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Would you leave 5 week old baby for the night if your DH had booked you a spa day?

55 replies

Holymoly321 · 10/12/2007 19:53

DH has booked me a spa day / night stay at a lovely hotel - very thoughtful of him I know! Thing is, DS will only be 5 weeks old and I\m breastfeeding. Would you go or would you cancel it? I could really do with a peaceful nights sleep!

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melpomene · 10/12/2007 20:11

Could you compromise and have a 2 or 3-hour spa package somewhere local, instead of having to have a night away?

Personally, I wouldn't do it with a baby that young. If you can't be sure he'll take a bottle then it won't be very relaxing.

NorthernLurkerwithastarontop · 10/12/2007 20:18

It's very sweet of him - but I wouldn't leave a lo of that age. Both for emotional reasons and as one poster has already said I would have exploded!

Sorry

devonsmummy · 10/12/2007 20:18

MY DH bought me a Spa Day for my Xmas present last year - DS was just 6 weeks at the time. Luckily it was valid for a year and I only used it 2 weeks ago - and that was the 1st time I'd left DS!!
Can you not change the date ?

VanillaPumpkin · 10/12/2007 20:23

I couldn't have. I would not have been able to enjoy myself at all, but I am rather odd in that when I go on a rare shopping day away without DH and the dd's I have a great time, but miss the dd's and am desperate to see them again. They are 2 and 4. I am a total wimp.

louii · 10/12/2007 20:27

Oh yes i forgot about the bleeding, was def still bleeding at 5 weeks post partum. You would not be able to go in pool or jacuzzi etc.

Also remember you could go two weeks over as well, nothing to say baby will be born on due date, so could potentially only be 3 weeks old.

Or you could have a section which could make things more difficult as well.

MuffinMclay · 10/12/2007 20:41

I'd go like a shot.

Chancde would be a fine thing....

edam · 10/12/2007 20:45

No, I wouldn't go. Couldn't have left ds for that long at five weeks, would have been too upsetting - I needed to keep him near me (very glad for an hour or so break but not a whole night). And I was b/f so wouldn't have worked anyway.

santassackertysack · 10/12/2007 21:01

I DID and LOVED it.... just remember to take a breast pump !!!!!
DS arrived in quite a traumatic way and to cut a long story short DH booked me a spa night away as a present for me to relax and recharge myself. I have to say it was great - of course i missed my DS (who was 7 weeks) but i knew he was in good hands and he and dh had some nice bonding time and i was able to have the most amazing massages and unwind and went home fully relaxed and alot calmer!! GO ON SPOIL YOURSELF FOR A CHANGE!!!

Raggydoll · 10/12/2007 21:02

In a hearbeat - have a great time

muppetgirl · 10/12/2007 21:04

where can i book me and the breastpump?

My ds2 is 5 weeks today b/f -I would go.

fairylights · 14/12/2007 12:20

in theory i would have loved that idea but don't think i could have actually done it at 5 weeks! Also, will your LO take a bottle?! Am assuming so.. have a great time if you do go, what a lovely thing for your dh to do!

MaLopez · 14/12/2007 12:33

I would not at the time but looking back, I would have packed a breastpump and run off like a shot

MsHighwater · 14/12/2007 21:15

I am in the "I would not have done it so early" camp. Doesn't mean it couldn't be done, though, if you want to do it.

In your shoes, I'd try to rebook it for later - when bf is better established, when not still bleeding, when you've got pumping sussed (if you haven't already), when you feel emotionally ready (if you don't already), etc.

anniebear · 14/12/2007 21:37

I would have run out of the door and ben tempted to stay another night

coldtits · 14/12/2007 21:39

can you wait until 5 months and the exhaustion is well ground in/

crokky · 14/12/2007 21:40

No I wouldn't. Would have cried all night without my baby at that stage!

Thoughtful of DH though!

suzi2 · 14/12/2007 21:40

No. Much as I'd have loved to, I couldn't have left either of them at that age. I wouldn't have enjoyed myself and would have worried a lot. And I would have engorged boobs the whole time and be expressing. And then worrying about the potentially bad effects on my milk supply.

Can you reschedule? 5 months or later would be more realistic. DD is 10 months now and unfortunately I still can't get out without her for more than a couple of hours!

beansprout · 14/12/2007 21:40

No.

frostythesnowmum · 14/12/2007 21:42

No way what will your lovely little one think when s/he has not got mommies boobies

fingerwoman · 14/12/2007 21:45

nope, my ds2 is 7 weeks and I couldn't do it now.
I'd much rather wait and not have to faff around with expressing. plus, ds won't take a bottle at all, so impossible for anyone else to feed him.

Pannacotta · 14/12/2007 21:55

def not, think its almost unfeasible if b-feeding.
I would also leave it till later down the line when the tiredness has really set in....

serinsingingcarols · 15/12/2007 01:02

Go and put DH and baby in the room down the corridor (just out of earshot but close enough to wander down and give him a feed when your breasts get sore!)

amytheearwaxbanisher · 15/12/2007 01:19

in wouldnt have but only have a pfb ask me next timehow thoughtful of you dh!!could he and little one get a room down the hall and just nip in for feeding cuddles and all that?ds at five weeks needs his mummy could you go for the day and come home in the evening?

seeker · 15/12/2007 06:21

I really think you'll enjoy it much more if you leave it til the baby is about 3 months or so. Breastfeeding will be properly established, you could have enough ebm stored and lo used to a bottle so you don't have to worry. You will definitely have stopped bleeding. And even though I had easy labours and births, I don't think I would have liked anyone to see my immediately post partum body, let alone massage it!

TwinklyfLightAttendant · 15/12/2007 06:36

I don't think mine would have coped without me tbh, he was bereft when I was in the dentist's for half an hour...it was just unlucky it coincided with him being upset, but nobody else would do once he was.
I think it's a lovely idea but maybe in a year or so when baby is old enough to manage really happily without you.
I think I would miss my baby way too much as well - there must be another way you could get some rest, like maybe your DH doing some night feeds etc?
This time does get so much easier, it won't last forever that you are sleepless etc.

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