Just read this - www.telegraph.co.uk/family/5495300/Family-relationships-the-day-my-mother-tur
ned-off-the-lo ve.html buy Anne Fine (she writes those children's books little girls love).
I read it and thought her mother was right not to be too heavily involved and I did not resent my own parents' view that we'd left home and they weren't there to babysit and wanted to get on with their lives. I think my sister expected more help from them.