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Older Mums

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network · 16/02/2005 17:24

Hi
Are there any older mums out there i.e. those who have had a baby at 35++. We are increasing in number.

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Azure · 16/02/2005 17:33

Blimey, loads of us.

iota · 16/02/2005 17:36

have a look at this thread here

WigWamBam · 16/02/2005 17:48

I was 38 when I had my dd, and there are lots of other older mums on MN too.

Pinotmum · 16/02/2005 17:58

Hi, I'm an older one (but look young

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network · 16/02/2005 18:00

Thks guys

have u had any disapproving comments about being a mum at this stage in life? If so how do you deal with them.

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Tommy · 16/02/2005 18:02

I was in a shop once with DS1 and a little girl asked if he was my grandson.... I was about 35 at the time - he was a baby

Pinotmum · 16/02/2005 18:02

None whatsoever I am happy to say.

Cristina7 · 16/02/2005 18:22

Never had any negative comments about my age.

iota · 16/02/2005 18:27

who cares what other people think anyway?
I was 40 when I had ds1 ans have never made a secret of it - I joke about the fact that, by the time I get them off my hands, I'll be an OAP

ggglimpopo · 16/02/2005 18:28

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Amanda3266 · 16/02/2005 18:41

No negative comments. Had DS when I was almost 37.

WigWamBam · 16/02/2005 18:49

I've never had any negative comments about my age, either, although I do look younger than 42.

Surfermum · 16/02/2005 19:04

I was 41 when I had dd. The only person to make negative remarks was my MIL who kept saying "you must be mad at your age" and kept going on about sleepless nights and chasing a little one around. Maybe she felt old at 41 but I didn't. I think being an older mum has made me (personally) a better one.

suedonim · 16/02/2005 21:39

I'm an older mum, too. No negative remarks from anyone except my 21yo ds when I was pg! And once he set eyes on dd he was besotted.

DecafArabica · 16/02/2005 22:04

35 ain't old! I was way too immature to start a family at such a tender age.
I'm 43 now and mum of DS who's 4 in April & sadly just learned have had a missed m/c.
I am v lucky in that I do not look (or act) my age and so I've never had any negativity from anyone, and my GP was super-positive when I went along to tell hime I was pregnant.

eidsvold · 16/02/2005 22:07

only comment I had was from a midwife when pregnant with dd1 - I was the grand old age of 34 turning 35 - that I was a geriatric mother.

Kiwifruit · 16/02/2005 22:26

Will be 35 when I give birth. A friend of mine in NZ was the youngest in her ante natal class at 36!

eidsvold · 17/02/2005 03:55

kiwifruit - that reminded me - attended antenatal classes 2nd time round and everyone else was having their first and there were a number of mums older than me ( at the ripe old age of 35/36)

OldieMum · 17/02/2005 08:01

I was 41 when dd was born: not through choice, but after six years of trying and six IVF cycles. I have always felt positive about older mothers, however. My mother was 39 when I was born and her mother was 44 when she was born, so I grew up feeling that there was nothing odd about it. Indeed, all the other children's mothers seemed extremely young and immature compared with my, sensible forty-something mother, when I was a child. I have never had any odd looks or comments, but then I live in Oxford and there are plenty of other older mothers here.

OldieMum · 17/02/2005 08:02

I was 41 when dd was born: not through choice, but after six years of trying and six IVF cycles. I have always felt positive about older mothers, however. My mother was 39 when I was born and her mother was 44 when she was born, so I grew up feeling that there was nothing odd about it. Indeed, all the other children's mothers seemed extremely young and immature compared with my, sensible forty-something mother, when I was a child. I have never had any odd looks or comments, but then I live in Oxford and there are plenty of other older mothers here.

jabberwocky · 17/02/2005 08:05

38 when I had ds. No negative comments whatsoever, although dh did get a compliment on his grandson once! Poor dh, it was on his birthday, too.

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network · 17/02/2005 13:47

Pleased to hear all your comments. Unforunately in my area (Slough) many mums are very very young. But the odd thing is that motherhood has given me direction,which i did not have before so....I am an older mum who is also in the process of starting (with DP) her own business and looking to adopt a 3year old.

Am I mad.

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suedonim · 17/02/2005 14:20

Speaking of very young mums, Network, a friend recently had a baby and said that in the hospital the mums were either teenagers or over 30 - there was virtually no one in their 20's!!

bonym · 17/02/2005 18:13

I'll be 39 in August and dd2 is due end of March. My friend knows 4 other women who are pg - the youngest is 36, oldest 40. Have had NO negative comments whatsoever - except from myself - i.e. "I must be mad going through this again at my age"; "I'm finding pregnancy harder this time round - must be because I'm 7 years older" etc., etc.

Network - you are certainly not mad - that Romanian woman of 67 though - she's mad (apologies if nationality, age not quite spot on - it's those pg hormones you know )

highlander · 17/02/2005 18:22

I was 36 when DS was born last Sept. I can't say I felt old in the maternity ward; I'm sure most of us were over 30.

I'm defo not having any more though. I'd quite like my 40th birthday to be spent on a Caribbean shag-fest, not still running around after toddlers with shity bums