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Was told I don't give a shit about my baby today.

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Flossam · 18/01/2005 17:39

My pram is (unfortunately) too big to fit through the front of the buses where I live (london) but luckily buses here have back doors too, which many people use to get on and off them. I got on the bus today at the back, and as I was doing so heard the hydrolics go for them to shut, but obviously the driver realised I was getting on and stopped. Anyway, I went to the front to pay and the driver said to me 'You pull a stunt like that again on my bus and you won't get on' I had to ask him to repeat it, and then tried to explain to him that I was sorry but I couldn't fit through the front. He said I should of 'asked' first. Anyway, I wasn't too bothered, walked away having paid and two more passengers got on. To the first he said 'did you see here with that bloody pram?' And to the second he said 'obviously dosen't give a shit about here baby'.

To this I saw absolutely red and went to the front of the bus again, when he repeated what he said again, and told me I could of killed my baby (I don't think so strapped in to a secure, if bulky pram). I told him I would complain and asked him his name, he laughed, asked him the bus number, again he laughed. I decided I couldn't stay on and got off the bus at the next stop, then thought about it and asked for my money back. Surprise, surprise, he refused. I went home again, cried all the way home, and have phoned a complaint through, but still felt the need to rant here, sorry. Did he really have any right to call me that? I think it's hard enough to be a new mum without people casting such dispersions over you.

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lockets · 18/01/2005 21:11

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Aero · 18/01/2005 21:12

When I lived in London and worked as a nanny, I used buses all the time and it was a huge struggle with toddler twins and their older brother. I had to use reins to hold onto the twins and collapse the buggy as I could see the bus coming. Needless to say I didn't have heaps of shopping - just the usual stuff you need when out with children. I just got used to doing it really, but the bus drivers were often inconsiderate - driving off as soon as you get on, sending us all flying down the aisle!! Now where's the sense in that - often it was the older folk who would offer help or kindly give up their seats for us. So collapsing the buggy wasn't really the problem, but there's no excuse for rude and inconsiderate (and sometimes downright dangerous) drivers.
Thankfully now I no longer live in london and drive most places, but Cadbury uses them all the time and here in Kent, the buses are great I'm told and they have ramps which are lowered for both wheelchair users and people with young children and buggies.
I do hope you get an apology - you deserve one and that driver needs his knuckles rapped for being so rude. (Can't say I know the rules for the rear doors though)

morningpaper · 18/01/2005 21:12

nailpolish: slings are great but no good if you are out shopping. I need a pram to carry things underneath.

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MistressMary · 18/01/2005 21:13

Do they have problems in other countries too with the travel system not approprietly geared up for the modern day traveller and equipment?

Or is just ole Blightly again?

Fimbo · 18/01/2005 21:14

Nailpolish-Those back carrier things - I fell over in John Lewis whilst trying one of them with ds, I just wanted the ground to open up and swallow me

Aero · 18/01/2005 21:14

OMG - have just seen that in the time it took to type that, the conversation has moved to nannies and reins!!!

spod · 18/01/2005 21:14

nailpolish, no tried both kinds, and the sling thing... terrible back pain with all... and dd didnt really like them either... he is a heffer though she 15 months now, and walks so no prob!

nailpolish · 18/01/2005 21:14

i use tesco.com so dont heave loads of shopping onto buses. i have even got down to the fine art of trying on jeans with baby strapped to me without waking her up.

i want to get one that goes on the back but dont fancy the thought of sticky lollipops in the hair

morningpaper · 18/01/2005 21:15

Lol areo, I have visions of you flailing like an upturned tortoise...

spod · 18/01/2005 21:16

fimbo, thats awful... was babe okay?

nailpolish · 18/01/2005 21:17

omg fimbo poor you.

nailpolish · 18/01/2005 21:17

mornpaper - yet again you have me in fits!

morningpaper · 18/01/2005 21:20

oooh I meant Fimbo, not Aero.

(Not THE Fimbo I hope. That really WOULD be awful.)

Fimbo · 18/01/2005 21:21

Yep he was fine Spod, dh sort of managed to catch him. I was absolutely mortified, it was a Saturday afternoon, the nursery dept is practically in the toy dept in my local JL, so there were all these kids just looking up at me as I was lying there . Needless to say we didn't buy one - he's only 13mths but he eats like a horse and has always been "heavy". I keep praying he will walk one day soon..

Aero · 18/01/2005 21:23

Yup - mp - that about describes it to a tee - and don't forget there were four of us. Actually IIRC, older brother banged his head on something during one of our 'flights'!! Think it was one of the poles you're meant to hang on to. Clearly at that stage, he was too young to stop himself. He's driving age now and would be mortified if he knew I was relaying that story!

Aero · 18/01/2005 21:24

Even if you meant Fimbo - we looked a lot like that too!!

SoupDragon · 18/01/2005 21:24

I'm not a troll and, whilst I disagree completely with the driver's rudeness, attitude problem and the comments about you not giving a sh!t about your baby, I think he did have a point when he said you should ask first before getting on through the exit doors. I do actually think you should have spoken to him first.

morningpaper · 18/01/2005 21:25

Ooh aero you are obviously an upturned tortoise too! I really can't imagine how on earth you braved public transport under those conditions. I would need a valium to even think about waiting at a bus stop with three toddlers.

Aero · 18/01/2005 21:35

Yes mp - you'd have thought that was enough to make me stop at two! But common sense went out the window and we now have three (and a car!!!). Glad the bus days are behind me.

doobydoo · 18/01/2005 21:39

What a b*tard.Poor you.Bladdy public transport and ignorant pig.Complain,take it further.Get him sacked,make him be a new mum and try and negotiate un child friendly public transport and pavements!

misdee · 18/01/2005 22:03

soupdragon, thats what my dh said as well when iread this to him.

stil not exzcusing drivers rudeness btw!!

doobydoo · 18/01/2005 22:04

Yes but we all get flustered,hot and bothered.Not sure i would have asked.
Driver needs to go to charm school.

lowcalCOD · 18/01/2005 22:05

yes after all is soemthing had happened - he w oudl have been blamed

misdee · 18/01/2005 22:06

whats the hassle in stopping at the front doors, saying to driver, can i get on at the back with buggy, and then getting on?

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