I was pulling lavender's leg on her thread.
Sorry if you thought I was being serious it was just that I didn't think it was fair on other people to ask such personal questions especially if she wasn't having problems with that area of her life.
I think it is ok to be nosey BUT I think that you ought to say that at the beginning instead of the rather aggressive "Discuss"
I wanted to send you this message because I was feeling guilty about joking about what is actually a serious subject for some couples.
Sorry