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any smokers? come and talk to me about it-i don't understand.

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themildmannneredjanitor · 22/09/2008 11:46

i didn't want to hijack faq's thread so i will start my own.

basically-why do you do it? how do you sleep at night when you know what it does to you?

i know about the addiction thing but i know some smokers don't want to give it up as they enjoy it too much.

it's bizzarre!!!!!

[[http://www.freewebs.com/soaring_sphincter_travel_agency/smokers%20lungs.jpg this] is a good reason to stop surely?

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VickyPea · 22/09/2008 13:43

Do you drink at all MMJ?

I don't smoke, never have done. I wondered, in the same way that MMJ does, how can you continue to do something to your body when you know that it may kill you and that you would leave behind the people that you love most in the world.

BUT, I drink wine, two bottles a week which may not seem much, but according to those scary ads on the TV, its much more than I should. I have stopped enjoying it (sometimes) because when i do, I think about what it is doing to my liver or putting me at an increased risk of breast cancer.

Now it might not seem that much to someone else with a true alcohol addiction but to me, I know it is more than I should. But I cannot stop, simply can't. Just like smoking its a way of releasing pressure.

The point I'm making is that I don't like the smell of fags more than the next person, and I resent the fact that I have to go through a cloud of smoke to get into a pub or a shopping centre, but I certainly understand why you do it.

So maybe there is your answer MMJ, you know its bad for you, but in short you just can't stop, its a release valve.

Habbibu · 22/09/2008 13:43

And Aitch "and it makes you more interesting as a person" har de har! You utter thesp, you.

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themildmannneredjanitor · 22/09/2008 13:47

yes i do drink.
but as i said earlier i have no problem stopping at all.

it's nice but it's not neccessary.

i don't drink 2 bottles of wine a week-too many calories!![dieting]

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Habbibu · 22/09/2008 13:50

I do think that there are people who are more prone to "addiction" - I say that very loosely, as I'm including people who feel that they need alcohol to relax, for example. I'm a bit like mmj - drink things I like drinking, but am more than happy to stop, and though I've tried smoking, I suspect I got it wrong, as I felt absolutely nothing from it at all. I think it's one of those things that's just impossible to understand if you're not wired up that way, if that makes any sense.

OrmIrian · 22/09/2008 13:53

effie - 12 yrs and it took me 3 or 4 of those to stop being a smoker in my head TBH. Now I know I've stopped for good but I still miss it at times.

VickyPea · 22/09/2008 13:55

Well yes, there is that, I wondered why I was getting so fat these days, I keep telling myself that christmas is coming and I should lose a few, then again, give me a beard and a red suit and I can get an extra job at Christmas !

EffiePerine · 22/09/2008 13:58

Orm: that's interesting. I think DH still feels like a smoker. I suppose 2 years after having smoked for 17 isn't that long.

Actually MIL quit soon afterwards and she had been on 40 a day for over 30 years . No nicotine replacement therapy or anything. I think they are a very stubborn family .

kittywise · 22/09/2008 14:09

FAQ, I meant always one person who's up for a bit of a tussle .

FAQ · 22/09/2008 14:12

oh - sorry I see now (blonde moment I think lol)/..

onager · 22/09/2008 14:16

I forgot the bit about it helping you work.

If I am working on a difficult problem then smoking does help me concentrate. However I can't prove that it's not restoring the concentration I would have had if I didn't smoke in the first place. I think it does help though.

DaphneMoon · 22/09/2008 14:16

I can't understand why people feel that drinking is so safe. My DP had a few glasses of wine and a beer the other night and fell asleep on the sofa while I was out. When I got back I shook him and he was in such a deep sleep I could not wake him. If the house had caught fire whilst I was out he would have burnt alive. The smell of alcohol on breath (especially from the night before) is absolutely vile much worse than cigs. You are not dangerous behind the wheel of a car after 10 fags, but after 10 drinks you are a killer!

By the way I am an ex smoker, but not anti smoking because I have been there and understand the addiction.

BrianBrain · 22/09/2008 14:19

Oh its an awful habit for some. Terrible.

My Grandfather died of lung cancer and my friend is attached to a machine to help her breathing just now.

Awful

kittywise · 22/09/2008 14:21

FAQ I was a bit vague!!!

FAQ · 22/09/2008 14:25

actually it makes sense now given the way the thread had gone at that moment at time.

I'm a bit vacant today as it's my first day of cutting down the number I'm smoking a day (I'm not quitting before you all get excited ) and it's been an interesting morning and early afternoon dragging the time between them out .

kittywise · 22/09/2008 14:27

Well done on cutting down, I have three to four roll ups a day and have no intention of giving that up as of yet!!

squeaver · 22/09/2008 14:32

I have decided that when I'm a mad old lady, I think maybe about 80, I will take up smoking again. And I really can't wait.

If it's still possible to even buy them by then

ivykaty44 · 22/09/2008 14:42

See, my grandfather lived until he was the ripe ole age of 92 and he smoked for most of his life (roll ups) he never had a day of sick and reackoned he was the luckiest man alive.

he did give up smoking on two occasions that I remember - when his wife nagged hims so much he gave up each time for about 12 - 18 months.

now a smoker will say - see he lived to a really good age and wasn't ill in his life, it didn't effect anyone.

BUT my mum - his only dd, never smoked, yet died of cancer two years before her own father - was it caused by my grandfather and grandmother smoking whilst they where conceiving and pg with my mother and then continuing to smoke whilst she was young and growing??

ivykaty44 · 22/09/2008 14:43

ps I certainly hold no blame to them, just sharing a thought

FAQ · 22/09/2008 14:45

squeaver - my Granddad stopped smoking his pipe for about 7rs - in his 80's - due to the fact he wasn't allowed to smoke in the home he was living in. He moved to a new home (his own decision) at 90 - and took up his pipe again - it gave him great pleasure for the last 2yrs of his life

expatinscotland · 22/09/2008 14:47

I used to smoke. I liked it.

I liked the rush it gave me.

squeaver · 22/09/2008 14:58

Bless, FAQ

What do you think, though, will you be able to buy them in 30/40 years? Dh is an ardenet anti-smoker and worries about dd taking it up to be cool when she's a teenager (just like her mum ). But, honestly, I am not too worried about it. I really think in even 10 years time it'll be socially unacceptable.

eekamoose · 22/09/2008 15:07

Oh I'm so pleased to have come across this thread (albeit a bit at the unneccessary spat in the middle of it) because I have just given up smoking AND I'M ON DAY 3 AND FEELING DECIDEDLY SAD WHEN I KNOW I SHOULD BE FEELING HAPPY!!!

I love and hate smoking. For most of my life the love part has ruled my head and I have been addicted for many many years. I've given up 4 times before for over a year. This time really has got to be it. Is there a giving up smoking support thread anywhere? I'll go and have a search ...

CvQ · 22/09/2008 15:54

well if anything her rather hurtful dig at me has just made me smoke more this afternoonand i enjoyed every last drag!

FAQ · 22/09/2008 16:02

oh don't worry about it CVQ - go and put the kettle on and have a cup of tea and another one -

CvQ · 22/09/2008 16:04

you know what.i think i will!!