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Valentines day - what a load of rubbish

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mrsruffallo · 13/02/2008 19:32

Tacky, sleazy, only celebrated by those in dysfunctional relationships. DP and I never celebrate it- but have been called cynical and unromantic.
Does anyone celebrate it all?

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nickytwotimes · 13/02/2008 19:34

We give each other a card (usually from Asda, bought the night before) and that's it. I would rather do something romantic another time - it should be spontaneous rather than contrived.

janeite · 13/02/2008 19:36

We don't "do" Valentines Day at all. I think it's exactly what you say - tacky and sleazy. I see no reason why Clintons should make a profit out of me telling dp that I love him once a year - weird.

FromGirders · 13/02/2008 19:39

The way I see it, Valentines Day was around long before Clintons and Hallmark, so I 'm not going to let them ruin it for me. We do handmade cards (or at least I do, though dh sometimes makes some really cool pictures on the PC).
I'd be sad if I didn't get at least a wee minding on Valentine's day.

janeite · 13/02/2008 19:41

Totally off the subject but I love your name!!!

TheFallenMadonna · 13/02/2008 19:43

I like it...

FromGirders · 13/02/2008 19:45

Um . . was that to me ?
I don't often get noticed really! I like yours though, because I'm a jane-in-the-middle (like every other seventies-born girl).

janeite · 13/02/2008 19:49

Yes it was to you! I'm not really a Jane - just a big Jane Austen fan.

aGalChangedHerName · 13/02/2008 19:52

I like it too,we are very dysfunctional,only been together 20 yrs

InTheseShoes · 13/02/2008 19:54

I'm not a big fan although I will pout if I don't get a card. Have written dh's tonight and it's turned into a bit of a letter really.

FromGirders, I take it you are Scottish - or a fan or irnbru??

nutcracker · 13/02/2008 19:57

Well I hate it, but thats because I am single and stand more chance of winning the lottery than recieving a card.

CalintineFrauers · 13/02/2008 19:59

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foofi · 13/02/2008 20:00

SHIT - I have forgotten to buy a card.

FromGirders · 13/02/2008 20:16

I am both
though trying hard to fight my addiction to the orange stuff. Gone from six cans a day (when working) to two or three a week. DS calls it "mummy's medicine juice" coz I only drink it when I'm really running out of energy .

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mrsruffallo · 13/02/2008 22:17

But surely romance should be spontaneous and heartfelt? Feels so force to do anything on Valentines Day IMO

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Flibbertyjibbet · 13/02/2008 22:38

Absolutely, Mrsruffalo.
My twat of an xp used to make a big fuss of buying flowers and cards on valentines day then treat me like shit the other 364 days of the year.
Now I never get a card (well only the ones the kiddies make at nursery) but somehow I don't even notice.
I'd rather have a good man all year round than a big card and flowers once a year from a dickhead.

LyraSilvertongue · 13/02/2008 22:44

DP and I usually buy each other cards but this year we've agreed not to bother at all. His £2 will be better spent on a cappuccino or something instead of a silly card.

Ledodgy · 13/02/2008 22:44

I've given up this year and haven't even bought a card. Twelve years down the line, 3 kids and no marriage proposal and no hope of even a card tommorrow even though I only gave birth to our 3rd exactly 6 weeks ago takes it's toll. Yes I agree it' a a marketing ploy but it's a kick up the arse chance for them to be a bit romantic when they aren't normally.

Boco · 13/02/2008 22:46

Dp once made a rubber cast of his own kissing lips, which involved sticking his lips in plaster for half an hour. I still have them, in a little packet.

jeremyspants · 13/02/2008 23:38

CalintineFrauers- LOL
Yes, it is my 'off games week' too and am miffed beyond belief. AND I've sniffed out then wolfed the chocs dh bought.

aGalChangedHerName · 14/02/2008 07:16

I don't think anyone who chooses not to celebrate it is unromantic,your choice to ignore the commercial side of it all.

However DH and i never really get out so it's a perfect excuse to get ds1 to babysit for ds2 and our dd's.

We only got married last year so still in honeymoon mode and i like getting and giving cards. So i don't agree that it's a load of rubbish. Maybe it's only folk in dysfunctional relationships who can't or won't celebrate it??

Sobernow · 14/02/2008 07:37

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Flllightattendant · 14/02/2008 07:38

I am all bah humbug about it.

Lovely if you're with someone, not if you aren't and have no hope ever of being again as long as you live (or feel as though that's the case)

Ack. I'm going back to bed

Mind you, anything is better than a soggy box of chocolates left outside in an open bag in the rain, with the ugliest bear you have ever seen, presumably from my ex last year

He denied it
Can't blame him for that

chelsygirl · 14/02/2008 07:39

I agrree load of tacky rubbish

also hate the tacky "gifts" for sale in places like asda - acrylic scratchy thongs, horrible cakes etc

yuk!

AussieSim · 14/02/2008 08:07

Well, must be dyfunctional too! Together 10years, pregnant with DC3. We went out to dinner together on the 12th - beat the rush with babysitters and restaurant bookings. DH has just come home with 3 Pandora charms and a single red rose and I got him the new John Grisham book - the best part though was the lovely emails to each other this morning - as he went to work before I was awake - very loving.

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mrsruffallo · 14/02/2008 12:50

chelsygirrl- the gifts in Asda are vile, I agree. Scratchy looking 'romantic' underwear was the worse offender-in bright red too!!!!

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