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would you do this?

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nappyaddict · 04/02/2008 11:34

if you worked nights and your child was always in bed and asleep before you went out and never wakes up, would you give your neighbour who was wellknown to your child the baby monitor to keep an ear out on the offchance that they do wake up and a key to get in on that offchance rather than giving up work? (a babysitter costs more than i earn an hour)

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Lulumama · 05/02/2008 16:39

yes, i realise that
so the options are:

change hours

change jobs

give up work and see if entiteld to any other benefits

get free childcare of some sort

NA, what have you been doing for care up until now? sorry if you have answered this already

Lulumama · 05/02/2008 16:39

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can you swap hours with someone else at work? without it taking weeks for the boss to sort

Lulumama · 05/02/2008 16:40

and how come your mum cannot ahve DS anymore? sorry again if you have already answered

ScoobyDoo · 05/02/2008 16:41

Do you have sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, friends, grandparents or anyone who could sit with your ds for a few weeks, obviously people you trust.

Do you get tax credits or are you to young?

thelittleElf · 05/02/2008 16:42

Luvaduck i hope you find your 'mary poppins' . I'll keep an eye out for your thread and help if i can.

NA - i think you are being very irrisponsible with your attitude to your sons care and well being. I'm now stepping away from this thread for a while before i say what i REALLY want to

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:42

she has been off work with illness and the doctor has finally signed her back on.

that is what the boss will basically be doing. there isn't one person i could swap with though cos there aren't that many staff so i always work with at least 1 or 2 of them. that is why it will take a few weeks cos i will have to swap my shifts around with a lot of different people. and that's only if they all agree to it.

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:44

no i don't get tax credits that is something i am still sorting out. everything just takes forever

all my family live at least an hours drive away .

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MotherFunk · 05/02/2008 16:44

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Lulumama · 05/02/2008 16:45

what was your plan for when she went back to work?

let's hope the 14 year old is able to help out...

it is a difficult situation , finding good , affordable child care

MotherFunk · 05/02/2008 16:45

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:45

MF - he suggested all those things yesterday, but as i said he can't just change all the rota's like that. it's going to take a few weeks asking what shifts people wouldn't mind swapping etc.

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LadyOfWaffle · 05/02/2008 16:46

Can you get parental leave until he sorts the hours out? When does your mum start work again? I am sure by law they have to give you child care friendly hours, or pay you until they can provide them.

wannaBe · 05/02/2008 16:46

haven't read whole thread so apologies if I am repeating.

When the whole mmc threads were ongoing, someone linked to a news artacle from about two years ago about a mother who had gone out to a nightclub, had left her child sleeping in his cot, and while she was out he died of sids. She went to jail.

What you are proposing is neglect.

don't do it.

Lulumama · 05/02/2008 16:47

it does not take weeks to call 3 or 4 staff members and ask them to swap shifts

he is dragging his feet

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:48

i didn't have a plan for when she went back to work. she has been off for months. my step-dad used to have him the nights she worked before she was signed off but he and my mum have split up now.

tax credits are proving difficult to sort out cos it is my mum who gets the CB for him.

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:49

you only have the right to ask for flexible hours which i have done. you don't actually have the right to receive them. a straight swap won't work cos of the way the shifts are done. it would mean me swapping with a) who would swap with b) who would swap with c) iyswim.

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MotherFunk · 05/02/2008 16:54

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/02/2008 16:54

Why cant the dad help?

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 05/02/2008 16:56

I suggest we all leave this now.

NA is going to do what she wants and anything we say is going to be ignored.

She implied it was a hypotheitical situation when it is clearly real.

She needs to grow up and be a mother to her child instead of planning on leaving him with a 14 year old.

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:57

because we normally have 1 person working 12-3, 5-finish and one person working 3-9 to cover the day shifts.

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LadyOfWaffle · 05/02/2008 16:57

When does your mum start work?

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:58

i don't know what is wrong with a 14 year old babysitter when there will be 2 adults nearby should a problem occur. no one has ever suggested to me this is wrong.

ds' dad is not around.

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WatsTheStory · 05/02/2008 16:58

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:58

she starts at 12 or 1.

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Lulumama · 05/02/2008 16:58

this job, that is not going to pay you enough to have decent childcare, that is going to use up your holiday pay, that your boss is unable to sort out a new rota without weeks notice,sounds absolutely crap. there must be other bars or restaurants you can work in.

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