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Urgh...SHE's fat.

60 replies

Levanna · 02/11/2004 21:58

TO an 8 week old baby. By her aunt, and in front of said 8 week olds 2.5 year old sister.
Acceptable?

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Angeliz · 03/11/2004 08:13

When my dd was about a year and a half and prancing around as they do my mam said,"she'll never be a ballerina, she's too chunky!!!!!!!!!"

She's 1 for F*S sake

(She does ballet classes at school now!!)

People are so STUPID sometimes!

Angeliz · 03/11/2004 08:14

BTW, she does ballet at School as she WANTS to, not cause i'm making a point

nailpolish · 03/11/2004 08:24

babies are meant to be fat. there is nothing worse than a thin baby

WigWamBam · 03/11/2004 08:30

As the mother of a dd who has always been slim, I have to say that, as long as they're not thin because they're neglected, that there are lots of things worse than thin babies (and I'm fat myself, so I'm not saying that because I want her to be slim). Babies come in all shapes and sizes, none better or worse than any other.

jnbsmum · 03/11/2004 08:39

I was once told that the reason babies (orchildren up to the age af 2ish)have such big bellies is because they have all their vital organs in that one small area behind the belly ie stomach splean liver part of the lung etc. I just hate it when people give horrid coments like this to mothers. Now at the age of 4, i keep getting told to fatten my son up as he is too skinny. (If they looked at dh they could see that he gets it from him)

MrsBigD · 03/11/2004 08:41

Tell all those people out there who say your dd/ds baby is too fat or a bruiser to get lost...

my dd never made it into even the bottom centile, is a picky eater and still is an extreme lightweight - 12 kg (don't ask me what that is in pounds, I'm metric) at age 2 years 10 months! So it's been a struggle trying to 'fatten her up' under dorctors supervision and getting all sorts of useless advise from quite a few corners.

so now that ds - 8 weeks - wants to eat and is turning nicely well padded all over, it's a blessing! Even the doc was happy about it as she had 'ordered' me to have a bigger baby this time round . In German we have this wonderful word describing chubby babies... Wonneproppen which sort of translates as delightful roly-poly or little lump of sweetness

WigWamBam · 03/11/2004 08:50

I love "little lump of sweetness" MrsBigD!

misdee · 03/11/2004 08:51

i love 'little lump of sweetness ' too. i have a big lump od sweetnes tho lol.

tell your SIl to get stuffed levanna.

motherinferior · 03/11/2004 08:54

Oooooh people like that make me mad. I too knew a former bulimic who wanted to put her round-tummied baby onto soya milk to bring his weight down. They're MEANT to get fat into them. And have a nice rolypoly layer.

MummyToSteven · 03/11/2004 08:55

agree with everyone else that SIL should get stuffed. comments like that are not only inappropriate but simply wrong. an 8 week old does not have strong enough tummy muscles to retain significant amounts of excess milk! i think tho from looking at an old version of PL, that mothers were encouraged to look out for "overfeeding" so I think it is partly a generational thing to be concerned about it. When my mother was concerned about DS eating too much (at about 4 weeks old(!), I told her that last time he was weighed he was on the 9th centile - that soon put a stop to that line of comments!

best of luck with your new baby, Levanna!

Slinky · 03/11/2004 09:00

"babies are meant to be fat. there is nothing worse than a thin baby"

As a mother of 3 "healthy" birthweight babies (all over 8lb) but resulted in "thin-ish" babies (DD2 is still very thin) - I find that comment just as insulting quite frankly!

Tissy · 03/11/2004 09:00

MrsBigD, my 2y10monther is skinnier than yours...ner ner ner ner ner-barely 11 kg when last weighed!

Slinky · 03/11/2004 09:02

Tissy

Similar to DD2 - she weighed 10kg at her 2yr check.

She's 5 now - haven't a clue how much she weighs, but she is still very thin. However, very healthy, rarely ill and has masses of energy.

nailpolish · 03/11/2004 09:05

wwb - sorry, thats what i meant, i know some babies are naturally slim and what i meant was there is nothing worse than a thin undernourished baby. i hope you know what i mean!

nailpolish · 03/11/2004 09:06

better go, just digging myself into the hole

WigWamBam · 03/11/2004 09:06

I also felt it was an inappropriate comment Slinky, if it's unacceptable to make negative comments about chubby babies then it's unacceptable to make negative comments about slim ones, too!

WigWamBam · 03/11/2004 09:07

Just caught your last comment, nailpolish - I'm with you on that one.

Slinky · 03/11/2004 09:08

No Nailpolish - don't go

Sorry, used to be very sensitive about my kids weights. When they were babies/toddlers, people used to comment about skinny they were, did I feed them etc etc. Remember one time a woman pointed out at DD2 when I changed her nappy about how horrible it was to see her ribs etc.

Used to upset me quite a bit when they were little.

nailpolish · 03/11/2004 09:09

phew

i am really sorry.

Slinky · 03/11/2004 09:10

Don't worry

WigWamBam · 03/11/2004 09:11

I used to get the ribs comment a lot, too, and it's very hurtful. People have actually suggested that I have deliberately kept my little girl thin so that she doesn't have my weight problems, and nothing is further from the truth. No offence taken though, nailpolish!

nailpolish · 03/11/2004 09:11

that would upset me too. my dd1 was enormously chubby and my BIL would make comments all the time.

MrsBigD · 03/11/2004 09:16

glad to hear there are other lightweights out there It's just DH is quite tall and big so whenever they see him with her... and yes he IS the biological father

Also not worried about DD being petite. Heaps of energy and very bright and nothing wrong with being petite anyhow. There's a petite person somewhere inside me too

Levanna - just tell SIL and MIL to mind their own business. Especially if SIL is bullemic. I went down that route once myself (now my secret is out) but for my dd's sake I've got it under control as I dont' want her to develp food issues!

Merlot · 03/11/2004 09:20

As a mum to one `mitchelin tyre' baby (and he was huge) and to one tall and skinny (see his ribs)baby, just wanted to add that all babies are gorgeous - just individuals (like the rest of us)

Ghosty · 03/11/2004 09:23

I had this conversation with a friend today ...
In order to even HAVE an average you need to have babies at each end of the scale ... so why people need to comment on how fat or thin babies are is beyond me!

My DD is enormous. Today she had her 9 month check. She is 10.8kgs (that is above the 98th percentile) but she is IN PROPORTION ... she is on the 98th for height AND head circumference. Although DH and I are not particularly huge people we come from tall families (both grandfathers over 6ft ... my sister 5'10" ... my grandfather was 6'5")
My friend's baby on the other hand is a dinky little thing, weighing in at 7Kgs (under the 25th percentile) ... my friend is tiny and her husband is not tall either and both grandfathers are 5'6".

Both babies (the same age) are healthy, alert, breastfed with one formula bottle a day, on 3 meals a day, babbling, pointing, have one tooth each, sleep well and are just wonderfully gorgeously lovely ....

Adults aren't all the same size and weight so why should babies be??????

Whatever weight your baby is s/he is just perfect!!!!!

A good answer to you SIL, Levanna, could be, "Well, DD won't always be fat, but you will always be ugly!" Go on .... I dare you!!!!!!