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CAN ANYONE ANSWER THIS REALLY ODD DEPRESSING QUESTION???

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igglepiggles · 22/02/2008 21:43

if a mother has an 12 week old baby and tries to committ suicide eg Slashing wrists and then threaten to kill her DH/DP (not the baby) but she is either asleep or really sort of blacked out and doesnt even know she is doing it. and she does need hospital treatment eg stitches. but the DP/DH is sane, what will happen to the mother??

i kow this is an odd question but can anyone answer it??

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GerrardWinstanley · 23/02/2008 02:21

in RL, I'm rubbish at serious conversations so am probably the worst to advise you on how to get her to open up. Do you think you could persuade her to come on here and talk about the stuff that's been happening to her? If enough strangers urge her to seek help, she may just do it.

She doesn't just have a problem, she's ill. If her family is ashamed of her for getting pregnant then I guess they'll be none too keen to see her diagnosed with a mental illness.

Don't know what else to say really except she needs help and help is out there if she asks for it. I guess it's just a question of finding a way to get her to ask for that help before things get any worse.

I'm really very worried about that 12-week old baby. For his sake, she needs to get well.

Lulumama · 23/02/2008 09:49

i hope she gets the help she needs. if it is PP, i know someone who had PP after her first child and was able to go on and have 2 more children .. she had in patient treatment.

it is really important that she seeks help

you are a good friend to be so concerned.

i would try talking to the DP and express how serious this is and she neesd help, but that it is not going to mean the baby is taken into care....

good luck!

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igglepiggles · 23/02/2008 10:43

thanx all of you for your advice i feel really bad abou it. well its got to a stage that i cant sleep as you can see frm the time of my posts on here at 1 this morn i was still watching the clock go around at 4.55 this morn i feel like im just waiting for a phone call to say summing has happend cos id be the one to have her DS which is no probsbut i dont want it to get to that stage

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trishpops · 23/02/2008 10:55

hi igglepiggles,
only skimmed the thread, but someone i knew a few years ago had a similar situation, she was in psychosis. she was sectioned and the baby was kept with her in hospital,there are special mother and baby mental helath units i'm sure. although her husband was well and perfectly capable of looking after baby at home, the reason baby is kept with mum is to ensure bonding takes place. obviously i haven't read the whole thread, but the person i knew spent several weeks in hospital and did recover well, so i hope the same happens here.

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igglepiggles · 23/02/2008 11:01

thankyou trishpops, its the prob of getting her seeing that she needs to get help, but i really think that if she did/does know i really dont think that she would go because she is so terrified. some people a terrified of heights and she s the same with hospitals.

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trishpops · 23/02/2008 11:07

it sounds like you friend is not in hospital at the moment.....was she discharged after self harming? usually people who go to hospital with self harm injuries are seen by a mental health nurse, did this happen? what a worrying time for you all. it's such a difficult situation, i'll keep everything crossed for you

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igglepiggles · 23/02/2008 11:16

mmm. she was discharged frm the hosp after the wrist incident but she has done a few "attintion seeking" things in her younger teens, but only i knew about it. its just she doesnt seem to sufer with depression, she said that her and her DP had had a really good night next thing she knew she was on the floor, and could hear her DP on the phone, then next thing the ambulance was there she doesnt remember me being there, but she was screamin to me like she was "mad"

she hasnt done it since, she s just having night mares i think she is truely scared it could happen again but wont see she might have a problem.

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Lulumama · 23/02/2008 12:01

if she does not see that she has a problem, then to me that is indicative of her having a serious problem

slashing your wrists, whether for attention, to attempt suicide, or done in some sort of black out is not normal behaviour.

her DP can speak to the HV and doctor or mental health crisis team about this..

twinsetandpearls · 23/02/2008 13:06

I was going to say the same as lulumama. I have an ongoing mental illness, at the moment it is quite under control and part of that is knowing i have a problem. However it starts to get dangerous when i think every thing is ok and it is a sign that i am starting to loose touch with reality. I would repeat that a mother and baby unit is not like a hospital, going there was possibly one of the best things i did. You do need to be in the right area though. There is as far as i know the bethlem and manchester.

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