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life throws stuff at some of us that is just too **BIG**

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NotAnOtter · 02/10/2007 20:38

thats the only way i can describe where i am at the moment
99% of the populous just cannot comprehend how shit things can be and i would not want them to.
the enormity of the crap i have had in my life is just - well - unfair.
thats it really

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MegaLegs · 02/10/2007 20:39

What's happened NAO?

ToadieG1 · 02/10/2007 20:39

Sorry to hear that. I've had a lot of crap in my life too, and I know it doesn't seem fair. I always think that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger, makes me feel better about it.

Hope you're ok.

scattyspice · 02/10/2007 20:40

Sorry you're having a bad time.
I have just been on MBs thread and would have to agree that life can be truely unfair.

DottydotsofBloodOnTheFloor · 02/10/2007 20:41

NAO - doesn't sound good for you - hope you're OK.

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NotAnOtter · 02/10/2007 20:44

Thanks toadie
truly feeling sorry for self tonight
this is mumsnet afterall - sadly neither of my parents would qualify foe access to any parenting website -unless its reasons not to be one

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ToadieG1 · 02/10/2007 20:49

Has something happened or is it an ongoing thing? Sometimes talking helps.

LadyTophamHatt · 02/10/2007 20:51

what happened NAO?

WideWebWitch · 02/10/2007 20:52

Sorry to hear this

Kewcumber · 02/10/2007 20:54

I'm sorry NAO. Is it something specific. Would anything help or is it an unresolvable problem?

VeniVidiVickiQV · 02/10/2007 20:56

NAO, whats up lady?

oops · 02/10/2007 21:00

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NotAnOtter · 02/10/2007 21:12

resolution i dont know...
some people are just not worth it
feel i am maybe more honourable than those were once my family

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Califright · 02/10/2007 21:21

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NotAnOtter · 02/10/2007 21:32

god i needed that!!!!!

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oops · 02/10/2007 23:19

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NappiesLaGore · 02/10/2007 23:26

ouch nao.

families can be the greatest source of joy and support... or the opposite. or both. or somewhere in the middle i guess...

point is, um, ouch.
sounds like youre hurting and thats not good. have a hug from me too.

sKerryMum · 02/10/2007 23:58

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fortyplus · 03/10/2007 00:05

NAO I know that the root of your problem is something that most of us struggle to comprehend as we have no experience of it. But I think that to offload - even to a bunch of strangers - must be therapeutic and a lot better than bottling it all up.

If you give your own children the best life you can then you are sticking 2 fingers up at the people who should have protected you and making the world a better place instead of the poison they dished out.

You sound like a very strong person - but it's hardly surprising that it's sometimes hard to break free from the crap.

Have a {{{{{{{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}}}}}}}} from me - I'm not really into public affection but I reckon you deserve some support

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NotAnOtter · 03/10/2007 10:47

thankyou all so much for this and although you are strangers in rl its too taboo for me to speak of

i am trying not to become too bitter and end up full of hatred again toward ALL the people who through their action and lack of action have wronged me
some of my problems have been dealt with by the powers that be and that has helped me justify myself whilst at the same time bringing it well and truly home to me how much ihave been shat on by family
i dont want to wallow
i just want to clamber out of this pit and stick two fingers up at people
but that makes me bitter
catch 22

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onlyjoking9329 · 03/10/2007 10:52

NAO you will clamber out of the pit but it will take time.

NappiesLaGore · 03/10/2007 11:10

oh nao.
try to be kind to yourself and not demand that you are 'better' to a timetable... you will heal and you will not be twisted by any of this because you are a good person. you have goodness in you that no-one can change. you may well develop a thicker skin and perhaps protect yourself a little more in future, but none of them will 'win' by changing you. every word you said in your last post assures me of that.

it wasnt by my family, but ive been royally shat on too and had to pull myself out of a pit... give yourself time and try not to concentrate on it, instead concentrating on the good and wholesome, or even just plain self indulgent things you enjoy in life... the healing will do itself.

i wish you peace. x

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NotAnOtter · 03/10/2007 11:50

you speak so much sense nappies thankyou
will try to simply focus on the good for the rest of today and see how it goes.
just gave a lot of clothes to a tibetan orphanage so feeling a bit brighter about things!

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CountessDracula · 03/10/2007 11:57

sorry to hear you are having a hard time NAO. It feels unbearable sometimes doesn't it when life just keeps dealing you shite hands.

Have you tried counselling to sort it all out in your head?

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NotAnOtter · 03/10/2007 12:01

the shite is old old old Countess. 25 years old but its resurgence has enabled me to get legal justice for my pain but left me realising just how crap i have had it
i was always angry for my lot but now i HURT like how could all these people treat someone like this.
Luckily i have friends and know i just need to move move on...grrr i wish i could rid my head of it
my life is lovely i am very lucky and happy . need to focus on new family my family and forget aboutthose other people who used to be family

sorry to rant Dracula!! I have tried counselling and found it truly awful.no one can help me but me I guess

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CountessDracula · 03/10/2007 12:02

maybe it was just the wrong therapist?
I hope you feel better soon xx

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