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Will hopefully speak to you all soon(ish)............and sorry.....

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FAQ · 27/03/2008 02:48

I've realised that I've spent the last few weeks (especially the last week) just moaning. You've all given me lovely, kind, helpful advice and support, but I'm just not ready to act on it.

I need to deal with this on my own so won't be around until I've kicked myself into gear.

I'm sorry for wasting all your time trying to help and encourage me, but, well I'm reading it, understanding and knowing what you're saying is right, but I just can't do anything about it right now.

Hopefully will be back soon once I've given myself a kick up the arse and got myself sorted

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padboz · 27/03/2008 11:18

FFS I like you! If you insist on seeing yourself as a burden, which you aren't, then at least recognise you have quite a big beast on which to carry yourself! there are hundreds of people sharing the load!

zippitippitoes · 27/03/2008 11:18

i dint mean you didnt have any rl friends by the way

i meant that ime they do tend to not stick around if you get seriously depressed or in fact you drive them away dont communicate with them etc

brandy is a crap thing to drink by the way..why are you drinking that you must be getting the worst of hangovers

TigerFeet · 27/03/2008 11:18

FAQ - I think you need MN more than ever. I don't know your story (did you used to post under a different name?) but your need for human kindness spills out of your posts.

Keep posting, you have loads of friends on here who want to help, even if it's just a friendly shoulder to lean on when you need to offload.

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FAQ · 27/03/2008 11:19

no I'm not getting any hangovers........anyhow - got to go and pick DS2 up from nursery

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padboz · 27/03/2008 11:22

you'd better be back soon, doll. Maybe the Bar is the best place for you admittedly, but I expect to see you in some kind of hastily constructed temperance/milk bar tonight or there will be trouble

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FAQ · 27/03/2008 12:06

I'm back, came back via the shop......

Supposed to be going to toddler group this afternoon but not sure I'm up to it. Told my BF just now and asked if I was feeling down - told her "yes just a little bit".....there was my opportunity to tell someone in RL and I let it go

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Fimbo · 27/03/2008 12:20

FAQ when are the Easter holidays for your dc?

Would another visit to Edinburgh help?

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FAQ · 27/03/2008 12:27

break-up on the 4th of April, can't do another Edinburgh trip, brother really busy now, and I couldn't face the travelling up on my own with the DS's atm

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padboz · 27/03/2008 12:28

Good girl, still here then?

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FAQ · 27/03/2008 12:31

yes still here.

All this crap about me being "strong" - I can't even stick to what I know is right and stop posting

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padboz · 27/03/2008 12:32

I still dont get it - why do you think it will help?

padboz · 27/03/2008 12:34

And anyway - you dont have to be strong, just strong enough to keep walking through the night - a new days on the other side (on the other siiiiiide) keep on walking

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FAQ · 27/03/2008 12:35

because without people telling me "you've got good reason to feel like this" (or similar) I might just actually realise I don't really have a good reason for being like this and may even try and do something about it.

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Aitch · 27/03/2008 12:35

oh FAQ, you're so down on yourself, it's grim. what can we do to help? just listen?

Aitch · 27/03/2008 12:36

oh you've got good reason to feel like this, you twit. of course you do, stop expecting yourself to be teflon-coated.

Fimbo · 27/03/2008 12:39

Is h having time off during the school holidays?

Perhaps a bit of me time will help, rather than being bogged down with childcare, the house, cleaning, shopping etc.

padboz · 27/03/2008 12:39

I assume what you are saying is that this is all your fault? and we keep saying its not?

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FAQ · 27/03/2008 12:44

but it is my fault

No-one forces me to keep my feelings bottled up in RL
No-one forced me to cause so many arguments with H
No-one forces me to shout/snap at the DS's
No-one forces me to pick up the bottle.

The only person that can take the blame for that is me

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zippitippitoes · 27/03/2008 12:45

you are probably right

do you want to be told to get a grip

padboz · 27/03/2008 12:46

Right, can we take that as a list of what you want to address?

I think we start with point 4 and work backwards, dont you? 4 = 1, 2 and 3.

And I doubt a single person will tell you giving up booze alone is the best way.

padboz · 27/03/2008 12:48

I'm not saying the key to all this isn't in your hands, I'm saying we can keep picking it up when you drop it, chuck it away, loose it

padboz · 27/03/2008 12:48

how are you going to improve any of those things by removing the support you're getting here?

zippitippitoes · 27/03/2008 12:49

that is you are right that we bring on our own problems and we also hold the key to getting past them

in the final analysis it is up to you how you resolve everything

the thing you dont get to choose is to do nothing

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FAQ · 27/03/2008 12:55

I should do what I said in my thread title

Bye.

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dizzydixies · 27/03/2008 12:56

wait wait wait