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Suprise wedding

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PeckaRollover · 22/11/2004 14:40

Do you think there is any chance of this working?

Ive had the idea of getting married over the christmas period.

Ceremony would just be us and very close friends and family then throwing a huge suprise party where nobody knew and then making it a big suprise when I come in in my dress?

What do you think?

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princesspeahead · 22/11/2004 22:22

Winter weddings are fab. You could make such an entrance in a wonderful evening-y glam dress./ And you could have fireworks!

WestCountryLass · 22/11/2004 22:43

Oooo, yes, I nearly had a winter wedding and had picked out a gorgeous corseted dress with long sleeves, and marabou feathers round the collar and cuffs, it was gorgeous, it even had marabou pompom ties for the back dreaming

Actually, I did still have a winter wedding, jsut not in this country so a strapless was in order

hatter · 22/11/2004 22:52

What would you do if someone you really wanted to be there (and who you know would want to be there if they knew it was a wedding) said they couldn't come for some reason that was ok for not coming to a Christmas party but which you know they'd work round if they knew it was a wedding? That's a very long sentence. I hope it makes sense.

eemie · 22/11/2004 23:31

We decided on 19 Nov and married on Jan 5, so similar timescale. No secret, we invited people to a wedding. Phoned them all first, letting them know to keep the date free, then backed up with written invitation. That way anyone who was lukewarm about coming had the perfect excuse, with it being so near Christmas/New Year. We told friends that if they came that would be our present. Ceremony and reception in same place, so no trudging around in slush.

I'm trying to think what would have been different if we hadn't told them it was a wedding. Quite a lot, I think. It was a big effort for people to make at that time of year when there are so many party invitations. Some friends travelled a long way on a Sunday; some stayed overnight in hotels; one missed his train so went to Gatwick, got a plane then hired a car to get to us, which he certainly wouldn't have done for a party. The one or two who cancelled because of colds etc. knew what they were passing up.

Hope that helps. Ours was a dream and yours will be too

marthamoo · 22/11/2004 23:50

Ooh do it do it! Invite me - I have a suit and everything!

Which dress did you go for in the end? Are you still having it if you go for the impromptu wedding?

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PeckaRollover · 27/11/2004 11:37

Ive changed my mind AGAIN!!!!!!

Alot of the motivation in all this is money - I have to accept we really cant afford a lavish affair and Im starting to think I dont even want to spend the money on the impromptu party.

Im thinking now that me, david and kids will go and get married at register office whenever we fancy then use some of the money to have our first family holiday - then get on with life

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PeckaRollover · 28/11/2004 10:46

Have I bored everyone so much now that the thread is dead?

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hatter · 29/11/2004 13:21

If money is your motivation then I think there are ways around it - and I;m sure your friends wouldn;t want to be deprived of the chance to celebrate your wedding. If you do the reg office thing, why don't you have a big summer picnic. Don't present it as a "wedding reception" just say you'd like ervyone to come together to help you celebrate: you'll provide (whatever, a glass of champagne for a toast) and games for the children - no-one would mind. It just seems a shame, that if YOU want to have everyone celebrate with you to let money stop you.

codswallop · 29/11/2004 13:22

thankg od br has seent he light!

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PeckaRollover · 29/11/2004 13:28

This is getting ridiculous - things just whizz about my head all of the time, I think I have decided on something then it all goes wrong again!

My mum and sis talked me into going abroad to get married yesterday so close family could still share the day but avoiding the huge hoo haa and expense of big white wedding. They reckon if I just nick off to the registry office I will regret it.

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codswallop · 29/11/2004 13:28

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

codswallop · 29/11/2004 13:29

are they paying br?

vict17 · 29/11/2004 13:30

I think you need to make a decision based on what you really want to do and stick with it as all the to-ing and fro-ing is allowing relatives and friends to stick their opinion in!! Me and dh decided on exactly what we wanted and told out families and that was that

jampot · 29/11/2004 13:31

what do you want BR? and what's your max budget?

katzguk · 29/11/2004 13:31

the suprise wedding is still very do-able. Why not as planned go and get married but for the do just organise a big party, the costs are kept low by asking everyone to bring food. Not unusal for christmas parties you could even write a list to divy all the food up. Most poeple will happily bring a pasta salad or something simialar.

The only real expense to you might be hiring a hall and maybe some booze, could you do a run to france? thats what my friend did for her wedding Sparkling wine for just £1.50 a bottle they bought lots.

codswallop · 29/11/2004 13:31

also consider not getting married till things calm down?

jampot · 29/11/2004 13:31

our wedding was exactly how we wanted (low key, informal, more friends than family) and cost less than £2k 6 years ago.

codswallop · 29/11/2004 13:32

tell her girlfrien'

( coddy morphs back in to middle aged white English woman)

katzguk · 29/11/2004 13:33

we managed to do a white church wedding for 60 guests (sit down dinner) and evening disco for 120 guests for less than 3K. Have got lots of tips on how to save money. Best one was buying wedding dress in Jan sales for less than half price!!!

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PeckaRollover · 29/11/2004 13:35

Im rather pathetic arent I!

People have suggested not getting married until it calms down and i have more money but the marriage is becoming more important than the party (which is a good thing right!??!)

As far as budget goes I have 3,000 pounds that I actally have in my possession - anything above that I think I have to say goodbye to - my dad hasnt offered and we dont have room in our finances to throw any more at it

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codswallop · 29/11/2004 13:36

oh fgs
why not send them all 20 quid and say heres he money I would spend on you plsease buy us a presnt!
and save allt he hassle!!

wiosh i had gone low key for mine

jampot · 29/11/2004 13:38

BR - why not let us all organise your wedding and then it really will be a surprise!!!!!?????

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PeckaRollover · 29/11/2004 13:38

Can anyone find the last thread? There were some nice ideas on getting married abroad low key on there

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jampot · 29/11/2004 13:39

do you WANT to get married abroad?

I liked your original idea of a week ago.

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PeckaRollover · 29/11/2004 13:40

Which one of the 1,234 ideas was that Jampot?!

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