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Someone at work tampered with my food and Baby's EBM!!! ---- Long post.

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Ice · 14/10/2004 02:47

Before I go on, I just want to let you all know I am a regular but have changed my name as I may be recognized if anyone who works with me is a mnetter

I am very upset, this happend yesturday(tues) We have a fridge in chamging room at work. I leave shopping in there and lunch etc. And most of all my expressed breast milk. For some time I have noticed that when I leave shopping it looks like it has been moved/touched. So yestueday I wanted to save some of my meal for today, I tied up the bag and put a bow in with a mark in the middle of bow so that I'd know if it had been touched. Later on, I expressed and tied the bag up and put it in fridge behind my shopping.
At the end of my shift I went to the fridge and there was my bag, ripped open!!! I was shocked and looked at it, I then looked at the milk bag and saw the milk was a funny colour, I opened it and it looked funny. I informed the shift manager and showed her the bag, I told her to come and look at the milk, she saw it and was very upset. I threw the food away as there is no way I was going to eat it. I said there's no way i'm givin my baby the milk. She then looked at her shopping and saw that some was missing, so the stupid b who messed with my stuff must have pinched her stuff too.
I was so angry I was shaking. to cut a long story short, they are taking this very seriously (as they should) There was only 4of us females working that night, so that leaves 2 suspects, 1 of them i doubt would have done it and she finished 1/2hr before me. But the other one finished an hour before, she is very horrible and does not like it if I give her a job to do. Everyone at work says she weird.

I am soooooo upset about all of this and ended up crying today at work. One of the managers and another colegue consoled me, hugging me etc. I just feel like what if the milk has been tampered with before, and I have given it to baby!! Infact I am almost crying now as I think of it. Manager in charge that night is trying to see if I can put milk i the canteen fridge which is locked, in the mean time, I have brought some ice gel packs and put the milk in a cool bag with them today.
Big manager talked to me today and there have been team briefings, manager breifings and the like.

I really need some kind words and even some advice as to where I go from here. I am worried what I will do when I see her next, I know I have no concrete evidence it was her, and that a male could have gone in there, but I just have a feeling it was her, should I say something? the next time I see her will be on Sat. I feel like just not going in cos I dont know what I will do. But why should I stay at home when I haven't done any wrong!!

Sorry it was such a long post!!

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Ronniebaby · 14/10/2004 11:58

Ice - big hugs to you, this is awful, you must have great composure, I'd have flipped my lid.

Why should someone firstly go routing thru your food in the fridge anyway, male or female, (if you marked it with your name then certainly no reason). But to touch the EBM - this is the lowest of the low, I feel for you.

I hope you get it sorted real soon.

Pagan · 14/10/2004 12:41

Hugs Ice - a dreadful thing to happen but at least work is taking it seriously. Hopefully they will find out the culprit for sure and take appropriate action. Keep us all posted

edam · 14/10/2004 13:27

Ice, am shocked on your behalf. How outrageous. Nothing to add to other posts but my sympathy.

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Ice · 14/10/2004 13:58

hi all, thanks for the posts. I am so angry. I didn't think about involving police, I have thrown away the milk now, didn't think of keeping it for evidence as I was so upset I just wanted to get rid.
Should I tell top boss that I want police involved?
I feel so sick thinking if she did it before. I want to really hurt her, I am shocked by my own feelings.
How Dare she. Please excuse my angry post. I just cant hold it in anymore. I have been trying to be strong but it is so hard. I only wish I kept milk and bag now. I am very tempted to leave a decoy milk in there. However everyone knows that management knows so she would have to be a fool to do anything to it.

Thanks again for your advice and kind words. It means alot to me that I can open up and talk how I am feeling.

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Ice · 14/10/2004 14:00

I just feel so lousy, I express inorder to give my baby milk when I am away, trying to do my best and now I feel I have put him in danger somehow by allowing this sick person to do this. I am so upset and unhappy. I am crying as I type this. I feel so bad.

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Snugs · 14/10/2004 14:03

Stop beating yourself up - you have done nothing wrong. And this sicko might be getting some wierd pleasure out of making you feel bad about yourself. And yes, I would tell management to contact police.

chatee · 14/10/2004 14:05

hugs to you ice...it's awful i just don't know what to say but thinking of you

KangaMummy · 14/10/2004 14:05

I don't know what else to suggest but am sending you and your baby cyberhugs {{{{{{}}}}}}

love Kangamummy xxx

Metrobaby · 14/10/2004 14:12

I'm not surprised you feel like this ice. What a truely horrid thing to happen. I am amazed how coldly calculated an act this is. At least your work is taking this seriously. I hope she will be very severly dealt with.

pepsi · 14/10/2004 14:19

I would be fuming if this happend to me, but my advice would be just use the coolbags for your babies milk, you will never feel safe about the milk again otherwise. I would play it cool (hard I know). I would place some food in the frige........in front of the managers so that everyone knows whats in the bag.........and then wait and see. Alternatively dont put any food in the fridge and just leave a note inside it instead with a message of your choice! I guess this would be called entrapment though wouldnt it. You could also, as I think someone else suggested, ask her if she had noticed anything going missing from the fridge, her reaction may well give her away. Lastly, buy some rancid out of date food and package it nicely..........she'll be off sick for a few days with a bad belly so at least you will get away from her for a bit. Also, keep an eye on whether this happens when she is at or not at work? How about random bag checks by the managers?

pepsi · 14/10/2004 14:21

oops sorry, shes not stealing the food is just, just tampering with it.......perhaps she is just very nosey and wants to see what you eat for your tea. Either way it has to be sorted doesnt it as its not right you being in tears over her pathetic actions.........hopefully this will make you laugh.........buy a mousetrap and put it in your bag in the fridge and wait for the yelp!

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Ice · 14/10/2004 14:24

thanks. I am going to do school run now. I am going to ask for a meeting with boss to see where they are going with this and if police will be involved.
This has really made me think though, I have been so trusting by leaving my stuff in fridge. I have been there for 2yrs (incl maternity leave) and it's only since sicko has started (about 2mths or so) that I have noticed anything.
If work doesn't give me a satisfactory outcome can I contact police on my own?

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Ice · 14/10/2004 14:29

pepsi she did steal food too. and shopping from manager.
I am goint to use the cool bag option to ease my mind.

BTW you did make me laugh about the bad food and the note, thank you.

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jamiesam · 14/10/2004 14:35

So sorry for what your're going through Ice. You absolutely mustn't feel that you have in anyway put your baby at risk - loads of us have stored ebm in communal work fridges and I certainly never ever thought that anyone could tamper with it or worse. You are doing the very best for your baby.
Do agree with comments that you might be better to leave this to management. I think that any confrontation between you and her would just be far too emotional. Without any proof, neither you nor management can tackle her head on. Guess that all management can do is raise the issue with everybody. For your colleagues who might not entirely appreciate the seriousness of the ebm tampering, they will want to know that someone tampers with food. Likely to become an issue for the whole organisation. Just make sure that your interests are put first by management.
Am so sad to think that this person has upset you so much. Do hope that there can be some solution at work. Best wishes and hugs.

KangaMummy · 14/10/2004 14:36

If you get a cooler bag with 2 zip things {I dont know what they are called but so you can zip from left and right} then you can get a small padlock like for suitcases and lock it up to make your DS milk safe and your lunch.

turquoise · 14/10/2004 14:47

Just seen this thread ice and wanted to echo everyones' sympathy to you, and horror that some sicko could do such a thing. Try not to let yourself feel you should have done anything differently - who would ever imagine such a thing could happen? I would insist that work involve the police.

pixiefish · 14/10/2004 15:31

Papillon has the right idea- i would defo tell ALL the people you work with how sick this person is- don't discriminate- tell everybody-let the sick, twisted @@@@@@@@@@@ (sorry big big FFFF SWEAR)be the wonder of everybody for being so sick... Name and shame without the naming- let people work it out for themselves- that way you're not faslely accusing anyone IYSWIM
Just contact the police yourself- you don't need permission from management

jabberwocky · 14/10/2004 15:42

Just wanted to say, I used a cooler bag for a year and it was no problem at all. If it were me, I would want to know that my EBM was safe and secure at all times.

Thinking of you and hope this gets sorted out properly for you.

Uwila · 14/10/2004 16:02

Probably not realistic, but could the fridge be moved out where it is in plain view of lots of peopl so that no one can sneak off to the fridge unsupervised. I bet that would cure it.

It wouldn't of course settle what has already happened. But it would probably keep your milk safe from now on.

People are evil. Who knows why they do these things?

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Ice · 15/10/2004 03:07

thankyou all!! In some ways I am glad that the sicko left such a big clue as to what she did cos now I know for sure that my stuff has been tampered with. If Not I would have just come home and put ebm in freezer and baby would have had it today I wish I had just kept the ebm in my locker from day one.

I will and have done some unnaming and shaming. I told quite a few of my closer collegues what happened and said only x and y were here that night, as sicko is so sicko like everyone just led themselves to the assumption that it had to be her. I just hope she trips herself up and soon. She was due to come in today, is my day off so dont know if any of my colegues said anything to her. Managers would have but if they found anything out they would have phoned me, wouldn't they?? not too sure though.
Dh has been very supportive to me, he too is very angry but says I have to be calm and not stoop to her level. He says to leave it to management. It really is such a shame to because I often buy stuff for home like milk, cheese and othe cold chain and put it in fridge but cant now so ot makes it harder to get anything on the days I work.
I must admit I am worried about saturday. I will have to be very calm and hold back all my emotions and really dont know if I can. As you can see I am up waaaaay to late, I don't sleep well at the best of times but now it's worse. I was up till 5am last night/morn.
WHy would someone do something like this. I haven't done anything to her, FGoodnesS, Who would do that!!

I am so touched by all of your kindness, I really feel as though I need to get all my anger, upset etc out. Thank you.

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Ice · 15/10/2004 03:09

sorry for the terrible spellings!! over tired but cant sleep!

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Ice · 15/10/2004 22:42

Am a bit worried about how I will react to seeing her tomorrow. I am seriously thinking of just calling in sick.

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KangaMummy · 15/10/2004 22:54

If you did call in sick how long would it be before you had to see her again?

Which do you think it will make you worry more having it hanging over you or getting it over and done with tomorrow.

It is a really awful situation

I agree it is better that you noticed the tampering so that your dbaby didn't have the milk today

Good luck with whichever decision you make {{{{}}}}

pixiefish · 15/10/2004 23:00

yes, good luck

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Ice · 15/10/2004 23:02

KM--- the next day would be monday that I see her, and you're right It would be hanging over me.
PixieF--- Thanks!!

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