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Lollipopslife17 · 16/12/2019 17:37

Hi all, I need a quick reply to this pls. A few weeks ago, I saw an afro Carribean girl (let's call her A) in my daughter class. I saw & observed the MUm seems to be struggling with maintaining her hair as the mum is not of the same race. Another day, A came with extensions in her hair and she didn't want to go into sch as was uncomfortable with her hair with the extension in and very shy and self-conscious. Being afro Carribean myself, I offered the mum some advice on how to manage her little girl's hair a little better it makes things easy for them both as afro hair can be hard to manage. We exchange numbers (the exchanging number was my idea)

She listened and thanked me. As my daughter and A are in the same class and play together, I asked this lady if she wouldn't mind bringing A to my place at the weekend as I booked a hairdresser to come to my house to do my daughter's hair and that A can come over too.i thought the girls would love that and seat to have hair done. She said she won't be able to as A is spending the weekend with her dad and said some other time and I said sure.

Out of the blue few days later, she sends me a text msg asking if I could write her a letter about how I saw that A’s hair was untidy and offered advice (that the hair was so because A had spent the weekend at her dads that weekend) as she's got a case in court with A’s father. I replied saying yes I would write the letter but I am now thinking and questioning myself if I should write the letter or not because I offered her advice on how to manage the hair better - I didn't know where A had spent the weekend or anything at the time I advise her on A’s hair.

I Dont want to be used to manipulate things and the situation. I don't want any trouble maybe the ex finding out I wrote a letter and then start to harass me etc

bear in mind I Dont know this lady at all and the 1st time I ever spoke to her was when I gave advice on how to manager A’s hair.

Shall I write a letter to her or not

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MartyrGuacamole · 16/12/2019 18:24

Just write a letter with exactly what you saw and said. Tell only the truth. It's not up to you to provide background or evidence. I wouldn't include any judgements. So e.g

I saw A at (name of school) on (date). I offered (name of mum) some help maintaining and managing A's hair. I suggested a play date and offered to share a hairdresser appt at (your address) on (date). This was refused, the reason given was that A would be at (father's name) house.

Faithfully - lollipops

Lollipopslife17 · 16/12/2019 18:31

@MartyrGuacamole. Thank you very much for your reply. I sincerely appreciate it.

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