FINALLY...........ITS ALL OUT IN THE OPEN

[EvesMama]

started this new thread as the old one was about sensitive matters.
relieved that many other feel that this site has become 'restricted'.
many subjects discussed have been close to home for me, however i have tried to offer advice rather than condem someone for discussing it and raking up my feelings.
hope things start to get better otherwise, will have to revert back to watching rubbish on telly.

Hear hear.

Yeah, there's bugger all on tonight.

S'pose I should go and chat to dh - promised myself half an hour only on here

sounds all too familar!!! but dp is watching "the match" and its hardly my cup of tes!
have enjoyed this tonight though as it shows its not just me, i thought a was an outsider and you had to have some special code!!

Michael Palin's on, and I'm taping him....

That's why I'm here too EvesMama. "let's watch something on TV" I said- and suddenly we're on the match grrrrr.

Ditto!

And jampot's just been on the other thread saying she doesn't think her face fits!!

How bizarre that everyone has suddenly come out and agreed!!

I feel like a big cloud's been lifted!!

Please remember that it is only a vast minority of threads that cause such angst and debate. On the whole this is not what MN is about and nearly all posters are her to chat, offer and recieve advice or support, and to be nice people. Errors in judgement, or unintentional hurt, is always likely to happen in an anonymous environment like MN, as it may in RL. And some threads may be missed, even important problems, simply bevause of time or day and who is around or not. Especially when there are so many members and people joining/leaving all the time.

In reality these threads have been very few and far between when you consider how many threads and post happen every day. I think it is best people keep that fact in mind.

I don't think threads condeming other members, or Mn as a whole, are in anyway beneficial t the overall atmosphere on MN.

Me too me too - always a bit nervous to post in case I get shot down in flames! Look out MN, here we all come!!!!!

Oops, or was it jimjams who said her face didn't fit - can't remember now!! Think it was jimjams wasn't it?

Didn't think mine did either - it seemed like on some threads I'd go in and post and it would be ignored while everyone carried on 'talking' to each other!

here here Skate! (only sometimes tho, generally i love, love, love MN, but i completly get what you mean)

And ditto Libb, on the something has shifted but don't know what. I know what you mean, also.

eh? not me skate! I said I cocked up on the original thread without realising I could be causing offence.

I don't venture out of special needs much these days - we're all chums in there!

I just came on here to moan about dh watching The Match!

well said moderator. Unless you know exactly what the offensive threads were about, you shouldn't really comment. And that's not being cliquey, it's just that some threads have discussed very sensitive but hopefully very rare life experiences. I think you alienate yourselves even more by starting threads like this tbh

okay ladies...seeing as though were all here and agreeing, anyone want any help, got any probs...totally unbiased and honest opinions from this lot !!!wayhay!!!!

was right to start with - it was Jampot!

I didn't read the most recent thread BUT I think I do have a right to pass comment. The one thread that REALLY sticks in my mind of late was the one about what to buy a child for Christmas.

That got really nasty/spiteful and some of the things said made me draw breath - and if expressing my general displeasure will alienate me further - then do I really want to be part of a site like that? I think not.

I lurked for a long time because I wasn't confident to either ask or give advice. When I did post it was on threads that I had personal experience of. When I "came out" and did an introduction I was knocked for 6 by someone saying I was a troll. Lately nearly any thread I dip in to turns in to a squabble as who said what to whom etc. No matter what anyone says there is a small community within the community of mumsnet who do make it difficult for others to feel accepted. Now I have harped on enough and normally I don't hold grudges but every time soemthing like this comes up it makes me very angry. Its only lately I was feeling comfortable enough to chat but thats it for me. No more back to real life. I think also one of the biggest drawbacks on mn is the ability to change ones name. I don't think it should be a feature.

Yes, I need some help - my ironing pile hasn't moved since I came in here to do the ironing but accidentally (!!) switched on the PC !!!!!

Hear hear, Sobernow!

sobernow, what i'm trying to say is that the other post shouldn;t have even been started! If mumsnet saw fir to delete the original thread then why oh why can;t the subject be dropped. Sadly they don;t seem to be these days hence you get these threads starting up too. Senseless and completely pointless and like the moderator said early on in the other thread, it would make sense to drop it!

LOL KBear!! I'm feeling smug cos I did my ironing before coming on here .

i know kbear...we're getting a new car tomorrow (taking my test soon...wobble wobble!) and i could be disecting all dd's toys from back seat, ironing clothes for tomorrows play group and washing lovely kiss marks off mirror wardrobes and french doors...ho hum....

I NEVER iron. We like the creased look in our house

soory herehere...intention was to move away from 'that'thread and start a chit chat about anything alse...i (and others) keep trying to change subject, but others keep telling us we;re causing more probs...lets talk about something else