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Someone at work tampered with my food and Baby's EBM!!! ---- Long post.

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Ice · 14/10/2004 02:47

Before I go on, I just want to let you all know I am a regular but have changed my name as I may be recognized if anyone who works with me is a mnetter

I am very upset, this happend yesturday(tues) We have a fridge in chamging room at work. I leave shopping in there and lunch etc. And most of all my expressed breast milk. For some time I have noticed that when I leave shopping it looks like it has been moved/touched. So yestueday I wanted to save some of my meal for today, I tied up the bag and put a bow in with a mark in the middle of bow so that I'd know if it had been touched. Later on, I expressed and tied the bag up and put it in fridge behind my shopping.
At the end of my shift I went to the fridge and there was my bag, ripped open!!! I was shocked and looked at it, I then looked at the milk bag and saw the milk was a funny colour, I opened it and it looked funny. I informed the shift manager and showed her the bag, I told her to come and look at the milk, she saw it and was very upset. I threw the food away as there is no way I was going to eat it. I said there's no way i'm givin my baby the milk. She then looked at her shopping and saw that some was missing, so the stupid b who messed with my stuff must have pinched her stuff too.
I was so angry I was shaking. to cut a long story short, they are taking this very seriously (as they should) There was only 4of us females working that night, so that leaves 2 suspects, 1 of them i doubt would have done it and she finished 1/2hr before me. But the other one finished an hour before, she is very horrible and does not like it if I give her a job to do. Everyone at work says she weird.

I am soooooo upset about all of this and ended up crying today at work. One of the managers and another colegue consoled me, hugging me etc. I just feel like what if the milk has been tampered with before, and I have given it to baby!! Infact I am almost crying now as I think of it. Manager in charge that night is trying to see if I can put milk i the canteen fridge which is locked, in the mean time, I have brought some ice gel packs and put the milk in a cool bag with them today.
Big manager talked to me today and there have been team briefings, manager breifings and the like.

I really need some kind words and even some advice as to where I go from here. I am worried what I will do when I see her next, I know I have no concrete evidence it was her, and that a male could have gone in there, but I just have a feeling it was her, should I say something? the next time I see her will be on Sat. I feel like just not going in cos I dont know what I will do. But why should I stay at home when I haven't done any wrong!!

Sorry it was such a long post!!

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hunkermunker · 17/10/2004 22:37

Thanks Pixiefish, but I must worry about it - worrying's what I do best

It's weird, I'm a real optimist (I'm not even a glass half-full person - I'm like 'wow, I got a glass too - cool!) - but I have to look at every possibility, the worse, the better. I know, I'm a weirdo. And now I've hijacked Ice's thread with my strange rantings too. worries about that too

HM xxx

pixiefish · 17/10/2004 22:40

Don't worry about it... I know what you mean though about the worrying- a friend told me before i had dd- you won't know what pain and worry is until you have a baby- how right she was

hunkermunker · 17/10/2004 22:43

I was a dab hand at worrying even before DS came along - I've been better with the everyday things since. A good motto is don't sweat the petty things (and don't pet the sweaty things). Stands me in good stead (when I remember it!)

Now I really will get off your thread Ice. Will pop back to see how you're getting on though - big hugs again.

HM xxx

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Ice · 17/10/2004 22:49

hunker--- please dont fret, as pixie says, i have been very unkucky. I do however wish i'd trusted my hunch/instinct alot sooner.
pixie--- will keep posting.
kanga--- see 10:15 post

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KangaMummy · 17/10/2004 22:57

sorry I see now

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Ice · 17/10/2004 23:22

was bound to happen sooner or later, I am very dippy at the best of times.

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pixiefish · 18/10/2004 00:13

hunker- don't pet...

Stripymouse · 18/10/2004 07:18

Ice still thinking about you and have been keeping an eye on this thread. Not surprising to see how many people feel so strongly for you.
Have you spoken to management about your feelings again? I think that it would be reasonable for you to let them know how unhappy you are that it has not been resolved and that it is affecting staff morale and "team spirit"- esp. as it was lousy anyway. I would even ask them outright what their reasons for not viewing it as a criminal matter (ie. choosing not to involve police) and exactly what action they are taking. Hugs and verbal support are what friends give you - managers are meant to do a lot more and are letting you down right now.

It is obvious that it is unlikely they are going to catch whoever did it now but that is no excuse for not following it through, speaking to staff about the incident and laying it on the line. If it is indesputable fact that there are two main suspects then they should have been called in to discuss the situation and their thoughts on what has happened - after all, for the innocent party I bet they feel very upset and vulnerable about it as well as they must be aware that there is suspicion in the air.

Stripymouse · 18/10/2004 07:22

As for this woman who says she is leaving - lets hope so - but that is no reason for it all to be dropped. It is possible that this woman is a potential danger to others as well as you - it shouldn?t be hushed up and left alone.

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Ice · 18/10/2004 14:34

stripymouse--- I will be talking to someone today when i go in, I agree that it isn't enough left as it is. I will let you know what they say.

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Marina · 18/10/2004 14:42

Oh Ice, I had a serious vibe about who you might be...[[hugs]] please let us know how you get on.

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Ice · 19/10/2004 15:04

Hi, I didn't get to talk to anyone yesturday but am in earlier today so will see someone when i get in.
Suspected one was in yesturday, I had to sit infront of her, I had a hard time just keeping my cool.

Marina!!! Hi long time no talk!! is your vibe that good or did i give it away? Maybe it is my writting style.

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Ice · 21/10/2004 01:05

spoke to someone in personnel, an investigation is underway. personnel is going to find out where health and safety stands on putting milk in canteen fridge.
will keep you posted.

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kkgirl · 21/10/2004 08:03

Ice

Glad to hear this, but are personnel going to confront the person who is suspected of doing it. It seems more of an issue that someone is tampering with food, which could have very serious implications that the issue of the fridge?

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Ice · 21/10/2004 13:22

that's what I'm thinking. I must say I am not happy that everything that can be done is being done.

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monkey · 22/10/2004 15:04

my dh is in hr. I mentioned this to him & he said it was not a personnel/hr issue iho, but a management one & should be dealt with v. seriously. Hope you get some sort of satisfaction. maybe I misinterpreted your post, but they said they're going to look into h & s aspects of you keeping your ebm in fridge? Sounds like they're turning it around & saying you shouldn't have had it their in 1st place. Hope I have mis-read this & wish you well xx

pixiefish · 22/10/2004 15:08

I agree with monkey- that's how I read it as well. Perhaps hr should look into implications of keeping animal milk in fridge (cow's milk) before looking at human milk... god some people can be soooo funny about bfing

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Ice · 22/10/2004 16:48

no sorry didn't state post well. I kept milk in changing room fridge, there is no prob from works point of view or anyone else for that matter for it to be there, but after it got tampered with, I am in no way gonna keep it there.
HR are seeing where h&s stands with me putting it in canteen fridge instead. Canteen fridge is in canteen kitchen. So they want to find out if I can put it in there instead.
clearer??

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Bearess · 22/10/2004 19:57

Ice, have just found this thread. Oh my God, it's appalling. I think you're handling it brilliantly. Has anything happened to the "suspected one" yet?

kkgirl · 01/11/2004 20:15

Ice

just thinking about you, and wondering what had happened about with your situation.

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ice · 02/11/2004 21:48

Bearess and kkgirl thanks for thinking of me. I am on holiday from work and as far as I know nothing has been done. If nothing has been done by the time I get back to work I will kick up a stink and go to work welfare as that would be over a month.

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Bearess · 13/11/2004 00:33

Ice - have you gone back to work yet? Don't post if it's all too much, but am thinking of you xx

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ice · 13/11/2004 14:32

hi bearess, I wanted to post before but just feel I will be repeating myself. I still feel incredibly sad and angry. Infact I feel so depressed at the mo and this isn't helping one bit. I am i tears now as I write it and am soooo angry as have recieved no news from work. I went back on monday and have heard nothing.
What should I do? do I contact head office? welfare line? maternity alliance? I dont know where to go from here. Please excuse this next bit, I have nowhere else to ventand I know there are other people with more probs but I just feel so upset. I am angry angry angry about all of this. I have to see this person and I just feel like wipping the smile of her face. I am very surprised at the force of my anger towards her and I just dont know what to do. Thank you so much bearess for thinking about me.

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nailpolish · 13/11/2004 14:46

thinking of you too ice. cant chat just now but hopefully catch up later? xxx

cyrilthesquirrel · 13/11/2004 14:47

ice - this is awful, i really feel for you. You must take action at work, if you are up to it. I suggest you write this all down (use this thread to help you) so you have a record of dates, times, when you told management, their reaction and details like that. Putting things is writing is always much more formal and might make amanagemtn sit up and take notice. Maybe they were hoping it would go away? B***s!

Then write to management asking what they are planning to do about the matter; send a copy to HR and a copy to head office. Then wait to see what happens. Remember to say in your letter that this has cause you considerable distress, made worse by the fact that very little seems to have been done. Perhaps you might also want to say that you intend to pursue this with the police if you get no joy? Even though you threw the ebm away, there is still clear evidence of a crime having taken place, plus your word on the matter and that of the witnesses.
Good luck - you're being really bravex
God, ineffectual management make my blood boil