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Would you leave 5 week old baby for the night if your DH had booked you a spa day?

55 replies

Holymoly321 · 10/12/2007 19:53

DH has booked me a spa day / night stay at a lovely hotel - very thoughtful of him I know! Thing is, DS will only be 5 weeks old and I\m breastfeeding. Would you go or would you cancel it? I could really do with a peaceful nights sleep!

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NAB3littlemonkeys · 10/12/2007 19:53

I wouldn't but have a lovely time if you do go.

louii · 10/12/2007 19:54

At 5 weeks, no way especially as breastfeeding.

JingleBelgoHoHoHo · 10/12/2007 19:54

I wouldn't. I couldn't - there's no way I could have relaxed without my newborn baby at this stage.

Also, you will wake up with painful breasts if you suddenly have a night without bfing.

halia · 10/12/2007 19:55

yep, relaxed mum after a good nights sleep is definitly a good thing.

I always wonder exactly why its suppousedly a bad idea to have the odd night out/off?

vitomum · 10/12/2007 19:55

is it feasible really? won't you explode if you're away all night.

ChristmasSendsMePsycho · 10/12/2007 19:56

nooooo.....see if you can postpone it till you have stopped breastfeeding.

the pain from not feeding for that long will be massive, you will not enjoy it at all because you will most likely be miising babay and also you will be in agony, and also there arecertain things you will probably not be able to do anyhow seeing as you are breastfeeding.

lovely thought tho

YuleLoveHekateAtSolstice · 10/12/2007 19:56

I wouldn't have when I had a 5 week old. ...he won't cope without me, I'll miss him too much, I won't be able to express enough, nobody else can care for him like I can, and so on and so forth....... But if I could go back in time, knowing what I know now, and with 8 years of disturbed nights behind me......HELL YES!

beautifulsnowydays · 10/12/2007 19:56

personally no i wouldn't go. i'd ring and try and re-book it in a few months time

BeeWiseMen · 10/12/2007 19:57

it doesn't matter what anyone else would do. If you want to go and can arrange the logistics of feeding your baby while you're away then do it. If you don't want to leave your baby just yet then that's ok too. Both positions are totally normal. We all need different things. What do you need and want?

Lovely DH too. A lot of them would poo their pants at being left in sole charge of a 5 week old baby.

halia · 10/12/2007 19:57

In answer to jinglebells, how about you take an expressing kit with you and express before bed and then again in the morning?

If you personalyl can't relax without being in the same house/room as your child thats fine but thats a personal emotional / hormonal response.

If on the other ahnd you'd kill for a decent nights kip/ a break/ some me time then why not go?

hotbot · 10/12/2007 19:57

no, but you all could go together non? ignore me my lo is 13 mths and has never been left -

Curmudgeonlett · 10/12/2007 19:58

No I wouldn't

but the point is would you?

YuleLoveHekateAtSolstice · 10/12/2007 19:58

And the practicalities - you can express and freeze beforehand for while you're away, and you can pump and dump while you're away, to stop getting engorged and to ensure you don't dry up!

And if you don't want to go, can I have your reservation?!

oops · 10/12/2007 19:58

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TutterrysChocolateOrange · 10/12/2007 19:59

no

Louandben · 10/12/2007 20:01

At 5 weeks ? Not a chance. Could not have relaxed being away from him that long - especially breastfeeding. Presumably it would be for more than 24hrs once you did the spa stuff too, not just a "night off". Is he happy taking milk from a bottle even?

I would have had to have rearranged for when DS was about 5 months...actually, recalling his particular feeding habits, make that 9 months!

undertheMRSEI25toe · 10/12/2007 20:04

i would have to say good god yes to that lovely gesture if i was you!! what a lovely thing for your DH to do for you!![aawwww!]
i would get expressing now and freeze the EBM so that there is a good store for your DH to feed the LO!!!
i think that if you feel right about going for some 'you time' then take the opportunity offered and run!!lol
it is only overnight its not as if its a week and i wish i would have had an opportunitylike this when i was BF my DD!!
xx ei xx

bozza · 10/12/2007 20:06

No. And I would have been very surprised if my DH had considered I would. I didn't leave DS overnight until he was 14 months with my parents and DD at 11 months with DH.

mumofmonSTARsOfBethlehem · 10/12/2007 20:06

i wouldn't but thats my personal choice

and in any case, i was still bleeding at 5 weeks post natal with both DSs and was still sore so would not have been comfortable in a strange place with ppl i didn't know.

What would you do?

You can express while you are there and store if there is somewhere to do so or dump if not?

You could take him with you?

You could leave some formula? (nobody jump down my throat, its a valid point)

you could book all the treatments you would have over a few weeks/days so you have loads to look forward to?

You could do the day part over 2 maybe?

Or you could not go?

santaslittlepeatbogelf · 10/12/2007 20:07

like a shot

forkhandles · 10/12/2007 20:07

With my first I wouldn't have gone, but with numbers 2 and 3 definitely!!

If you can relax without your DS and he'll take a bottle then logistically there's no reason why you shouldn't go.

If you are up for it then go for it. What joy - a whole day and night to yourself

Domesticgodlessyoumerrygents · 10/12/2007 20:08

I would if not bf. If bf, however, it will be a faff.

prufrock · 10/12/2007 20:10

Yes, as long as you are happy that ds will drink from bottles of EBM and take your pump with you. Though tbh at 5 weeks you will probably need to wake in the night to express or be in agony when you wake up, so if you could postpone it until at least 10 weeks or so you will be far more comfortable (I know many people are still feeding at night by then but it is easier to not as your supply will have become more regulated.)

pennymae3 · 10/12/2007 20:10

oooh yes
think thats lovely of him,go & relax hun sounds wonderful

PortAndLemonaid · 10/12/2007 20:11

I would have gone and taken baby with me, I think. Together with someone else to do the brunt of the daytime looking-after.

The "still bleeding" point is a good one, though -- that would interfere with a lot of the potentially fun spa stuff.