is it spectacularly rude to not take a present to a wedding?

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these threads make me realise how crap i am at gifts. if I travel abroad for a wedding, i simply don't think of getting the couple a gift - i tend to assume that the expense of going there is enough. and i only buy presents for very, very close family and friends if they get married, and even then it tends to be a watch, or take them out for champagne to celebrate. have i been committing huge mistakes? noone's ever complained but i suppose they wouldn't.

What are your touching gift suggestions, Malory?

If you say flip-flops...

I am TERRIBLE with thank yous. All the mums at ds's school seem to manage handwritten thank you cards for all the children who come to their dc's party (they are five btw). I just completely lose track of who gave what and am rubbish, so try to say, 'sorry I didn't do a thank you card, but thanks so much for coming and the present'. I really am impressed by people who do written thank yous. Think they are v good thing.

I don't think that's exaggerating.

I think you do very well.

Want to come to a posh party at my house?

Yes. Special glittery flip-flops

Of course I wrote a list of who gave us what and wrote thank you notes etc. I didn't, however, check the gift list of against the guest to make sure everyone who had attended had given a gift IYSWIM?
Malory, technicaly taking champagne to a v posh dinner party is seen as an insult to the the host's cellar...you're welcome to come to my place and insult my cellar BTW!
Just to be clear, I always take champagne or similar as well, so am not actually critisizing!