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Someone at work tampered with my food and Baby's EBM!!! ---- Long post.

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Ice · 14/10/2004 02:47

Before I go on, I just want to let you all know I am a regular but have changed my name as I may be recognized if anyone who works with me is a mnetter

I am very upset, this happend yesturday(tues) We have a fridge in chamging room at work. I leave shopping in there and lunch etc. And most of all my expressed breast milk. For some time I have noticed that when I leave shopping it looks like it has been moved/touched. So yestueday I wanted to save some of my meal for today, I tied up the bag and put a bow in with a mark in the middle of bow so that I'd know if it had been touched. Later on, I expressed and tied the bag up and put it in fridge behind my shopping.
At the end of my shift I went to the fridge and there was my bag, ripped open!!! I was shocked and looked at it, I then looked at the milk bag and saw the milk was a funny colour, I opened it and it looked funny. I informed the shift manager and showed her the bag, I told her to come and look at the milk, she saw it and was very upset. I threw the food away as there is no way I was going to eat it. I said there's no way i'm givin my baby the milk. She then looked at her shopping and saw that some was missing, so the stupid b who messed with my stuff must have pinched her stuff too.
I was so angry I was shaking. to cut a long story short, they are taking this very seriously (as they should) There was only 4of us females working that night, so that leaves 2 suspects, 1 of them i doubt would have done it and she finished 1/2hr before me. But the other one finished an hour before, she is very horrible and does not like it if I give her a job to do. Everyone at work says she weird.

I am soooooo upset about all of this and ended up crying today at work. One of the managers and another colegue consoled me, hugging me etc. I just feel like what if the milk has been tampered with before, and I have given it to baby!! Infact I am almost crying now as I think of it. Manager in charge that night is trying to see if I can put milk i the canteen fridge which is locked, in the mean time, I have brought some ice gel packs and put the milk in a cool bag with them today.
Big manager talked to me today and there have been team briefings, manager breifings and the like.

I really need some kind words and even some advice as to where I go from here. I am worried what I will do when I see her next, I know I have no concrete evidence it was her, and that a male could have gone in there, but I just have a feeling it was her, should I say something? the next time I see her will be on Sat. I feel like just not going in cos I dont know what I will do. But why should I stay at home when I haven't done any wrong!!

Sorry it was such a long post!!

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jamiesmom · 15/10/2004 23:15

Thats terrible, what a nasty thing to do i'm bf and can't begin to imagine how you feel, i'd lose my temper if i saw the person you think is responsible for doing it, hope you do better than i would. is there any way you could find out what had been put in ebm or have you thrown it out?

harrassedmum · 15/10/2004 23:25

That is disgusting, how could anyone do such a thing to baby milk?! Not suprised you feel the way you do, hope all goes well tomorrow if you go to work. Take care x

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Ice · 15/10/2004 23:27

JM--- I threw it out, I didn't even think about saving it!! I wish I had now.
I wil try to work at the other end of the store but I may be put in charge, then I will have to talk to her. If so I'm gonna think of the worst stuff and make her do it, But knowing me I'll just feel guilty later on. Hopefuly she wont come in.

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jamiesmom · 15/10/2004 23:32

i'd have to give her the worst jobs to do if i was you as well and probably feel guilty after too. you always think of things like saving ebm after its too late i'd have binned it straight away too, i still can't belive someone would do that to your baby's milk, what's the poor little thing ever done to them that's what i'd like to no.

kkgirl · 16/10/2004 08:50

Ice

Might have missed the point, but are your management going to confront this person about it.
This is a serious situation and they should be sorting this out now, so that you aren't left in this difficult position.
If it was me I would speak to my management again becuase if this has happened to a few people, it won't be the end of it, and if they aren't going to do anything, I would take it higher. It is a very serious matter and should be treated as so.

Good luck

serenequeen · 16/10/2004 10:27

nothing to add to great posts here already. just wanted to add my sympathy, shock, disgust etc at what has happened. agree it is a police matter.

MummyToSteven · 16/10/2004 10:29

agree with Serenequeen.

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Ice · 16/10/2004 17:25

Hi all. Please keep me in your thoughts and send me calming thoughts as I am off to work now
kgirl--- I will talk to management again.
ty sq, and MTS.

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tiptop · 16/10/2004 17:53

Ice - I've followed this thread but haven't posted on it before. I'm really sorry to hear of what has happened. I hope that the person responsible is identified and appropriate action taken.

I don't know if this may be of interest to you. Last night I was reading the Lakeland catalogue and noticed that they have a container that has a tamper-proof seal. The size of the container isn't suitable for your needs, but maybe the manufacturer produces these containers in smaller sizes also. The website is www.lakelandlimited.co.uk and the item code number is: 10163. They are "4 Microwave Super-Seal Containers. Once the lids are fitted on these Super-Seal Containers, they stay locked in place, providing a tamper-proof seal, until you break the tab. Each 1 litre. Pack of 4. £4.95"

I hope this evening's work goes okay for you. Take care.

KangaMummy · 16/10/2004 18:11

I am probably too late but am thinking of you and have been during day as I wasn't sure what time you went to work.

Cyberhugs {{{{{}}}}

nailpolish · 16/10/2004 18:37

this had made me cry ice. how could someone live with themselves, in the knowledge that they are tampering with the food of an innocent baby? i hope you and your family ae ok. lots and lots of luck. i have an idea that the guilty party will have it written all over their face if they have any shred of conscience. will you inform the police? big hugs xxx keep us informed xxx

Oooggs · 16/10/2004 21:28

Hi Ice - how did today go??? Hope you are ok.

KangaMummy · 17/10/2004 16:38

Ice have been thinking of you, how was it?

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Ice · 17/10/2004 17:08

hi all! sorry didnt come on earlier, was very tired after work and have been cooking and cleaning till now.
suspected person didn't turn up she was on staff sheet/rota but just didn't come in. apparently she came in thurs. and told collegue she wants to leave, when asked why she said people are getting on her nerves!! this just adds to my suspicions that it was her!! I was pleased i went in cos she wasn't there and i could have missed work for nothing.
i am going to make an appt to see HR/ Personel and see whats being done.

tiptop--- ty for the link, i will feel safer just leaving the ,ilk in mt locker. that way only someone with the master key can open it and so if anything should be suspicious it will be someone with key.
kanga--- your thoughts are appreciated greatly, they really worked too!!
nailpolish--- ty for your empathy, i'm sorry it made you cry though. still feel delicate myself. I will decide about police when i talk to hr/pnel. dont think police can do anything tho as i have thrown evidence away!! why did i do that!! really wasnt thinkin straight.
ty you also ooogs.

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Ice · 17/10/2004 17:10

pls excuse spelling!! typing while expressing!! baby prob felt it as he woke up and is now guzzling for britain!!

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KangaMummy · 17/10/2004 17:22

am glad you went in and that she wasn't there made it far more relaxing for you

Hope for your sake that this woman does leave but not before she is disciplined either by the company or the police.

Good luck with your baby

Twiglett · 17/10/2004 22:18

I'm glad you're getting things sorted ..every time I've seen this heading I've felt sick to my stomach .. sorry I haven't posted before on it though ... can only imagine what you've been going through

I would definitely go to police / insist company involves police

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Ice · 17/10/2004 22:25

thanks twiglett

BTW, please anyone posting on this just keep using "ice" as I am going to try and get the last to posts deleted. thanks

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hunkermunker · 17/10/2004 22:26

Hi Ice

Just found this thread and it shocked me to my core. I thought I was being paranoid thinking my colleagues may tamper with my milk - seems I'm not necessarily! This person is a serious sicko and in some ways I hope she does leave - but in others, I hope she stays and is found out and hauled over the coals. The former might be easier for you in the short-term, but I reckon the latter might be better - this woman needs a big fat slap!

I am so angry on your behalf - I know what effort goes into expressing, especially at work. It takes real dedication to b/feeding to want to provide your child with your milk when you're away - it's not for some silly b*tch to mess about with.

I really don't blame you for being angry - you've been really self-controlled and should be proud of yourself for that. I'm not sure I would've been so rational about it, but I suspect you're so shocked that it'd be hard to get the words out if you did confront her.

Big big hugs and keep us posted.

HM xxx

pixiefish · 17/10/2004 22:27

Lets hope so eh ice. good luck tomorrow. will be thinking of you- get those posts goen eh

KangaMummy · 17/10/2004 22:27

I don't understand what you mean

pixiefish · 17/10/2004 22:29

have you had this then hunkermunker?

KangaMummy · 17/10/2004 22:30

ice what do you mean about ice and delete

hunkermunker · 17/10/2004 22:32

No, not had this - haven't expressed at work yet, but will have to next Sunday I think. Because it's a Sunday, I don't think there'll be many people in, but I may well use some kind of lockable bag since the idea of someone tampering with my milk makes me feel sick. I am appalled
that anyone would be this twisted.

pixiefish · 17/10/2004 22:35

Don't think this is the norm you know hunker- I wouldn't worry about it. I think that ice has been extremely unlucky in working with such a twisted sick abnormal person- I leave mine in a cool bag and no one knows what it is- lock it if you feel safer but ice has been very unlucky- you musn't worry about it hunker