Elevenses !!!!!!

[MaryAnnSingleton]

ah, we can only do 1000, so here's the new one, hope you find it !

it'll be just us,mum and dad will look after T - the rooms are lovely and the menus are delicious sounding...the only thing is I don't have smart clothes/a proper suitcase or bag ! my suitcase is an ancient thing from my teenage years. Am toying with asking my friend M who is a businesswoman and always off at spa hotels whether I might borrow a weekend bag !!

Oooh yes, borrow a bag, treat yourself to some smart clothes or accessories to smarten up existing outfits and have a fab fab time

ah,that's the thing though - no cash spare to buy new smart stuff...I will do my best to accessorise though !
Am having huge qualms about tamoxifen - I have the prescription but feel very uncertain about taking it - lots of complicated reasons - anyway,breast care nurse has told me I can delay it and she will talk to me about it all soon.
Am off to Sainsb. shortly after washing is done.

Yes, if you are absolutely not sure about the tamoxifen, talk to the nurse. She will be best placed to put your mind at ease.

No money to buy new stuff, hmmm that sounds familiar! Accesorize all the way then - funky jewellery, scarves etc (gosh I almsot sound like I know what I am talking about )

Have just come from Sainsburys, needed some last minute bits and peices for O's Cubs camp this weekend. Keep fingers crossed for nice weather please...

Am just about to sort out the washing and then am going swimming. No work today so need to make the most of it

Back later

Morning

Ooh, a weekend away. How lovely! I bet you have some lovely lovely bits and pieces to accessorize with. That's where I struggle, not a clue tbh. I've yet to work out how to wear a scarf, so it doesn't look like I've draped myself in an old rag

Agree about the tamoxifen btw. I'd no idea it was such a long term medicine. Definitely definitely discuss all the pros and cons first, it may be that there is an alternative, or an easier method of taking it. The specialist sounds nice

Hippi! You are so like me. I don't think you have anything to worry about with the disabled lad, but I worry about similar things all the time too. Next time just smile at him maybe?

MAS - well done on getting the work. As Hippi says, try not to do too too much though. But it may be a nice distraction, something to focus on that isn't to do with health/hospitals etc.

Just had a lovely coffee with a friend from school (after a mad clear up beforehand - oh why oh why can't I manage to keep our house in an at all times visitable condition???) She is very down to earth and fun, and an inspiration as she is very involved in the local community.

Washing beckons.

Teehee, my house is never in a visitable condition either - I always vow to keep it that way but for some reason it never happens.
Don't think I'll see the disabled lad again, most exams finished now. Shame, he seems really nice so a smile would have been good (and made me feel less of a pillock certainly)

Have just come back from a fantastic swim - I did 1hr30 minutes without stopping. My arms are killing me now though.
I have decided that once I have lost some more weight I am going to enroll on adult swimming lessons so I can be taught front crawl and backstroke properly. Fancy diving too

Just having a quick lunch then I will walk up the postbox with your cheque MAS, and then I'll collect the urchins from school.
Nice quiet afternoon today - no clubs, no friends here, just homework, relaxing etc. Dh is popping round my friend's house to look at a small electrical job and then he has to meet the scout leaders at the scout hut to collect tents to take to Walton Firs and set said tents up! Busy evening for him then!!

wow ! amazing swimming hippi - am in awe !! and what a lovely idea, to have proper lessons - I've always been scared of diving as we were taught rather brutally at swimming club and it frightened me.
Shopping done and put away - must get T to write a few more thank yous for his bday presents and to practice his singing - if he's to do this grade 1 we need to make sure he practices a lot

oh great, have broken a big bit of tooth/filling - that's where my fee for illustrations will go ! Must see if dentist can fit me in somewhere next week,otherwise it's going to be busy with radiotherapy..bugger.

Oh bugger! That is a pain!! I hope they can fit you in soon - and don't keep doing that 'running your tongue along the gap' bit!! (I am awful for things like that, it becomes almost compulsive)

What are you both up to today?

I have to walk doggle, pack O's kit for Cubs camp, tidy the house and then head of to WC for an hour's invigilating.
After school E and little S are going to boy A's house for tea whilst O has his swimming lesson and I do some more lenghts
Then home for a quick dinner, my friend K will drop E back home and then dh will take O on his 2 night Cubs district camp.

Ohh, forgot to ask - when is T doing his grade 1 singing? Is it soon?

busy hippi ! hope O has a great time at cub camp.
Dentist is seeing me this morning at 10.15 -whether or not it can be patched up today,most likely have to go back.
T's singing exam would probably be in the autumn term as there's quite a few pieces to work through. He is doing quite well,I have to encourage the practice but he does do it. After dentist I suppose I may need to nip into town,possibly have a look at my work,ironing needs doing and I'm picking up S and H -only minding until 3.30 though.
T is off to swim with grandpa and then later we're having supper at P Express as it's my mum and dad's wedding anniversary and they wanted to go there with us !

Ohhh, lovely day (minus the dentist bit)
We are having pizza express tonight too, except I bought them at Sainsbury's to cook at home.
E will have eaten at A's house.

Had to moan at O this morning - he is just sooo lazy, sloppy, unmotivated at the moment. His life seems to revolve around friends, girlfriends and fun weekends away, and he has completely forgotten about homework (left it at school), spelling words (can't find them) reading (don't have a book) etc. It is sooo frustrating....
Is this a sign of things to come? I really hope not.

Right, am off to walk doggle - good luck at the dentists.

Oh no Poor you MAS. Good they're seeing you this morning though. I've got a bit missing from a tooth too, but I haven't got a dentist at the moment, so am ignoring it. Am a dental phobe, but I must get my act together.

They both sound lovely, busy days. I'm actually going to be really really lazy today as I feel I haven't stopped recently and it's definitely catching up with me. I'm running a stall at our village fete tomorrow, so I need to be full of energy, which I'm definitely not feeling today. Was supposed to be in the library this morning, but have come home instead. I'm meeting a friend after school though. Her little girl H and B have been friends from when they were 5 months old, so it'll be lovely to catch up

I have to at O, but it must be infuriating really. I guess you can't make them organised and hard-working, but just hope the nagging makes a difference. B is a complete day-dreamer and getting worse. She used to be such an organised little thing....

Make sure you get plenty of rest hotcross
I have to at O too, but this morning I could cheerfully have sold him to a group of travelling circus performers. Honestly, it is like he is not on this planet!!
It is Mufti day at both schools today, so I had bought two boxes of chocs for O and E to take in as tombola prizes, placed them on the breakfast table and reminded O to take his into school as he left this morning. He takes both! So E is now panicking because Miss M said that if they don't bring anything in they can't wear their own clothes (which I am a bit cross at but that is another rant).
Luckily E's fab TA had brought in spare 'gifts' for those children who forgot or who have permanently-confused brothers!

Never mind.... Am busy packing up his camping kit - I am willing to bet he 'loses' or 'forgets' at least one item over the weekend....

Ooooh, my smilies did not work!

Ah, now my smilies are back??

am back - dentist has patched it up and says it'll last for about a year,but to think of something a bit more permanent then,like a semi-crown (it's over a root canal) but as I'm an impoverished artist he thought this would keep me going and cut down on expenses-aww! didn't charge for patch up either ! Have booked my check up anyway for July to make sure nothing else if falling apart
Am sure O is just going through a phase - it'll probably pass ! I was cross with T a bit this morning as he was just not really listening to what I was saying (was asking about his French trip next Friday and whether there were any meetings about it) and he was being all 'yeah,yeah...not listening...etc' you know...honestly- I am not asking for my own benefit it's his bleeding trip ! I said as much and am feeling a bit fragile anyway so felt like crying -he was nice afterwards though. I just think it's hard for him being a little boy/big boy - how he needs to be is confusing !

Aw nice dentist.
Sorry to hear you felt a bit weepy this morning - you have a lot to deal with right now.
Glad to hear T was fine at the end. O skulked off to school still in his own world. Never mind, some self-sufficiency at cubs camp could be just what he needs.

On that note I'd better go and write his name on the labels of the mahoosive pile of clothes on my bed - and blankets, and washkit and towel and torch and and and.... aaaarrrrrggggghhhhh

good luck with labelling ! And you take it easy and relax Hotcross. I'm fine,was just the thought of dentist on top of things that was making me feel a bit feeble and I hate it when T is all dismissive...

I'm not surprised you feel a bit fragile at the moment. Remember you are allowed to, and sometimes it's a good way of coping with things. IMO it's never a good plan to bottle your feelings up for too long. Make sure you make time for treating yourself kindly, not just running around after everyone else. Glad dentist was nice to you - it's always good to hear some of them are human

I'm feeling a bit fed up about friendships ATM. Since B was tiny, we've been really close friends with another mum and her dds. One dd same age as B, the other 2 years younger. Anyway, B and G are at different schools, but I sort of envisaged seeing the mum either for coffee sometimes during the day, or after school with the girls. This hasn't materialised and I feel really sad about it. I think it's partly because I don't have anymore children, so am out of the toddler group circuit but TBH I'm mainly feeling that I'm no longer of use to the mum She had quite bad PND after baby no 2, and I spent a lot of time with her helping with her dds. Maybe now she has her life back on track, I'm no longer needed??? I thought we got on really well - she used to refer to us as 'soulmates' - but there's only so many times you can try to arrange a meet up and it not happen

Sorry, am premenstrual I think, didn't mean to go on Must develop a backbone, and not think things so deeply!

Hotcross - that is very dispiriting - she sounds as though she has moved on and rather forgotten her friend which is rotten for you..maybe she didn't like the person she was then and feels that she has got over that stage and that you might be a reminded of her neediness? or else she just isn't that tuned in to the feelings of others ? Either way,it's horrid for you and you don't deserve to be treated like that. Hope you have a nice meeting with other friend this afternoon.
Am off to town quickly before picking up H & S - your cheque arrived btw hippi,thank you !

Sorry MAS, didn't mean to run out on you. Had to rush and take my cool boxes to a friend's house for ice lolly selling at school this afternoon.

We had a lovely time with H and her mum this afternoon. They were also part of the baby group we were friends with, and H goes to G's school. I tentatively delved a bit about what I may/may not have done, and apparently G's mum is exactly the same with her, so I guess she's just moving on... I know she's heavily involved in her school's PTA, so we've been replaced. Sad, but must move on

Right, must go and make some dinner for us. Salmon tonight. Yum!

Ahh,well that's good to know that it's not just you Hotcross, though sad too of course...but that's what happens I guess..true friends do stick around though.
T came home,or at least I met him outside junior school where I was picking up H with S -I was going to take his bag so he could go straight to his grandpa's to go swimming, but he was very upset and said he didn't want to go swimming, or out to P Express...I couldn't really talk to him there so sent him to grandpa's anyway and when I got back discovered that he'd had some kind of misunderstanding with another boy (who thought T had hit him - least likely thing ever I'd say,but) and T was upset that everyone would then not like him - he gets very worried about people not liking him or wanting to be his friend - the friendship thing being such an anxiety for him..anyway, think I reassured him and we talked it over. So he didn't swim but we did go out to P Express which was very nice, very noisy there..had a Bosco - salad with garlic mushrooms,spinach and rocket,mozzarella,sundried tomatoes and avocado with balsamic and mustard dressing and bits of pizza bread stuff..yummy. Am intending to take him out to B/stoke later,nip into shops and have tea at Wagamama as a birthday treat.

many thanks for cheque Hotcross and B's little cat drawing too !
You have sent me £1 too much though! will refund it at our next coffee meeting ! thanks !!

Oh poor T - hope he is okay now. I cannot imagine T hitting anyone so how did that mis-understanding come about??
Your meals sounded nice

Shame about G's mum hotcross, but I agree with MAS, at least it is not you. I guess it was inevitable that if her dc go to a different school she would drift away. Good friends stick around, but I have found that a lot of them do't go the extra mile. It is a shame though, and I do feel a little hurt every time it happens and wonder if it was because of me. But fact of the matter is they are so busy making new friends, doing the PTA thing etc there just isn't the time / energy to keep some friendships going

I have put the necklaces away for the girl's birthdays (November for little S and December for E) but I am very very very tempted to give them to them earlier...
Are you both having a good weekend?

We dropped O off at camp Friday night. It looked amazing! There were at least 9 packs there from different villages, each bringing between 10 and 20 boys. Each pack had it's own pitch with a canvas mess tent for meeting/eating and a selection of smaller tents for the leaders and boys. Out of O's pack only 10 boys had come camping (the pack is only 15 boys anyway) so they had two 3-man tents and one 4-man. O and his friend T from school had already pre-arranged to try and share a tent with one other boy C and pestered us for sweets so they could have a midnight feast. For the day-time activities all the packs had been mixed up as the whole point of the weekend was for the boys to make new friends with boys from different packs. As we dropped O I bumped into two ladies from neighbouring Horsell who I remembered from ante-natal classes. They both have a boy in Horsell Cubs - I doubt O would remember them though

Went to a garden centre yesterday as it was holding a closing down sale and bought a cherry tree [yum yum] E has called it Mrs England after her (fabulous!) TA whose first name is Cherry We spent the rest of the day pottering about in the garden - lovely

Having a tidy-up day today, dh has gone to my friend A's house to do some small electrical jobs for her (small matter of an exposed live wire which needs making safe ) I am going to dust and hoover adn get the house 'visitable' as E is having a girl from school home for tea tomorrow. First time that particular girl has been here so I want to make a good impression
Am helping at O's sports day practice from 9.30 - 12.30 tomorrow. Wondering what I have let myself in for now! The real thing is on Wednesday.

Right, better go and sort the washing