long story short long time reader first time poster well my mum got married to my step dad 30 year ago they split after 10 year and went on their way but never got divorced just split up and moved on dont know what happend to step dad dont care but mum took up a diffrent last name went on to have a son with someone else hes 19 now shes not with his dad i did ask why did she not want a divorce she said after 7 years its automaic divorce i said its NOT she replied with yes it is and went on about something i asked why did you change your name she said i didint i got maried in my nic name boom shell my birth certificate as my mums nick name on it as well and last name turns out to be diffrent to hers she took up a whole diffrenrent ID but put her fake name on her first 4 kids birth certificate and got married with her fake name and claimed all sorts of benififts in her fake name i told her she could get in trouble but she laugh at me as said pepole would be looking for for a ghost then its been years no one cares WOW i hung up the phone . and she dont understand why her now adult kids have no contact with her only me that talks by phone her son still lives at home . i just wanted to rant about .