Urgh...SHE's fat.

[Levanna]

TO an 8 week old baby. By her aunt, and in front of said 8 week olds 2.5 year old sister.
Acceptable?

Ghosty, nothing could be closer to the truth....do you know her?! Though, in a (supreme? It was such hard work!) effort to come across as serene, firm and unflappable I have so far avoided an altercation .
MrsBigD that's a very similar situation to myself, my DD1 was born at the 25th centile, soon dropped to under the 0.4th and has wobbled around under the lowest line on the (damn) chart ever since. DD2 was on about the 9th at birth and is now at the 50th (eight weeks). After rounds of meetings and assessments with consultant peadiatricians and dietitians who generally gave very little or no useful advice, I had a meeting with one particular consultant that has a lot of experience with children who are fairly dainty. She has a theory that when children are born at a certain weight, and slip down through the centiles and settle on another one, it's as if for some reason the were actually born heavier than they 'should' be, and it's just their bodies adjusting to the weight they are most happy with, and designed to 'work' most effectively at. So, at last I stopped worrying!
Anyway, I have one extremely dainty DD, and one wonneproppen (apparently ) they are equally beautiful, equally intelligent and above all, equally happy .
(So, $tuff the outlaws!)

Great Consultant! What annoys me that it's a different consultant at each assessment... because that way they can really check her progress... NOT! Had 2 relatively good ones though... one was irish the otherone was south african. They took one look at her and said: she's very lively isn't she? Nothing wrong with her at all!

Levanna I've had the same theory as your consultant. I seem to grow big babies, but they settle down to become much more averagish (25-50 %ile range) but since we're not big people thats to be expected. I had a big birthweight but am average or below as an adult.

SIL was obviously trying to be nasty and being weight-obsessed that must have been the first thing that sprung to her mind.

Just caught up with this thread and am APPALLED by some of the comments tossed at babies. It's something that's started worrying me already - DD is 9 months, and I'm eternally grateful that, so far, she's a wonderfully enthusiastic and non-fussy eater - as my own mum said, it's a joy to feed her. Only thing is, all my in-laws (all very slim) have a big horror of 'greed' and fat - they mock my skinny DH for being greedy when I've never come across a grown man more modest in his eating habits! Now they've started focusing on DD as she happily tucks into her tea of veggie pasta and fruit!!! Can't remember exact comments but really stupid jokes about her ending up fat.

I'd like advice really, about nipping this in the bud without alienating my huge family of inlaws who are otherwise lovely and very involved with DD. They obviously have their own family baggage around food but that's not my problem - and certainly not DD's. I'd so hate her hearty appetite to be dampened by their silly comments.

toky - I'd just ingnore their comments. At 9 mths DD is supposed to have a healthy appetite, and looking on what her dinner is, she's definitely getting a good balance. If you have to comment on il's comments just say you're happy with the way she is...

MRSBIGD, my dd1 was 11kgs at 2 years old. She's now 7 and although very slim is a healthy happy girl who deosn't get ill very often and has lots of energy. She was always on the 25th centile as a baby.

I am petite and dh isn't very tall either. Dd2 however has been on the 75th centile since she was born 5 months ago, although she is starting to drop down to be nearer to the 50th now.

Levanna, I'm sorry to hear that your SIL is such an insensitive person. I hope she doesn't pass on her worries to her child when it gets older.

Haven't read it all Levanna, but am totally shocked and appalled. How could anyone say something so stupid? Your baby is beautiful, I'm sure (is her pic on the photo thread yet?) - I don't know how people can say things which are just so rude - all babies are diferent and unique and really at this age, you have nothing to worry about - you'd be more concerned if she wasn't putting on weight! Try to ignore silly comments like this (not easy I realise) and carry on enjoying your delightful and beautiful dds!

Much sympathy Levanna. When DS2 was about 16 weeks old, I was carrying him in the Baby Bjorn facing outwards, and some complete stranger walked up to me in the chemists' and said "That baby is fat. Really fat." and walked off!

My MIL's first comment on ds twin2 in the hospital was that he had a double chin!!!!

Of course he had, he had no f*ing neck control! She couldn't even use being drunk as an excuse as she was stone cold sober at the time!

To top it off as well he was only 5lb 4oz at the time!

Luckily she only cares about her first grandson (SIL's poor ds) so I can happily keep my ds twins far away from her.

Oh dinosaur, that's horrendous! I really wish certain people would realise littleys deserve all the respect in the world .... just for being them!