would you do this?

[nappyaddict]

if you worked nights and your child was always in bed and asleep before you went out and never wakes up, would you give your neighbour who was wellknown to your child the baby monitor to keep an ear out on the offchance that they do wake up and a key to get in on that offchance rather than giving up work? (a babysitter costs more than i earn an hour)

By nappyaddict on Tue 05-Feb-08 14:28:47
i know it just is wrong. i guess i over analyse too much and should just accept that it is wrong and that's that rather than starting hypothetical threads

well, quite!

if you know it is wrong, then why do you need 200 + messages to convince you

if you want to work, there must be other options. or you accept that you cannot work until your LO is at nursery or there is another option for safe childcare.

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i knew it was wrong from the beginning and that it is just one of those things you have to accept but i am just one of these people who wants to know why why why

what are childcare vouchers and how do i get them?

no.

snap

no

You can get them as part of the working family tax credit.
If you are not entitled then most employers run a scheme where a portion of your wages goes untaxed to pay directly for childcare.

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I think the issue with regards to using car seats in cars but not on buses, trains, taxis etc, simply boils down to the practicality of it. It is easy to have a car seat in your car permenantly but to lug one around to the bus station to use, or use one in a taxii (but then what do you do with it once you reach your destination), just isn't feasible once they are out of the first stage that clips onto the pushchair.

www.hmrc.gov.uk/childcare/taxcredits-guidance.htm

NA, sorry if it's been suggested before, but is there any space at your neighbours to put up a travel cot?

No

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and this is still a hypothetical question, to garner opinions?

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DS was rushed to hospital in an ambulance recently (he is fine). I went with him and sat, without a seatbelt on, with him in my arms, also obviously unrestrained. I was obviously panicked and stressed but was still a bit worried about this. I'm sure drivers are trained for this, but he did have to slam his brakes on when someone pulled out in front of him and I went flying. DS, in my arms, didn't even wake up

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we're just trying to establish whether she could put her dc in a travel cot in her neighbour's house. Is that not acceptable either?

they live in a normal 3 bed house - nothing huge. i don't have a travel cot and don't really want to buy one for the few weeks it will take to sort out my hours. i don't think my employer does childcare vouchers so i will just have to use up my holiday pay to pay for a sitter - hopefully the 14 year old who lives 4 doors away will agree to doing it. i asked my boss yesterday and he said i could have the holiday pay without actually having any days off iyswim, which i don't really want to do but there is no way around it.

i know loads of people in the summer who sit in next doors garden while the kids are asleep. i think my neighbour was thinking it was ok to suggest it because there's not much difference between sitting in next doors garden and next doors house.

i think that is fine, a travel cot in the neighbour's house.. if that was addressed to me.

but my point is, NA posted this as a hypothetical query. if she really does need childcare for the evenings, then why could she just not ask the best way to sort it? rather than some mythical scenario

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Nappyaddict, I recently posted on here about a situation with a nanny who provided excellent references and qualifications but things went wrong.
Please be more cautious about who you leave your child with.
A 14 year old acquaintance is not good enough to provide care on a regular basis.

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