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Me and my partner have been together for 10 months now. He has a daughter from a previous relationship, I have two daughters from a previous relationship and I’m currently 17 weeks pregnant with our daughter. We’ve recently moved in together as of last week and had his little girl stay over at my house for the first time this weekend which she absolutely loved. His daughter loves spending time with her dad and has made beautiful bonds with my two little girls. My partner and his ex have had a very sour and rocky break up. She found out about me when we first started seeing each other as she was looking on his social media and saw us liking and commenting on each others posts a lot. So from the get go she has been furious about it and continuously threatened to stop his contact, she asked that she would be told when I was to first be introduced to their daughter and then the next week said she didn’t want to know. When I did first meet their daughter my partner did inform her about it out of respect for her as her mother, she kicked off so that was left. Our first meeting was a day trip out to an aquarium and my partner took a picture and uploaded to his social media a few days later. She somehow saw this and whilst their daughter was in his care but at nursery, she left work early collected their child took her home and sent him a text saying not to pick her up as she had taken her, contact was being stopped and how dare he upload photos playing happy families. She stopped contact for 2 weeks, they had a mediator so my partner asked the mediator to write a court order and then paid to take her to court. Court went ahead and my partner was given every other weekend and every other Tuesday night then Wednesday day with his mother (child’s grandmother) whilst he works and then after work with partner - dropped home at 5.30pm. Court was in March, his ex since has a new boyfriend. My partner only found out as when he dropped his little girl home she asked where said boyfriend was at the door and his ex replied oh that’s my partner. He didn’t kick up a fuss, just said oh okay and went home. Since she never informed him that his daughter had been introduced to her new partner he didn’t feel the need to tell her that he has moved into my house. The contact has all been going smoothly until late last night his ex text saying they needed to talk, she had been looking on my social media and that she’s seen posts that could jeopardise their court order. And that if he hasn’t been staying at his parents home with their child then there’s going to be a problem. Today he called her and explained he had moved in with me last week and this was their daughters first weekend staying over, she went absolutely mental calling him a liar, saying she had phoned the police last night as she’s worried about their child’s welfare and that the police were going to remove the child from my partner. His mum then spoke to her and confirmed this was the first weekend, she’s happy, safe and well looked after. She then asked where she’s sleeping and he explained in my daughters room in a toddler bed. She then made a point about how she thinks it’s a bit much 3 of them in a room. Kicked off some more, said that she had seen me posting on housing mutual exchange sites and she can see it all. He told her that she needs to stop looking at our social media and she said she will be sending welfare officers (social services) round to my home to check it out and she wants my address. My partner said this is absolutely fine and wrote my address in their handover book the phone then call ended. My partner then dropped their child home this evening, when he got back she text saying that the child had a bruise on her back. My partner explained she went to her cousins birthday party at soft play today and it could be from there but he was unaware of said bruise and their child never complained about it. She then text back saying so was you not watching her then? He said of course I was, this is silly I am not going to reply anymore. She’s now saying that on the Tuesday is he not staying at his parents house with the child. He told her he picks her up, gives her dinner, baths her, puts her to bed at grandmas and then comes home leaves at 6 for work and then goes round straight from work, has dinner and then takes her home for 5.30. She’s now kicking off about how he doesn’t stay the night there, he explained it wouldn’t be fair to wake her up at 5.30am to drop her to his parents before work and that’s why he does it the way he does and she’s now saying she’s stopping the Tuesday contact. He’s going to call the courts tomorrow as she’s breaking the court order but can anyone offer any advice or has anyone been through similar?