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Is it always this personal on Mumsnet?

132 replies

musica · 15/09/2002 18:02

I've been posting here for about a month and a half, and for the first few weeks I thought it was great - everyone seemed so friendly and supportive of each other, and even when people disagreed it was with a humourous However, over the last couple of weeks, more and more threads seem to be concluding with someone saying "I won't be posting here anymore" - please tell me this is unusual - it's so sad that so many people seem to be feeling they have to leave because of what others have said personally to them.

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WideWebWitch · 17/09/2002 21:53

Madonna2, you could have made that serious (and perhaps valid) point without upsetting a lot of people in the process, whoever you are. but you won't read this now because you are gone, no?

Bobbins · 17/09/2002 21:55

I think madonna2 sounds like JamesK. but then again I'm probably wrong, and I shall try not to worry myself about it

WideWebWitch · 17/09/2002 21:56

Agreed bobbins.

Bobbins · 17/09/2002 21:58

it IS Jamesk....shouldn't you be concentrating on your business instead of playing around on here young man!!!!

Philippat · 17/09/2002 22:00

I think us debating who madonna was might have made it worse in the first place, so we probably shouldn't try and guess this time... (give poor old JamesK a break, whoever it is has learned their lesson)

Can't face losing MORE of my favourite mumsnetters...

Bobbins · 17/09/2002 22:02

No debate...It's him! ha HA!

Bobbins · 17/09/2002 22:09

I'm not playing this game though...after all I still have brians!

anais · 17/09/2002 22:18

To be honest I don't see what Madonna did that was so wrong. It was meant as a harmless joke and everyone's taking everything far to seriously.

Clarinet60 · 17/09/2002 22:48

I'm sure brian will be needing it back by now.

Bobbins · 17/09/2002 22:57

He may even be getting a tad bored of being without it by now

BuyBabyClothesLtd · 17/09/2002 23:50

I've just received a number of emails from mumsnetters, via feedback from my website, to warn me that I was being implicated in this thread.

Whether in jest or otherwise that is out of order.

One of the first rules of business is never act out of anger. Well, to hell with that. I'm angry.

Why don't each of you spare a thought for the indivdual that oringinally posted this topic. Why not read the original posting? They were obviously wondering if they should bother coming back to mumsnet. What effect do you think this thread has had on them? Or anyone else for that matter.

As you can see if I have something contraversial to say I don't bother changing my nickname.

I won't be back so you can all say what you like about this posting. I won't be advertising on this site now either so you can also thank each other for the loss of revenue for mumsnet that you all 'apparently' care so much about.

Thank you to those genuine mumsnetters that warned me about this thread and please excuse my anger.

ionesmum · 17/09/2002 23:54

Demented I had to come back and thank you for your kind comments. Also thanks to Rhubarb, Jodee, Lilbet and anyone I've missed.

I left because I felt very confused by what was going on. I was genuinely pleased to think that aloha was back and felt bad that she'd been so upset. I am also bothered that someone said that they were someone else. I came back to read the postings to try and make sense of what happened but I still feel very unsure of people's motives. On the other hand some of the messages have made me realise that there are friends here that I will miss.

I worry about how much of myself I've given away here - you even know my daughter's name! I have so many uncertainties in my life right now and I felt comfortable coming here and pouring them out. I don't feel comfortable with that any more. Maybe madonna has made her point.

Anyway, I expect I shall be back to chat about weaning or poo. Thanks to everyone that's helped me in the past, you have made a great deal of difference.

Bobbins · 18/09/2002 00:42

erm... can we kiss and make up?

Bobbins · 18/09/2002 01:24

This is silly. I've posted on quite a few threads now, and perhaps sometimes been too open. But this is just juvenille. I feel like I've gotten myself into trouble just by trying to lighten up on a few posts. I genuinely thought that jamesK was extracting the urine at first somewhat. Thats my opinion, he defended himself well (and advertised his enterprise at every available opportunity...nothing wrong with enterprise), and then we jested with him. Not everyone has to agree.

I am here because I genuinely feel that this site has been immensely helpful to me, and I hope it will be in the future. If someone upsets me I'll try to ignore them, and concentrate on those threads/contributors who'sopinions/thoughts I value. Nobody who values these things should have to leave.

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threeangels · 18/09/2002 01:44

This is so weird. I have been reading all the posts for the past two days and I'm still not even sure what in world is going on. Everyone is so upset and I'm just looking over the threads trying to see who I can help. I guess I'm just clueless.

Jasper · 18/09/2002 01:46

more insomniacs I see

Demented · 18/09/2002 08:10

Ionesmum, I hope you'll be back, please don't wait 'till potty training!

JamesK, please don't decide not to advertise, I'm sure I am not the only one who has visited your site and don't have any problem with what you are doing and I am more likely to find the site again if you advertise with Mumsnet and there is a direct link with your advert.

Bobbins, have you e-mailed JK to apologise?

Batters · 18/09/2002 09:22

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Clarinet60 · 18/09/2002 09:33

I'm mystified as to what Bobbins has to apologise to JK for. She hasn't said anything bad, just made jokes! Do you think he's really gone off in a strop, or just joking? Perhaps he doesn't understand about Brians.
Bobbins, you've been so brave and been through so much, I feel strongly that you should never have to apologise for anything ever again.

Bobbins · 18/09/2002 10:04

Thanks Droile, but I will e-mail him to explain if Demented feels I should. I did make a genuine mistake. I haven't really been following the troll thing, and from the little that I tried to understand, I genuinely thought JamesK was madonna, and thought it would be very amusing if he was. I was trying to be lighthearted, but I'm sorry if this has meant Mumsnet loses revenue, he's obviously very sensitive. I do think he's taken a little too much to heart. I hope we can all get over this glitch in the general wellbeing of Mumsnet.

Bobbins · 18/09/2002 10:32

Done.

Willow2 · 18/09/2002 10:34

Would everyone please just lighten up?

Demented · 18/09/2002 10:40

Bobbins, I didn't actually say you had to apologise to JK of course that is a personal decision, I was merely asking if you had e-mailed him to apologise. I had understood that by your providing a link to his website you were offering him an olive branch so to speak. However if JK is true to his word and does not come back then he will not see this gesture. If this was not your intention by posting the link then I apologise. However my main issue about this is that Mumsnet is now losing out if JK does not advertise, as I am sure you are aware from other threads they need the cash, also other members who may benefit from JK's site will lose out also.

We should not be forcing advertisers away as without them Mumsnet would not be able to survive.

Demented · 18/09/2002 10:44

Bobbins, must of been posting at the same time as you.

Willow2, totally agree, this is not the Mumsnet I know & love!

Bobbins · 18/09/2002 11:26

And I've also paid a subscription, to try and compensate. I shall quietly go and flagellate myself in the corner now!