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Friend just buggered himself up and is now practically blind

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Rhubarb · 16/09/2007 20:20

A close friend of both mine and dh's has this eye condition which was threatening to make him slowly blind. A few years ago he had a cornea transplant on his best eye, the other was deemed too far gone to operate on. It was a success and he was able to pass his driving test (something he was told he'd never be able to do) and he's got a good job, own flat, etc etc. He's also very fit and has done the 3 peaks with dh and they were due to cycle coast to coast next weekend.

But on Friday he got into a drunken argument with his friend, who punched him in the eye, dislodging the transplanted cornea.

He was rushed into hospital and they operated, but it was not a success. He can now barely see at all, he can just make out shapes. He's had to move back in with his parents as he needs help and support now.

We are desperately worried about him. Only time will tell what the final damage is, the doctors are waiting for the eye to heal before considering another operation. The thought of him being dependant for the rest of his life is just awful! He's always had such shit luck, and I feel so sorry for the guy.

Please spare a thought for him. Ta.

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Rhubarb · 03/01/2008 20:37

Update, he's seen the specialist who is going to operate on both eyes this year. He wants to start with the naff one that he couldn't see out of to begin with. Then when that's healed they'll operate on the buggered one. He'll need cornea transplants for both and a new lense for the buggered one. Hoping the first op will be early Feb.

In the meantime, he did make the holiday and it turned out really well. We made a video of it here he's the one with the beard.

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Wallace · 03/01/2008 20:42

Thanks for the update, I wish him luck with the ops.

Odd friends you have btw

Wallace · 03/01/2008 20:43

Oops, one's your dh

FlorenceFarkingNightingale · 03/01/2008 21:01

I'm glad that the holiday worked out well for him. If I've got the right one then he certainly looked cheerful on the bits I've watched.

Keeping my fingers crossed that he gets his ops as planned, and that they go well.

(it's CSWS btw)

Rhubarb · 03/01/2008 21:06

Yes one IS my dh!

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Rhubarb · 19/01/2008 15:44

Update: he was told yesterday that unfortunately there is nothing more they can do for his eye. In fact, the way it currently looks will only get worse, his eyeball will shrink even more and it will have the look of a dead eye. They've offered him a glass eye which he's refused.

They are now concentrating on the previously bad eye, but there is scarring on the eyeball so they have to be careful. Of course, if things go wrong then he's completely buggered.

At best, he'll get ok vision out of one eye, be able to work and live on his own again, possibly drive but that's uncertain.

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Rhubarb · 19/01/2008 16:09

What can I say to him? I know he's down today, what can I say?

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ProfessorGrammaticus · 19/01/2008 16:17

I don't know what you can say - maybe you just call/visit and say that you don't know what to say? IYSWIM I think it's importnat that you get in touch, but exactly what you say is less important?

Rhubarb · 19/01/2008 16:20

We are in touch. Had a lengthy phone conversation with him yesterday and last night. Just wish I had the right words.

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FlllightAttendant · 19/01/2008 16:26

God I fancy all of them!

FlllightAttendant · 19/01/2008 16:27

Sorry for that useless and unhelpful comment...

I hope it works, what they have planned. Have been following since you first posted about him.

FlllightAttendant · 19/01/2008 16:32

He looks like a really great bloke by the way. It's awful that something like this has happened to someone so lively and vivacious.

Rhubarb · 19/01/2008 16:35

He is a great bloke, he really really is. He said last night that he was going to wrestle with it all in his head and then move on, no amount of self-pity or depression would bring his eye back. I know he'll bounce back, he's an inspiration and the kids dote on him.

And then you have my brother who is suicidal because his mistress dumped him..... it doesn't compare. Just doesn't.

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