Going to a wedding .. they want cash not gifts...

[robinpud]

Hmm.. they have asked, very nicely, that if guests do want to buy anything, ( and they don't need anything as have teeny tiny house with no space) that we give cash.
so do we get them cash as requested.. gift cards for John Lewis or similar, or go with my gut instinct and get them 3 fine bottles of champagne for special moments in the year to come?

bloody cheek of them. Give them some towels.

Also, if you've no money, you can get something small and quirky and it's not clear how much it cost you. It can be a nice thought full stop.

£20 farking quid in an envelope is crap. Crap to receive, crap to give.

And if you can't afford to give £100 where does that leave you.

NO. Asking for money is very naughty.

I only give cash or vouchers if they have a clear purpose which isn't poncey - so yes to 'we are saving for a deposit (and the wedding has been low budget and you know the couple in question are saving as hard as they can) or 'vouchers for Wickes so that we can have a new kitchen, but no to unspecified purpose of cash, or 'pay for our honeymoon'.

also that 'pay for our honeymoon' suggests they can't really afford the honeymoon of their dreams (life is like that sometimes) and so have charged it all and are hoping everyone will be guilted into stumping up.

stooooopid, IMO.

pay for your own damn honeymoon even if it means a long weekend in a caravan outside Blackpool.

I'd honestly have thought nothing of having a list (not @ mo, in future) not so sure of the cash request tho!

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We moved abroad straight after our wedding, so didn't want loads of gifts that we had to pay a fortune to store or ship abroad. We said no gifts, but if guests wanted to make a gesture, to donate money to cancer research (had just lost dh's mum to cancer.) Have to say now we're back in the UK a few gifts would have been useful, but heigh ho

my cousins have asked for this, there have been 3 weddings in the past year, 2 of which i've been invited to the evening. I will do the same with mine,ask for money.

I have been with OH for 11 years we have 3 children and a home with too much tat in that i've bought over the years

I was going to give him £20.00 as we arent that close and TBH he only invited me as he's good mates with my OH . I would'nt have gotten an invite otherwise.

And its the evening, I didnt get invited to the actual wedding, I probably would have given him £30.00 if I was

far easier just to give cash.