Birthday present to our on grave

[hoohaal]

My partners Dad died around 10 years ago.
It would be his Birthday over the weekend.

My partner doesn’t speak much about his Dad but was chuffed when I brought him some flowers to put on his grave for Father’s Day.

Would it be weird if the kids bought a teddy and drew some pictures to put on the grave for his birthday? They never met their Grandad but have heard about him etc. I know my partner won’t buy anything to put on there himself but he will definitely go and visit the grave.

Do you think that’s a good idea or am I overstepping?

I do think it's weird to come from the kids when they have never met him - it feels like they are pawns. But I think fine to get flowers again from you if he liked that?

Ok, maybe I’ll go for flowers again!! Thank you!

I think flowers are a good idea.

I know people do leave toys and things on graves - generally, sadly, children's graves - but there are some sick people who steal them. And that would be very very upsetting.

It's really thoughtful of you to do this for your partner and his Dad.