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No sick leave!!

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Lynne33 · 29/10/2002 11:19

Do you ever find yourself wishing sometimes, that someone had shown you a job-description before you became a mum?!!

I am feeling a bit sorry for myself at the moment because I have come down with a stinker of a cold. When this happens to my dh, he can leave work, come home and take to his bed. Great!! Unfortunately for me, when you have two kids aged 5 and 2 and it's half-term, you don't have that luxury, and I've got dh 'helpfully' suggesting I just try and get on with it and stop feeling sorry for myself. I could happily strangle him!!!

Having said that, I know when he comes home he will make the dinner, do the washing up etc., but that still leaves the other 10 or so hours of the day.

Sorry, vent over, I just had to get it off (my rather wheezy) chest. Thanks.

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Philippat · 29/10/2002 12:49

Hope you're feeling better!

Don't know if this applies to your DH but I (and any other parentor carer, male or female) can take 3 sick days a year (paid!) to care for sick child.

Perhaps he should at least ask!

Of course he's entitled to unpaid leave under EU rules but that's another matter...

sobernow · 29/10/2002 12:54

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titchy · 29/10/2002 13:05

Oh mega sympathy here. My dh yesterday had a b*gger of a job trying to get into work (trees across train lines etc), so what did he do? Battle on? Work from home? No, took a day's sickie! And spent the day reading. (I was at work and children at nursery). Lucky swine. Also if he genuinely is ill he expects to be able to spend the day in bed with peace and quiet. What do I do if I'm ill? Bl*dy well get on with it that's what, children, washing and all!!!!!

I WANT A DAY OFF TOO!!!!!

Rant over. Thank you for listening

Titchy

Azzie · 29/10/2002 13:12

Last time I was seriously unwell (a back problem that meant even lying flat on the floor was excrutiatingly painful, to say nothing of trying to move at all ) my dh was away on business. I spent an entire Sunday (it would be a non-nursery day, wouldn't it?) trying to look after and entertain a 2 y.o. and 4 y.o. It was grim to say the least. The only good thing was my 4 y.o. ds - he was brilliant. He fetched and carried for me, entertained his little sister, poured her juice for her, and even took her to the potty and wiped her bum when she needed it. A total star.

Only thing is, how do I stop him from turning into a typical man when he grows up ....

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Lynne33 · 29/10/2002 13:48

Thanks for your messages of support. My dh didn't go into work yesterday either titchy, the fence at the back of our house had blown down and he said he needed to fix it. It took him 10 minutes and he spent the rest of the day watching DVDs and generally lazing about, whilst I took the kids out with my mum.

Then, of course, I come down with a cold that night and he says there's no way he can not go to work as he wasn't in yesterday!! His advice just now was 'Take some echinacea, you'll be fine'. Aaargghh.

Sobernow, will definately take your advice re the bath and treats idea. Isn't it just the worst thing with a cold, that everything tastes like cardboard - so I can't even enjoy chocolate. How cruel is that!!!!!

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Lynne33 · 29/10/2002 14:01

Oh yes, just thought I would add, that the last time my dh was sick, he took his mobile phone up to bed with him so he could ring me if he wanted something rather that shout because it hurt his throat!! He then has the cheek to ring me to say that if I had a moment maybe I'd like to mow the lawn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Lynne33 · 29/10/2002 14:03

Meid, if you are reading this - I know he's your brother, but lets face it, all men are big babies when they're ill!!

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SoupDragon · 29/10/2002 14:38

Lynne33 - I went through this a week ago so can only sympathise.

DH did come back from work once when I put my back out very badly. Like Azzie, I couldn't do anything without excruciating pain. (Azzie - very impressed with your DSs behaviour - nurture it in him!!) DH packed me and DS1 off to my parents' house for the rest of the week. Other than that, I can't imagine him coming home to look after the boys if I was ill. But he can take sneaky days off to play golf...

I dosed myself up with Day Nurse, drank raspberry and echinacea tea and sat in a corner feeling sorry for myself. DSs watched way too much TV and videos...

Clarinet60 · 29/10/2002 14:48

Aren't men just the loveliest of Gods' creatures?

titchy · 29/10/2002 16:54

The swine - he's just phoned (I'm at work) to say his meeting finished early and he's been at home since 2.00!

Why can't I EVER have any time to myself and he gets loads. It's not fair.

(Ooh I sound just like 4 yo dd......)

One pee-ed off Titchy

titchy · 29/10/2002 16:55

Chuffed - never done a wink before!

ken · 02/11/2002 14:20

Last year my dh had an operation and was in sort of a body brace, I bathed, dressed and generally slaved over him for about 3 months.As well as looking after two 3year olds and working p.t.
A month ago I fell off a ladder, trying to rub down the guttering(now who's job should that have been), I broke my right arm, had 26 stitches in my head and sprained my foot.Was the good will returned, you ask?? Like hell it was!!!I still was expected to do the washing, ironing, cleaning etc, and look after the kids!!! he claimed it was good physio. for me to keep moving.After three weeks I went back to work for a rest!!!

CP · 02/11/2002 14:26

Jeez! I think I am blessed... We have guests for dinner tonight, I chose the menu, wrote out the shopping list and went to yoga while dh & dd went to Sainsbury's. He has just said he is going to cook as well - perhaps I should clone him and sell the clones, sounds like I could become rather wealthy. Either that or he figures my cooking is so bad that he is better off doing it himself! (yes, I am the one who had to be shown how to use the new vacuum cleaner too.)

Clarinet60 · 03/11/2002 22:59

CP you could, indeed, become rather wealthy.
Ken, yet again, I am staggered, that really takes the biscuit. I feel some major swearwords coming on, so will retire to do them from a safe distance. Arfur..........

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