Would you ask me not to bring her?

[Pennies]

DD1 has chicken pox but is now past the contagious stage. We're invited to an Xmas party tomorrow at which there will be lots of young children, some babies and some pregnant mums.

I've sent and email to everyone going telling them that she's still spotty but not contagious any more and asking if anyone minds if I still bring her.

It's not as if I won't go if anyone asks me not to being her as DH is staying home with DD2 who hasn't had it yet and is now likely to get it any any point in the next few weeks and so could well be contagious.

WWYD??

chicken pox can be dangerous to an unborn baby if the mother catches it.

Chicken Pox is dangerous to the baby if the mother catches it in the first 12 weeks or immediately before birth (as can pass on to baby).

I really wouldn't not take a child to a party when they're absolutely not infectious - tbh, they are safer than if they'd never had chickenpox, as any child who's not had it COULD be incubating it and infectious, whereas once you've gone beyond the 5 days they are ABSOLUTELY not infectious!

This is why chicken pox can be nasty during pg www.nhsborders.org.uk/view_item.aspx?item_id=17105

So long as your dd has scabs on her spots, no I would not ask you to not take her. Unfortunately there are lots of ignorant people who think that the spots are contagious. I would explain to anyone who comments that she is not contagious once the scabs have formed on the spots and that you have been advised by the Dr that it is safe for her to socialise.

TBH if I found out my friends child had chicken pox I would ask her to visit! I would far rather she had them than the much worse form of the illness- shingles in later life.

But she wouldn't get shingles Tori because you have to have had chicken pox first in order to develop shingles but apart from that I agree with the rest of your statements

It is much much better to get chickenpox as a child tori, but shingles comes as a result of being run down, and having had chickenpox in the past and therefore having the virus in your system, not coming into contact with it later on.