Would you ask me not to bring her?

[Pennies]

DD1 has chicken pox but is now past the contagious stage. We're invited to an Xmas party tomorrow at which there will be lots of young children, some babies and some pregnant mums.

I've sent and email to everyone going telling them that she's still spotty but not contagious any more and asking if anyone minds if I still bring her.

It's not as if I won't go if anyone asks me not to being her as DH is staying home with DD2 who hasn't had it yet and is now likely to get it any any point in the next few weeks and so could well be contagious.

WWYD??

id stay at home. the pg women might be worried.

I had chicken pox when I was pg - it caused me a lot of heart ache and worry as I did not know if the disease would harm my unborn baby or not and no medic would say either. Very nasty and scary time.

Hmmm, when I was early pg this time I met a lady at the swings whose DCs had just got over chickenpox but were still very spotty. I was worried, despite her assurances that they were no longer contagious.

If she is definitely past the infectious stage I would not have a problem with it even if I was pregnant.

Yeah, sorry I'd stay away too imho...I don't think anyone will tell you not to come but there might be a few 'did you really have to?' looks at the party. HTH

If the spots have scabbed over and no new ones coming.. end of. She really isn't infectious. People canm check this for themselves if they like! Email them again with a link to some good medical infp!

Just go well informed. As Shiny says all scbbed no new eruptions not infectious

stay at home - it's just not very considerate. Not everyone is re-assured by you saying she isn't contagious and may spoil it for them. I personally would would be unable to relax after being told this and would either not go or go and be really worried the whole time.

But Crush.. she isn't infectious! Tis a proven medical fact! Why should she have to keep her DD in just because she looks a bit unsightly??!

I would go. I can't see how you aren't being considerate - you've sent an email to everyone telling them about the situation.

Have you had any replies (to your email, rather than on this thread )?

Print off information about how it is impossible for her to still be contagious, from a reputable website like NHS Direct. Take it with you to the party to reassure the worried.

No I wouldn't, but I'm not stupid and/ or hysterical. However, lots of people are and they'll probably be annoyed with you. It depends on whether you care if ill-informed neurotic people hate you.

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well, i wouldn;t simply becasue a lot of people are misinformed about chicken pox and printing off reams of info might come across as bulldozing people into letting you bring your DD when they are not comfortable with it.

If I was there pregnant, I think it would make me feel worried.

If she's definitely past the contagious stage then I wouldn't have a problem with it, even if I were pregnant. If it's been over 7 days since the spots started, and if they are all dried up now, then she's fine - there's nothing inconsiderate about it at all if no-one is at risk.

Meant to add - I prob. wouldn't ask you not to bring her but would consider not going myself (if pg).

people ar emaybe not replying cos youve put them on the spot

just a thought

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Some PG women just don't want to take ANY chances, you know what it's like.

I see nothing stupid nor hysterical about that.

It's not VITAL that she goes, obviously but they're great friends of ours and their DS is my DD's bestmate and she's very excited about it.

I'm going whatever the outcome - this is just about whether she gets to join in the fun too!

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cod I"m hoping they would sya yes - they've all known me long enough and if they can't say yes to me then they can say they've got concerns to the host instead and she can pass on the message.

no one will say yes

even if they want to

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