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Was told I don't give a shit about my baby today.

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Flossam · 18/01/2005 17:39

My pram is (unfortunately) too big to fit through the front of the buses where I live (london) but luckily buses here have back doors too, which many people use to get on and off them. I got on the bus today at the back, and as I was doing so heard the hydrolics go for them to shut, but obviously the driver realised I was getting on and stopped. Anyway, I went to the front to pay and the driver said to me 'You pull a stunt like that again on my bus and you won't get on' I had to ask him to repeat it, and then tried to explain to him that I was sorry but I couldn't fit through the front. He said I should of 'asked' first. Anyway, I wasn't too bothered, walked away having paid and two more passengers got on. To the first he said 'did you see here with that bloody pram?' And to the second he said 'obviously dosen't give a shit about here baby'.

To this I saw absolutely red and went to the front of the bus again, when he repeated what he said again, and told me I could of killed my baby (I don't think so strapped in to a secure, if bulky pram). I told him I would complain and asked him his name, he laughed, asked him the bus number, again he laughed. I decided I couldn't stay on and got off the bus at the next stop, then thought about it and asked for my money back. Surprise, surprise, he refused. I went home again, cried all the way home, and have phoned a complaint through, but still felt the need to rant here, sorry. Did he really have any right to call me that? I think it's hard enough to be a new mum without people casting such dispersions over you.

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paolosgirl · 18/01/2005 20:06

VP has come out with some belters before this, believe me! There was one last year (wish I could find it) all about how boring her kids were as babies and toddlers, how the nanny bought them up, and how much she loves work because she has a darling PA to bring her coffee. It's only now they are 5 (apparently) that they have become interesting enough to talk to (or words to that effect). Had to be read to be believed!!!

lockets · 18/01/2005 20:07

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Flossam · 18/01/2005 20:08
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franch · 18/01/2005 20:09

This is the thread, PG. On the recent 'trolls' thread, it was agreed the best policy was to ignore &/or report to the MN team. Shall we do that?

paolosgirl · 18/01/2005 20:13

That was the thread...a unique and challenging viewpoint from VP, and so eloquently put! Shall we do what we do with the kids, and ignore the bad behaviour?

misdee · 18/01/2005 20:14

I may get kicked for this

but i thought back doors for buses were for exiting only?

Yes, the driver was rude, but its not the bus companies fault that buggies cant fit thro the doors of them, and if they dont have spaces for buggies then you should collaspe them as its a health and safety issue having buggies in the aisles. i used to hand the kids to the bus driver or a friendly looking old lady whilst i collasped the buggy. most of them were very friendly, and one driver even got off the bus to collapse the buggy for me (huge tandem).

It will be another 10years b4 all buses/tubes/trains have to be wheelchair (and at the same time buggy) accessable, so we are gonna have to grin and bear it with collasping buggies.

franch · 18/01/2005 20:14

I think we should, PG

lockets · 18/01/2005 20:16

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paolosgirl · 18/01/2005 20:17

I take your point misdee, but it doesn't sound as if he was the kind of driver that you could hand your kids to while you collapsed the buggy .

morningpaper · 18/01/2005 20:17

I'm afraid I'm going to have to give you a good kicking, misdee.

misdee · 18/01/2005 20:17

been a while since i went on buses in london i admit. but there must be a way round it? surely london has some friendly people.

and flossam, give the nasty bus driver hell for being rude!

misdee · 18/01/2005 20:18

thank you morning paper!!!

can u wait whilst i get my iron butt fitted!!

Socci · 18/01/2005 20:18

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misdee · 18/01/2005 20:21

not gonna get into arguement of cleaniness of old ladies.

you could perch your child on the floor then if u want

paolosgirl · 18/01/2005 20:21

Because you should be washing your kids hands

morningpaper · 18/01/2005 20:22

misdee is that your NORMAL butt?! I thought you already had your iron one on.

misdee · 18/01/2005 20:22

lol paolosgirl.

misdee · 18/01/2005 20:23

hahaha, my butt is huge.

Socci · 18/01/2005 20:27

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misdee · 18/01/2005 20:28

its when the old men with dirty fingernails offer the kids sweet u politly turn them down and say the kids have had too many sweets already that day. lovely man, just very grubby.

pinkdiamond · 18/01/2005 20:32

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nailpolish · 18/01/2005 20:36

oh flossam you poor thing.

havent read others posts but just wanted to say i know how hard it is to get out and about with a baby, by the time you get organised, etc etc, and good for you getting out of the house. its all you need to get kn*bends like the driver of the bus being like that.

lunavix · 18/01/2005 20:41

Oh you poor thing

Hope you are okay now and he gets a thorough roasting if not worse...

Caligula · 18/01/2005 20:41

Well I think it IS the bus companies' fault that buggies don't fit through them - they should have been designing their buses so that buggies and wheelchairs can fit through them. They commission the designs, they buy the designs. They decide that the comfort and safety of mothers, children, the disabled and the elderly are not a priority when they commission the designs, even though a large number of their users fit that demographic profile exactly.

And legally we might have to wait 10 years, but the bus companies have known about mothers, buggies, wheelchairs and old people for at least 40 years, since those groups first started tentatively saying that maybe, just maybe, they should be allowed full access to public transport just as everyone else is. How comes it has taken them so long to even think about the issue, let alone solve it?

Because we don't cause enough of a nuisance of ourselves, that's why. I'm donning my Catwoman outfit complete with iron butt immediately!

Caligula · 18/01/2005 20:42

Oh and Flossam, you could send this thread to Ken - the smug old git, I bet he never has to use the bus with shopping and child in tow.