References and application forms question

[nutcracker]

When asking for a reference, the form asks for the position of the refferee and their relationship to me.

What do i put ?

The refferee is the assistant manager, but I have put that in 'position'.

Also I need a 2nd ref and have to choose between a family friend who has known me for over 20yrs but could only give a character ref, or an employer from about 12 years ago who won't now even be working at the place I worked at/.

is he/she your immediate manager? or line manager or some such other stupid office-speak

put that

who would you rather gave you a ref? you could always put both - add in whether character or ref from employment 12 yrs ago

Erm she was the one who interviewed me and started me in the job and the one i'd have gone to after the evening supervisor.

I am not sure which to put for other ref, as if I put character one, it looks like I have only ever had one job, but if i put the hotel one, they won't actually be able to get a ref from her i don't think.

i put immediate manager in the 'relationship to you' bit

its ahrd inst it
i am applying for jobs just now to and want to give a ref to agreat job i had but i dont know anyone who works there now!

its so difficult

i think id put the character ref

bu you must also mention to hotel job - is there a bit where get to write about experience or whatever?

Thanks

It is very hard, you are right. I have to resist the urge to put 'PLEASE GIVE ME A CHANCE' on the bottom of the form LOL.

I will use the character ref i think, but I have also included the hotel in the list of employment.

is it nosy of me to ask about the job?

Oh it's for a part time clerical assistant in a nursery attatched to a primary school.

well good luck nutty! that sounds like a lovely job

Thank you, it certainly would be ideal for me.