostanangel · 15/05/2005 08:23

i was going to give a long boring what to tell her speach! but i wanna know what bedroom shoes are

almostanangel · 15/05/2005 08:27

well, depends on "how much " she saw but you could just say you were having mummyanddaddy cuddles/practising your dancing/getting away from a spider that was on your side of the bed..which ever she will be ok whatever and get on with doing whatever she was doing dont help though do i!

Ameriscot2005 · 15/05/2005 08:28

I would imagine that they are strappy stilettoes rather than fluffy pink slippers

almostanangel · 15/05/2005 08:28

would have been worse if she was wearing bedroom "bracelets" then

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bonym · 15/05/2005 08:30

Well - if you really want to know (of course you do ) - they are fluffy and pink but have VERY high heels

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almostanangel · 15/05/2005 08:30
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almostanangel · 15/05/2005 08:31

then ...well dd we were getting dressed and i thought i would try my new shoes on and they are so silly i fell and landed on daddy!!..what did yousay to her at the time?

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bonym · 15/05/2005 08:32

She is downstairs now watching telly - dh says she seems fine. I had already said we were just having a cuddle. I don't want her to be traumatised though. Dh reckons she won't analyse it that much and it might just make a big issue of it if we say anything.

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cupcakes · 15/05/2005 08:32

some friends had to refer to it as "daddy was giving mummy a special hug" when it happened to them!

To be honest I wouldn't use this as an opportunity to explain the birds and the bees unless she asks you about it or seems worried/ upset.

almostanangel · 15/05/2005 08:33

be funny when she goes to school on monday thought "miss guess what i saw"

cupcakes · 15/05/2005 08:35

sorry - almost got this confused with the 'to withdraw or not to withdraw' thread!

almostanangel · 15/05/2005 08:35

oh gosh no ..when my dds were younger and asked where babies came from i said mummys and daddys have special cuddles ,,,,but if you say that she will say so does that mean im going to get a bro/sis

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bonym · 15/05/2005 08:35

aaa - good suggestion except dh fell on me! Do I say he was trying the shoes on?

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almostanangel · 15/05/2005 08:35

cupcakes i thought that was a "hhmm" thread too!

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bonym · 15/05/2005 08:36

Hmm - dd2 is only 8 weeks so NO to the bro or sis

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almostanangel · 15/05/2005 08:36

no as you fell you tripped him and he fell with you ..lucky that!

cupcakes · 15/05/2005 08:39

8 weeks and you've got your bedroom shoes on!
Well done!

Mud · 15/05/2005 08:43

8 weeks

.. weel some people never learn

Gobbledigook · 15/05/2005 09:00

All respect to you for getting out the bedroom shoes at 8 weeks!!!

Nightmare situation though - I really don't know what I'd do. If she seems fine maybe leave it if you already said it was special cuddles. You don't want to start discussing it and making it into a bigger deal.

Erm, was there a lot of noise - that is, would she have been a bit frightened by it? Or was it quite quiet and just one of you on top of the other - if the second then I think she'll be OK.