Spoiling for a fight.........................or are they.

[happydays]

Without mentioning names, I have noticed sometimes that some peoples comments are either a bit harsh, insensitive or argumentative. Is it just me being hyper-sensitive. I mean we all post of here wanting advice, but sometimes it seems as if people do not have anything constructive to say, but post anyway. I mean I have one child and do not want anymore, but wouldn't dream of posting something on the 'feeling broody' thread. Or are we just a lot of women with severe mood swings.

Not meaning to cause offense to anyone, as I think mumsnet is great, just wanted to know if anyone else felt the same as me.

Oh by the way cam, I am not spoiling for a fight, on this one. Hope my last posting didn't sound too harsh, I am just trying to explain myself. (see even I now are worried I am offending you)

happydays - I think you were quite right to start this thread, it has obviously provoked a lot of comment & interest, and I also think you are quite right not to 'name names'. I personally wouldn't 'talk back' to someone who offended me, partly because I am pathetically non-confrontational but also because I've seen 'spats' occur, where no one is the winner & it all looks a bit childish to everyone else. I think you just have to 'agree to disagree'.

The sort of comment that I find mildly irritating, is when someone pours their heart out (usually about relationship issues) ....... & gets the sort of replies 'I wouldn't put up with it' - presumably if these people were tough enough not to put up with in, they wouldn't be posting for advice ....... however, maybe the replies 'I wouldn't put up with it' are meant in a jokey, supportive fashion - again, it's hard to tell when something is written down.

Happydays, I think that the written word is much more powerful than the spoken, and perhaps people don't mean to sound harsh. I don't know about anyone else, but I've found that, since being a mum, I am soooo much more abrasive, bold and feisty, really. Pre-dd, I wouldn't say boo to a goose but I'm v quick to fly off the handle now. Not that I think there's ever an excuse for rudeness, esp in a supportive environment such as Mumsnet

sorry lucy and willow, i posted and ran -

come on them if you think your hard enough! you couple of chicken sh*ts!!