My partners mum and my mum dont get along

[Thekmorrisonxo84]

Hi i just dont know what to do in this situation im feeling so stressful about it all. My mum and my partners mum just dont get along and i dont feel good about it all its making me upset too because I currently live with my mum with my 2 year old daughter and 1 on the way in February. My partner both my kids dad used to stay over at the weekends at my mums to help me with our 2 year old and btw we are still together but he hasn't stayed since the end of November because my mum said really mean things to his mum im not gonna into detail but the things he said my mum said to his were not nice my mum was horrible to her ill admit his mum messaged my mum first but she didn't say anything bad to her and my partner wants my mum to apologise but she won't cause my mum is acting all selfish and she's not thinking there are 2 young kids involved and in the past month because of this we have hardly spent time together because he thinks he's not welcome to come over and he's hardly seen his daughter too and he's really missing us both and I just dont know what to do. I thought things would have been settled by now but they aren't but my partner won't be able to see his daughter Xmas day because of everything that has happened. It makes me upset that he won't and im kinda dreading Xmas with my mum because recently she has been bad mouthing his mum so I think she will probably do that on Xmas day honestly right im struggling with being heavily pregnant and looking after a toddler because its hard work its not easy and my daughter is always on her feet. What do I do?

And for someone who said we could meet up xmas day for a walk with our daughter i would love to do that but unfortunately I live in a different town so cant because there will be no travel that day and i would love for him to see his daughter xmas day but we both dont drive or anything so that's impossible for that to happen

Sounds like you both need to move out and start living because this is not it

If this is the way people live their lives, no wonder the country is on its knees.

Jesus Christ I can’t believe you’re 41 I thought you were going to say you’re a teenager. You sound totally ungrateful for your mum and irresponsible. Have some accountability. Genuine question do you have special needs?

Well that explains why he won’t see his daughter on Christmas Day. What are his reasons for not seeing her on the other 364 days the year?

And actually, I think you are pretty low down on the being a good parent scale because you aren’t providing basic needs for your child - soon to be children, - you are also setting a terrible example by not taking responsibility for your situation and blaming everyone else. You are 41 years old, start acting like an adult not a naive teen.

I was just thinking the same thing. Good grief.