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Anyone else have a dishwasher fairy?

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Poshpaws · 09/02/2005 10:48

Dh thinks we do.

Went to a friend's house for dinner last night and one of the last things I said to DH before I went was 'Could you please unload and load the dishwasher?'

Anyway, on my return at around midnight, the dishes were still sitiing by the sink

Also, the bloody washing mahcine fairy - DH running around this morning looking for something he knew he needed, but it was in the washing pile as he had not bothered to make sure it was washed (or at least let me know that he 'REALLY needed that item so could you wash it , DW'!

He left for work this morning, muttering about something or other, which I chose to ignore .

Please tell me that I am not alone!

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Bagpuss30 · 09/02/2005 10:52

Nope. I have picked up socks and pants off the bedroom floor for the entire time during our 9 year relationship. I also do all washing and dish washing although I have managed to get him to turn off the dishwasher once the cycle is complete. It never gets unloaded though.

NameChangingMancMidlander · 09/02/2005 10:52

You are not alone. It's the washing machine fairy, in our house, DH is pretty good with the dishwasher

popsycal · 09/02/2005 10:52

We have fairies that do all the house work in DH's opinion....

Furball · 09/02/2005 11:08

We have a washing basket fairy here too. I had one when I lived with my parents, but sadly it didn't come with me when I married. Dh's did though.

Potty1 · 09/02/2005 11:25

We have fairies here too

the Christmas fairy who organises everything to do with Christmas

the Holiday fairy, books it, packs it and then unpacks it when we get back

the Bill paying fairy, she's very busy because there's all the bills, insurance, car stuff to sort and she somehow manages to have money left at the end of the month

oh and the Calendar fairy who aranges all the appointments, buys and writes and posts the cards pressies and stuff

what would we do without them

sozie · 09/02/2005 11:26

It's pathetic in this house. After making a ton of pancakes I asked dh to take the plates out to the kitchen and make a cup of tea. Yes, he did this perfectly. However, this morning the plates are by the kettle. He is so literal. Did I have to say put them in the dishwasher? When I give more detailed instructions he says I talk to him like he's a child - if the cap fits .

puddle · 09/02/2005 11:34

sometimes the plates find their way to the dishwasher but then - even more annoying - it's not switched on....

Furball · 09/02/2005 11:34

Ah, now that is the exact sort of thing I mean, then get accused of nagging. (as per nagging thread from a few days ago)

binkie · 09/02/2005 11:58

oh I thought you meant you really had one!

How old are your children? From about nine I was the dishwasher fairy at home - only unloading, but it was My Job and I loved it. I do it at PILs too (obviously am no longer nine, but starting that young means I can do it in my sleep).

misdee · 09/02/2005 11:59

why is it, when i ask dh to do the dishawasher, he only ever unloads it, and leaves it for me to load back up? yet when i do it i unload and load it.

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Poshpaws · 09/02/2005 12:02

Binkie, DS is 3.5 and he actually likes to help to load and unload the dishwasher with either me or his dad.

However, DH is soon to be 40 and therefore has no excuse. Just sat back last night, after having put DS to bed, and polished off half a bottle of red wine. He also cooked for himself, which he could not be bothered to do the night before for both of us, as I told him I had heartburn (6 months pregnant) and therefore had no appetite . IE, becauase I didn't cook it, he didn't do it!

He seems to like dusting and cleaning though

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MINNIE1 · 09/02/2005 12:15

Your not alone... I'm the Fairy in my house !!!! DP thinks that there actually is a fairy cause all i do is read books!!!! So your plates can wash all by there selves and you cloths can walk into the washing machine!!! Men are unreal at times.

irishbird · 09/02/2005 12:41

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PuffTheMagicDragon · 09/02/2005 12:42

Loading and unloading the dishwasher is the one thing that I have finally managed to train dh to do every day. It took about 3 years, but we got there in the end!

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Poshpaws · 09/02/2005 12:46

3 years? Noooooo!

He bought the blinking thing (although must confess that we were both cr*p at doing the washing up) so I was really excited getting it and always try to keep on top of the loading and unloading. Maybe I AM the fairy. Don't want to be anymore .

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tarantula · 09/02/2005 13:00

I have a fairy at home to do the washing up and hes very good at it too. Also does hoovering and dusting and general housekeeping. needs to learn how to budget tho and do a weekly/monthly shop.

Lucycat · 09/02/2005 13:05

There seems to be a lot of mothers of 30 something males with a lot to answer for! did they run around all day after them, not teaching them the basics of life! My dh lost a stone in weight in his first term at uni when he was 18 because he couldn't cook ANYTHING!! he lived on soup! Luckily he met me and I managed to feed him and now he's pretty good at warming things up in the microwave!!(that I've made!) He was VERY tidy though - to the point of obsessive - I've now made him messy like me!!

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Poshpaws · 09/02/2005 13:10

Lucycat, that is the annoying thing. DH left home at 19, having been raised by parents that ensured that he could easily look after himself -and he did for years!

I confess that I do most the cooking, dishwashing, and childcare but I get annoyed that when you ask him to do something on the odd occassion it gets ignored [steam coming out of ears emoticon]

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HunkerMunker · 09/02/2005 13:12

We have a sleeve-rolling-down fairy here. DH wears his sleeves rolled up on his shirts and I roll them down before I wash them.

He irons them though

Lucycat · 09/02/2005 13:13

I still do the cooking because it's painful to watch him chop an onion and I would like to eat before midnight, I also can't help interfering! Men also can't multi-task ie making sure that the kettle is on again to rinse the rice when it's cooked! always comes as a big surprise that!

PuffTheMagicDragon · 09/02/2005 13:16

I'd like a loo roll changing fairy

Lucycat · 09/02/2005 13:18

I also think my dh is a bit afraid of the dishwasher - he'll load it (in a male kind of way!) but won't switch it on!

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Poshpaws · 09/02/2005 13:18

And the mess that is left in the kitchen after they have cooked....

And as for feeding DS within in a resonable timeframe when I am not around, that's another thread altogether.

Oh, the bloody loo roll changing fairy and the 'putting toilet seat down' fairy..grrrr!!

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sasa15 · 09/02/2005 13:20

it's dh job...but I often need to remind him in the evening after dinner...
he says i'll do in a minute...and hours later is still everything in the sink...
Getting better lately.///.......

Easy · 09/02/2005 13:23

I suspect the problem is partly because, when we first get together with these blokes, we 'look after them' as a sign of our love (it's a female thing). After a short time, they just start to take it for granted.
If you've taken maternity leave too, then they got used to you doing stuff like this during the working day, so don't see it's necessary in the evenings.

At least it's one good thing about my being incapacitated with a broken hip back in 2003. For 6 months I could do very little around the house, so dh had to do sooooo much.
Now he unloads and loads the dishwasher, and can put loads in the washing machine. (Mind you I do have to sort the washing, and decide which program he should use, and he won't take responsibility for deciding what can or can't tumble dry.)

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