just need to moan

[Rkayne]

Just need to have a moan and thought this was a good place to do it. I have a cleaner who comes twice a week. I know it's a luxury but with a toddler, another one on the way and working 25 hours a week I find it's a luxury I really can't cope without. She's been with me for over a year now and when I hired her I explained that I almost didn't care how well she cleaned the house as long as she was reliable. I need someone who's going to show up when they say they're going to. Period.

Unfortunately for the last for months it's been one thing after another for her. Her husband hurt his hand and she had to look after him for a couple of weeks then she was sick off and on (nothing serious really) then her dad passed away, now her mom needs some looking after. Now I know this must all have been very hard for her, and it seems really trivial to complain about having dirty floors by comparison. But she's let me down almost a dozen times in the last 4 months.

I really don't want to get someone new but I want her to treat this like a real job rather than just thinking she can cancel on me whenver she feels like. So I tried explaining to her that even though I know she's had a hard time lately I really rely on her. But she just got angry and said if I didn't feel she was reliable maybe I should get someone else. So of course then I felt like a complete bitch and had to back down and say, no of course not.

But it's so frustrating. I'm working hard during the day, I'm exhausted anyway from being 6 1/2 months pregnant adn don't have the time or the energy to do all the cleaning. But likewise, I can't let my 2 year old sit and play on dirty floors.

I know it's not really a big deal - I'm probably just tired and emotional from being pregnant. Maybe I'll take the afternoon off adn go have a bubble bath adn a little cry.

thanks for listening. :-)

Just count down the days bells. I spoke to the owner of ds1's nursery yesterday. She had 2 work experience girls in this week (15), but by yesterday she was so fed up with them and their attitude she rang the college to tell them to take them away! (She had a great girl last week). I know its not the same but thought it might give some comfort!

He he he Marina. I keep arranging interviews for her with women whom I know to be "challenging" but irritatingly she seems to see pick up on it during the interview and decline the position.

Nice one Bells! she sounds like she could be in for a rude awakening. As a matter of interest how come you are doing her job hunting for her. She has had plenty of notice to find another job surely, and those 3 days each week for interviews etc, I trust she isn't doing this in your time too.

keep counting down...

Lizs, I permanently have that Geordie voice from Big Brother in my head saying "Day 5...".

I have arranged 4 interviews for her but this is entirely malicious on my part. So far, she has had the nightmare mother-in-law present who told her that the as yet unborn baby boy would have to be fully potty trained by 18 months and asked her entirely inappropriate questions about her love life ; the city nutcase who leaves for work at 5am every day and is never home before 8pm and my personal fave, the Italian social butterfly who wanted her to work every weekend with 2 half days off during the week (which would change according to her whim) to compensate. Needless to say, each job would have involved a pay cut.

at your arranging malicious interviews bells! She might get the idea soon then.

Oh Bells, the interviews sound great! Enjoy the countdown to the last day of your job and nanny!

Hillarious Bells, I hope the next few days fly by and you can begin to enjoy your children on your own terms. Equally, I hope her next job makes her realise how fortunate she has been for the last few years.

Good luck too with your birth plans, hope everything goes well for you.