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would you do this?

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nappyaddict · 04/02/2008 11:34

if you worked nights and your child was always in bed and asleep before you went out and never wakes up, would you give your neighbour who was wellknown to your child the baby monitor to keep an ear out on the offchance that they do wake up and a key to get in on that offchance rather than giving up work? (a babysitter costs more than i earn an hour)

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ScoobyDoo · 05/02/2008 16:17

Huh i am so confused by your posts you keep back tracking, you are now saying he is a light sleeper?

In you op post you wrote -

if you worked nights and your child was always in bed and asleep before you went out and never wakes up

So is he a light sleeper or does he never wake up?

Lulumama · 05/02/2008 16:17

I had a 14/15 year old babysit for me. she was exceptionally mature, had done a first aid course, her mum is SENCO at DSs school, she was very adult in her outlook

i babysat regularly from aged 14 for my parent's friends

but possibly if this job is going to eat up all your wages in childcare, maybe think about looking for a different job, or as i said,putting work on hold until you can sort out proper long term childcare

hunofmonsters · 05/02/2008 16:18

is this real or not NA? you have contradicted yourself so ,many times in this thread that its becoming difficult to know which bits are real and which aren't.

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:18

he is both. he never wakes up but would if there was a lot of noise/activity around him.

yes he had bronchiolitus when he was 3 months old.

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thelittleElf · 05/02/2008 16:18

Luvaduck - thank you for your lovely comments last night, i've only just read them. I guess i just really care about what i do, and given that a child is another persons most prized posession, i will do anything and everything to ensure well being and safety

Yes as Shiny said, i am currently looking for another family to work with, but i live in hampshire? I bet this is sooooo far from you??

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:20

my hours haven't suddenly changed. they are the same hours i have always had. my mum who usually has ds has been off work due to illness and her doctor has finally given her note to say she can go back.

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mellowma · 05/02/2008 16:20

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Lulumama · 05/02/2008 16:20

also,it would seem to me that if you are earning £20 a night, it is really not worth your while as you will either spend all your wages on childcare or not have adequate care?>

mellowma · 05/02/2008 16:21

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:22

but as i said if my boss can sort out my hours for me then it would only be for a few weeks. using the 14 year old is not a long term arrangement purely because i can't afford it! i have already said my boss has said he can give me my holiday pay so i can pay for a babysitter for the few weeks it will take him to figure out a new rota.

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:22

there is no legal age required to be a babysitter.

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 05/02/2008 16:23

I'm leaving this thread now, I would have liked to help you but it has just gone round in circles.
I think there is a lot more too this than you are letting on. You ignore important questions and points, and as others have said, you backtrack.
In my opinion a mother who has even considered voluntarily putting her child into foster care when the circumstances did not at all warrant it has serious issues. Issues that we on mumsnet can do nothing to help you resolve.
I just hope you have some good support or things could end up going very wrong for you.

hunofmonsters · 05/02/2008 16:23

just tell your boss no you can't do it simple as that.

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:23

what issues have i ignored?

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:24

hom - can't do what? my hours haven't been changed. i have already said that.

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MotherFunk · 05/02/2008 16:25

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ChristmasShinySnowflakes · 05/02/2008 16:25

How ofetn has this 14 year old been caring for your child and for what length of time?

I think you said since your child was a year old...so that would have made her 13 years old, right?

Whilst that might not be illegal as such, it's hardly best practice don't you agree?

dippydeedoo · 05/02/2008 16:25

You said (direct quote) 'a job in a bar doesnt pay anything like a job in the day where childcare and other facilities exist.....if you want a job start living in the real world and taking responsibility seriously'

a job in a bar doesnt pay anything like a job in the day we are not talking qualified bar manager position here we are saying part time hours in the evening with tips that cant always be relied on against a job in the day.....my comment about living in the real world and taking responsibility equates to 3 -4 hours bar work in the evening against true hard graft in the day and the responsibility is attatched to finding adequate childcare nothing else......

im finding you rather quick to misread what posters say .....

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:26

i start at 6 and finish any time between 10 and 11:30.

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ChristmasShinySnowflakes · 05/02/2008 16:26

Mf that sounds a much better plan if the 15 year old agreed of course....

ScoobyDoo · 05/02/2008 16:26

Well quite obviously if you have no one to have your son you can't do your job, it has nothign to do with your hours!

hunofmonsters · 05/02/2008 16:27

no you say your hours haven't changed but your circumstances have

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:27

pub is about 2 mins away.

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hunofmonsters · 05/02/2008 16:28

starting at 6 would mean that there needs to be someone there to settle your child into bed and possibly finish his tea seeing as how you already said you let him eat whenever he likes!

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nappyaddict · 05/02/2008 16:28

i have told him i can't do those hours anymore. he has said if he can give me more suitable hours he will, but he can't sort it out straight away it will take a few weeks.

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